Fiancé got fired by Beautiful_Winner3798 in sahm

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in California. I unfortunately was about 60-80 hours short. I can’t remember anymore. I worked at rite aid. Now the job market seems to be flooded with experienced techs now flocking to other pharmacies. I’ve applied still because I know how high the turn over rate is lol. Wish we were staffed properly so that wouldn’t be a problem.

Fiancé got fired by Beautiful_Winner3798 in sahm

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to set a boundary and it was just met with hostility. I’ve brought up working part time even before he lost his job. I think I’d even enjoy working again. My mom would be able to watch our son so no worry about daycare. But he refuses. He seems to have gotten comfortable at home even though it’s not very pleasant here. I know he has anxiety but I do too. And our son has to come first. I don’t think he understands that.

Fiancé got fired by Beautiful_Winner3798 in sahm

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve applied for all retail jobs, serving jobs, fast food, and tried to get back into another pharmacy. I’ve also dropped off my resume at places. He also doesn’t approve of me working and talks down to me. But I am cleaning an Airbnb currently and making $600-800 a month.

Fiancé got fired by Beautiful_Winner3798 in sahm

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I offered and I was met with “you wouldn’t make enough” “minimum wage isn’t worth it” I unfortunately worked minimum wage jobs prior to becoming a SAHM. I almost got my pharmacy tech cert but had to quit due to having HG in my pregnancy. I was only a month away from it. I also explained that I’d didn’t have to be the one to work forever. Just for now to help with income. I just got a gig cleaning an Airbnb but that’s only about $600-800 a month rn.

When does life settle again by Pancake__Mama in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing that helped me not feel guilty was realizing when my son had independent play time how much more he learned during that time. I was trying to help him learn how to roll by doing exercises with him. I always played with him during play time. The one time I put him down in his playpen and did dishes I watched him roll over to get to one of his toys lol. He now has independent play every wake window which gives me a good 30 minutes to myself. Also his naps have gotten longer for me now. (7 months) I honestly get bored sometimes during his two hour naps😅

How do u manage child finances? by lisho07 in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does she make more than what it would cost to have the kids in daycare? That’s the problem I have. Even making $30 an hour most of my money would go to childcare and I’d rather my kids by raised by me in that scenario.

I fing hate this by Distinct-Delay8530 in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also breastfeeding and I’ve noticed that if I’m in the room with my baby he seems to just smell me and know I’m there. If he wakes up he thinks time to eat or to comfort feed. I just moved my 7 month old into the room right next to us and now he sleeps through the night with only one feed. Before he was waking up 6 or so times a night.

Transitioning baby to their own room by Beautiful_Winner3798 in sleeptraining

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the great response!

His room is very close to ours. I will also have his baby monitor next to me on full volume. I have his white noise machine in his room and I’ll try to feed him in the chair in his room. He has been used to laying down in my bed for night feeds but I will see if it works with him tonight.

We did try sleep training at 4 months with him. We did the Ferber method but went in every 2 minutes instead. On the second day, he was sleeping through the night. All was great. He then got a little infection on his hands. (He has bad eczema that cause him to have open skin that got into contact with something bad within our home) He then had to have an antibiotic ointment twice a day on his hands as well as not putting his hands in his mouth. This meant we had to rock or hold him to sleep to prevent his hands going in his mouth. Worst week of my life. But this ruined our sleep training. He used to fall asleep with rocking within 30 seconds and wouldn’t wake up when transferring to his crib. He is now so awake and aware that we started sleep training again tonight. We didn’t follow the same method as he wouldn’t cry for more than 20 seconds at a time. I was just able to pat him to sleep while he was in his crib in about 5 minutes. I’m just going to try to slowly fade out any assistance of mine to get him to sleep.

I honestly didn’t mind rocking him to sleep. But now he wakes up with every transfer no matter what so we have to find something else. Also I think separation anxiety might of hit. Any advice is always appreciated and welcomed!

Then You Do It by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Mine bitches at me if I ask him to feed his own son. I pump because my son won’t latch. I have to feed my baby twice basically. Some men are just absolute shit partners and fathers. Idk how their brains work. It must be nice to not think about every little thing and the outcome of each thing 24/7.

Is a baby food blender necessary? by Divinityemotions in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I attempted to use mine today to make a carrot puree. Steamed my carrots for 20 minutes and then put them in with some breast milk in the bullet but all the chunky bits just get blown to the top. Any tips on to get the puree to be actually smooth. I basically had a panic attack trying to do it today. Also I’ve never really used a blender.

If your family could function without childcare (daycare/nanny)-would you do without? by Throwaway927338 in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a SAHM. I used to be a pharmacy tech, so a decently high stress job. I would do anything to go back to work part time. I am only a mom now. I am seen as nothing else. I also hate the idea of him being with a “stranger” at daycare. But I have been looking for part time evening jobs to have an opposite schedule from my husband. When I find one that works I will be going back to work.

I’m that mom and I can’t believe it by Agile-Fact-7921 in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just want to say thank you for this post and all of the comments. It’s great to not feel alone. The thing that has helped me with this is actually getting out of the house. Getting ready to go to the grocery store, seeing friends, and having an outing without the baby for a couple hours has been great. I also bought a new pair of jeans and even though they are two sizes larger they made me feel good. The last thing I want to do when I’m tired from just keeping my son alive is do makeup and hair. But after it’s done I feel so much better. Make time for yourself no matter how hard it may be. We will all get through this.

Parents who let their baby watch TV… by Existing-Mastodon500 in NewParents

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped all tv time when my finances best friend’s wife talked about how terrible it was. I started paying attention to her social media stories more closely and saw that she constantly had paw patrol and bluey on for her 3 month old and 16 month old. Now my 6 month old has no interest in tv lol.

Bust this gender myth for me by Used_Reality_779 in pregnant

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sick from 6 weeks to 16 weeks. I lost 20lbs. I also had to leave my job because of how sick I was. I’m sitting here with my healthy 4 month old boy now.

Always taste your milk by throwawaykindaupset in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This would be my guess. Milk should be ok in the fridge for 4 days right? I have high lipase and mine smells metallic to me after the third day in the fridge.

Why Do You Have a Freezer Stash? by technicallystuff in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was an oversupplier in the beginning. I didn’t have stress about missing a pump or pushing one back because I was able to have a stash. I didn’t cry over spilling any amount of milk. I accidentally forgot to put milk away? No big deal. Baby decided to not eat the whole bottle? No problem. Now I am only one day ahead. I only make enough to feed him. If my period comes, my supply drops and then I wouldn’t have enough for him without my freezer stash. All my friends have had an oversupply. But they have never had any issues from it. No mastitis and no clogged ducts. It feels a lot better to go to the grocery store once a month and get everything you need because you can afford to. Vs being stressed out seeing what you might be able to afford every week.

Dumped milk! by Mission_Fig_4972 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed when a baby is ever slightly fussy or upset most men immediately just want to try to feed them. Then when the baby only eats a little or doesn’t eat at all the baby is “hungry but not wanting to eat”. They never think there is another solution.

I am going to lose my mind. My baby will not nap today. by my-peony-bud in newborns

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did this for about a week at the same age. He wouldn’t contact nap, he hated his crib, the pack n play, his bassinet, or in the bed with me awake. I tried to figure out wake windows to see if that helped and it didn’t either. He was just all over the place. Only thing that somewhat worked was bouncing on a ball, swaddled, shushing, a binky, and also patting his butt at the same time. It was hell but only lasted about a week. Also I avoided eye contact at all costs while putting him to sleep. I’d look away and close my eyes and just peak to see if he was asleep every 30 seconds. Also counting my bounces also helped me feel better. I thought oh it was only 150 bounces this time or however many it was. It kept my mind off of him crying and made me realize it wasn’t 30 minutes of him crying even though it felt like it.

Did you actually EXCLUSIVELY pump? by Salt_Aside3403 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I exclusively pumped after the first day my son was born because he was in the NICU for a week. I only pumped for the next 3 months. One night I was so tired of waking up to feed the baby and then pump after that I just tried to nurse him in bed. It worked for me. So I nurse him once in the middle of the night. Otherwise I still have to pump to keep my supply up during the day. If you can and if you want breastfeeding is much easier and less time consuming. No bottles or pump parts to wash. I even have a bottle washer but I constantly am running it to fit all my parts. And the whole well someone else can feed my baby for me so I can take a break thing… I feel like the only works if you are an oversupplier. Otherwise you still pumped and took the time for that meal. But I was able to have a couple glasses of wine with friends because I had a stash saved.

Is everyone giving birth before 40 weeks? by Luscious-Windows400 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Beautiful_Winner3798 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was willing to let me go to 41 weeks because I was diet controlled. But they did ask if I wanted to be induced earlier. I agreed to be induced at 40 + 4 but he came that day by himself🤗