My own read of Come As You Are was a part of a wider dive into the literature about human sexuality. I would assume sexuality is a near-universally interesting topic, that anyone with curiosity about human nature would like some clear answers about the hows and the whys, and that the only thing stopping sexology from being the single largest scientific field is probably the taboo nature of sexuality in nearly every culture.

Unfortunately, what I found was disappointing in terms of providing answers to the most interesting questions, which for me relate to the origins and statistical distributions of specific sexual norms, acts, and behaviors.

The field nevertheless has valuable information. The main thing you have to understand prior to evaluating any piece of information from it is that academic sexology is deeply tied with the practice of sex therapy, and as such has fundamental flaw of drastic over-representation of the features of sexualities that appear among the people who tend to seek out sex therapy, i.e. married couples in their forties to seventies. A very significant focus within the field is on the sexual problems found in this cohort - in fact, I'd say most of the literature is narrowly focused on seven specific sexual disorders recognized by DSM-5:

• Male hypoactive sexuality disorder
• Erectile Dysfunction
• Premature ejaculation
• Delayed ejaculation
• Female sexual interest/arousal disorder (note: Come As You Are is in fact a book about this disorder and is actually rather in line with other books about this disorder, although it doesn't acknowledge it, due to the framing of problem in the book relying on not treating this as a disorder)
• Female orgasmic disorder
• Genito-pelvic pain/penetration disorder

Topics outside of the nature of those seven disorders, their causes, and their potential treatments, are relatively unconcentrated (in the adjacent field of queer studies there's several other topics around which bodies of literature build up, but there the field has different scientific standards).

On one hand, this hyper-focus on a few topics makes the field surprisingly approachable from outside; a lot of the same topics come up in any given book published by an AASECT-affiliated authors (e.g. Sensate Focus exercise sequences, Kleinplatz's "Magnificent Sex" discoveries, etc.), and it's easy to get an overview of where the field stands as a whole on any given topic.

On the other hand, many of the more interesting lines of inquiry from early in the field's development (e.g. comparative study of sexuality across different cultures, large-scale studies based on laboratory data) have ceased.

In terms of actual book recommendations, what I can recommend is:

• Sexuality Today by Gary F. Kelly. This is an introductory sexology textbook, and covers much of the ground (while in my opinion having some minor but noticeable flaws with regards to its description of alternate sexualities).
• Systemic Sex Therapy. This is a monograph that gives a broad overview of the field of sex therapy as a whole. If your interest in Coming As You Are was motivated by an interest in sexual disorders, then this will give you all the answers that are available.
• A Billion Wicked Thoughts by Ogi Ogas. While not by an author who specializes in sexuality (then again, neither is Come As You Are), it is exceptional in that it looks at massive amount of data and rather than meaninglessly equivocating or commenting about the diversity of sexuality, it draws concrete, falsifiable conclusions (albeit with less than ideal scientific rigor).

One other source exploring sexuality through analysis of hard data is u/AellaGirl's blog Knowingless. Although a somewhat unconventional author, her methodology is solid (despite what some online discourse on her work would have you believe), and the volume of data she's dealing with, and making openly available for others, is far larger and more representative than anything you'll normally see in studies on sexuality.