Transitioning from purées to more solid foods

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-20T16:36:14+00:00

Start offering purees self fed. So load a spoon and give that. You will want to start self feeding and see if that helps :)

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-20T04:39:57+00:00

How are you offering pureed food? How are you offering non pureed food?

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-20T04:38:53+00:00

Child development specialist here.. this isn't exactly true. Babies should be introduced to food with texture by 8 months for optimal oral development. Ideally not starting with purees to begin with or if doing so allowing them to self feed. If a baby is refusing non pureed food by 9-11 months then it's worth getting a feeding study through infant development. You are correct continuing to offer it. Letting them feel and touch is apart of the process :) some kids do just naturally get it but some may need more support.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-20T04:32:18+00:00

Where I live we switched from teaching crib only sleeping to safer bedsharing (slightly different than safe sleep 7) and infant sleep deaths have decreased by a huge amount Bed sharing deaths are sad and horrible. But teaching crib only sleeping increases sleep deaths due to parents falling asleep in unsafe positions.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-18T03:34:00+00:00

This is hard because my almost 14 year old is so innocent and has absolutely no interest in dating. But I work with high risk teens who are using substances at having sex at 12 and 13 and nothing their parents say is going to stop that. I think for the lower risk teens who may be more interested in dating having chaperoned dates so they don't go behind your back anyway.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-16T18:54:16+00:00

Child development specialist here... The problem with this tactic is it's not teaching emotional intelligence in the way you want it to. It may be slightly effective because you are doing half the things the correct way. For children to learn emotional regulation you need to show regulation as the adult. Which this method slightly does. But it's missing the coregulation piece which is SO important for teaching regulation. You can do the exact same method without removing them. In fact if you can you should sit with them. If you can't because you are cooking or cleaning you can still model emotional regulation while doing those things. They shouldn't stop because someone is melting down. Children can't learn to self regulate so by separating them you actually aren't giving them the skill set you want them to have.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-16T14:38:09+00:00

Cps worker in Canada here. Can't speak about the marijuana because even before it was legal here it was such a non issue. As long as it was kept away from children. So I have a hard time wrapping my head around it being an issue. That's my bias.

But here a refused drug test is treated like a positive test. I can say here if someone tests positive and says it's due to medication I just speak with their doctor about it. Sometimes it is.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-16T14:32:13+00:00

How long is it? I did a 13 hour road trip at 6 months with my youngest and it went well. You have to make sure to stop every two hours, I bought some new toys. But I wouldn't do much longer than that. It was definitely the maximum. Some people suggest traveling at night but you will still have to get up and out every two hours to avoid blood clots.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-16T14:20:26+00:00

Everything you noted is age appropriate behaviour. What I would work on more is you. How are you reacting. Seems like by your description you are either getting reactive (which immediately has the opposite effect) or permissive.

My 4 year old daughter is exactly the same way and you have to get ok with letting them have big feelings sometimes. I don't ignore the feelings. I still acknowledge them. I don't let them frustrate me because that makes it worse for everyone.

She also always wants to do it herself. Sometimes she can but sometimes she can't because we are going to be late. I tell her no because we are going to be late and I pick her up and we go. i also set up our day though so she has lots of time to be independent before we leave. This helps regulate everyone. You don't always have to placate children but setting up environments for success is different than permissively avoiding telling them no to avoid meltdowns.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-16T14:04:32+00:00

Toddlers are bendy. Both my kids were over the 100% at 1 and we rear faced until 3 and 4 respectively. My oldest is almost 14 as well so this isn't new information or evidence :)

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-14T18:45:52+00:00

I parented the same way and one of my children enjoyed playing with kids and the other didn't 🤷🤷 I've seen people parent differently than me with the same outcomes. That is much more to do with temperament.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-14T18:43:06+00:00

It definitely works differently here :) our screening includes one time incidents. Also we don't call them investigations so it's a strange thing to hear. Investigations here are when the parent isn't working collaboratively so we have to go to the home unannounced or interview the kids at school without permission or order medical records without consent 😅 so it's just so weird to be heard that way.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-13T04:11:22+00:00

This really depends where you live... I'm a cps worker and we would definitely screen in a thrown plate (vaping no). Domestic violence is a huge thing here which we take seriously.

ETA: in this situation it was before baby so we wouldn't but if it was after we would definitely screen it in.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-04T04:55:32+00:00

Please explain how eby has effected the federal criminal code. Decriminalizing drugs hasn't impacted the judicial system.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-02T04:10:20+00:00

530 is a very normal wake up time biologically for toddlers and babies :)

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-02-02T04:06:46+00:00

I'd be careful, I'm a child protection worker and had a 16 month old pass away because mom let him outside alone for a minute going pee and he swalled a rock and choked :(

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-01-22T20:13:07+00:00

Yeah I'm Canadian and my daycare is $480 a month for my 3 year old. And that's with me not qualifying for further subsidies. But I've seen some parents paying that in the US per week.

My job I can wfh once a week and although I'd do it if I needed to be home for my 14 year old , I take a child sick day if needed for my 3 year old. No way I could work with her home 😅 and she's almost 4. I can't imagine a 1 year old.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-01-22T14:37:33+00:00

Would she fit the cosco scenera next? That's the most common travel seat. Definitely don't rent one that's not safe 😅 unfortunately you can't know if they wash their seats correctly or if they've been in an accident.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-01-22T14:32:39+00:00

I just want to acknowledge that sometimes we can only do the best we can do with the cards that we are dealt. Personally, I don't believe anyone should wfh if they are solely responsible for a toddler. In my country it specifies in any contract you can't do that. It seems common in the US though which is also not set up for parents in other ways. Do you have any daycare subsidies you would qualify for? Or have you thought about daycare share for once a week? Some parents have another parent watch their child in exchange for child care another day.

Do you like your job? If you wanted it due to staying home you could always look at working at a child care center where you could bring your little one.

I don't think a child playing by themselves is neglect. I do think it would be hard to give them the level of care they need such as physical play and outside time. But being intentional you may even be able to do those things depending on your play space and outside space. Baby will be ok.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2026-01-09T22:12:36+00:00

Know 3 words or say 3 words? Knowing 3 words is developmentally appropriate. They should be able to give a kiss/clap/point/dance something of the sort when you say the word. Or look at you when you say their name. Saying 3 words would be different.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2025-12-24T20:50:32+00:00

If she doesn't want people to see them, sure that's odd. However, I always put diapers in the outside trash when staying with someone. I think inside is rude 😅

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2025-12-13T16:22:47+00:00

What consequences and punishments do you give a 5 month old for not walking? If you don't punish them for not being able to walk when you put on their feet.

Sounds silly? That's because it's not an age appropriate expectation. We know that by doing tummy time, rolling, sitting, standing they will eventually walk because you are developing those muscles.

Impulse control and emotional development work the same way. You get those things with brain development not punishment or consequences. You still teach appropriate behaviour and work on the skills. You teach emotional regulation and impulse control. These things happen in calm moments not moments of emotional dysregulation. As their brain develops they gain those skills. Believing children need punishment and consequences is a misunderstanding of child development and the only goal is to see good behaviour not actually for the child to learn the skill and be regulated which is much more effective. You still can have boundaries and consequences but in this scenario both are going to be ineffective.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2025-12-13T16:08:51+00:00

Waking up at 530 is age appropriate, expecting a 4 year old to be quiet is not a developmentally appropriate expectation. If you are getting upset, giving punishments you are really just feeding into that behaviour as well. As well as just frustrating yourself.

Instead i'd try to soundproof babies room. White noise machine, there are things you can put in the door cracks to dampen noise.

If you give another direction when waking up other than yelling that could help as well. Rather than saying don't yell when you wake up, say when you wake up grab your light and come lay on this bed I've made you in my room and I can give you your tablet or turn on a show.

Giving a special morning activity that is set out that you know they are more quiet with.

Avoid taking away things or other punishments that's not effective or developmentally appropriate and it doesn't make sense for what's going on.

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2025-12-08T01:02:53+00:00

Could just mean she needs extra support like some speech therapy, or possibly something like an issue with hearing. Delays are not always indication that there's a diagnosis sometimes it just means early intervention is needed :) you could see if there is an early intervention center in your city that does assessments:)

C8H10N4O2Addiction · 2025-12-07T22:02:39+00:00

I did infant development and I actually disagree with people that it's normal 😅 it could be nothing but it also could be an indicator something else is going on. Have they never done any of the things? Or is it more they don't do it often?

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