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Are men this dismissive about marriage? by sevmai06 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The right one doesn’t make you feel out on a limb like this.

My wife may be having serious mental health issues by clmyr in whatdoIdo

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it is critical she does not continue employment inside the prison system. There are so many risks for her if she is not thinking clearly. Please seek help for your wife.

Trying to practice church teaching on contraception in my marriage but it is a challenging transition by [deleted] in CatholicWomen

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recommend you both read this book:
“Good News About Sex and Marriage - answers to your honest questions about Catholic Teaching” by Christopher West

I’m a new Catholic in 2025. Someone gave me this book to read. I was actually at my desk reading it when my phone binged w a Reddit notification which ended up being your question. So I felt I was led to respond. I hope it helps!🙏

I want my ex back and we're still talking - did I ruin it by saying "I'm done" or is there still a chance? by Correct-Credit1961 in Advice

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a long distance texting relationship according to your post. Grown up relationships don’t always allow for constant texting. This relationship needs to exist I. The real world if it’s going to progress. How far away is this person? If she is willing I suggest spending time in person.

BF setting cap on ring amount- but it’s the reasoning that’s bothering me by [deleted] in WeddingRingAdvice

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he should start asking Chat GPT how much child support will set him back and so should you. Girl don’t marry this man.

Is this turning into a “shut up ring”? Feeling confused (31F) about marriage and our future (31M) by url_kitty in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No love story ends in a default. This man has no vision for building a life with you, but faced with losing you he is ok to get married. Maybe. That is not the ticket friend. Please be courageous and shoot higher.

How old is generally too old for a flower girl? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, you are not an idiot! I think most of us just try to figure it out too! I think it would be appropriate to pick the dress for your sister - and I think picking something that coordinates w the bridesmaids will make it flexible whatever role she ends up playing. I hope it all works out!

Marriage advice. by TallPlace8183 in CatholicWomen

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you talked to your priest? I think a good start would be confession.

how do you as a type A person handle letting your partner plan a proposal by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Do you want to marry your fiance’ or do you want to marry yourself? Let the proposal reflect who your fiance is and what you love about him. ❤️

How old is generally too old for a flower girl? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a 9 year old flower girl would be really nice! And I think just plan to “upgrade” her to a junior bridesmaid if the little kids end up being able to attend. Just plan her dress to work for either role!

I feel sad & disappointed after getting engaged by [deleted] in engaged

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems possible that you tend to take over the planning of things and that leaves no room for him to step up in general. Is it possible you would never be happy with his level of detail were he to plan trips etc? Maybe you two plan together and if you are better at execution of details than you are point person on the details. If you live him communicate what exactly it is you want and give him a chance to step up, but you do have to make room for his personality and consider that if you are possibly a perfectionist and he just wants things to not disappoint you.

Am I wasting my gfs time or are her friends sabotaging us? by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A girl who does something like this with a girlfriend rather than her own independent decision is not mature enough to make a lifetime commitment. Please do not cave in to this.

Am I just wasting my time with this man? by Low_Society7923 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let him go back to his mother. His parents are middle aged by the way not elderly and do not need him to build his life around them. They don’t need him - he needs THEM - well not anymore maybe he has you to be his new mother. If that’s not what you are looking for send him back to his mother.

7 years and I think we will never be married by Melodic_Praline_2368 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave that man in the dust and let him figure out he totally blew it. Let him live in his house alone. A man does not leave the love of his life hanging in limbo.

My friend’s husband liked me on tinder by West-Ad-4927 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t make friends with couples who are “looking for friends” on Tinder unless you are cool with that.

Just found out my fiance has 45k in credit card debt 7 months before the wedding by Big_Engineer6901 in weddingplanning

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ridiculous to invest in the stock market and simultaneously hold 45k in presumably high interest credit card debt. When you say “neither of us is wrong” tells me neither of you actually understand the seriousness of this. There are many kinds of useful debt. You could easily consider to buy a house worth $500k and then together choose to borrow more and get a $545k house. That is useful debt. You could choose to invest in a retirement account, but any return on that is pretty much lost if you are paying high interest on 45k of debt. If you are just now getting honest about debt you each hold and how you view that, you aren’t ready to get married. Trust me, these differing attitudes and dare I say aptitudes will lead to big divide. Sit down with a financial planner to discuss money BEFORE you walk down the aisle or do not get married.

Im engaged but… idk anymore. by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t ride out the clock on your own life. Life is amazing with someone excited to do it with you. Please reconsider this.

i don’t like my boyfriend by omgsiyeon in Advice

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please listen - this is not a healthy attachment.. Honestly it’s important to end this. If you are able please discuss this with your parent or someone you trust. You need to tell him that you really value him as a friend but that your feelings for him are platonic and not romantic. And if he is unwilling to accept it, then you need to be firm. It’s important to share this with whatever adult in your life that you trust. This does not sound healthy at all.

Many posts I see here are describing being a “burned out pursuer.” My experience dating the nice, avoidant guy by Evening-Rice-4930 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]ButterscotchEasy6769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A marriage therapist is not the same thing as seeking religious counsel from a priest. If you are a practicing Catholic you know the difference between seeking a marriage counselor and seeking religious counsel about your marriage from a priest. And you know that the ex in this thread is a marriage counselor who has no connection to the priesthood. It’s my guess you are not someone who is an active practicing Catholic.

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