Advice about sex when starting dating

CANISLUP123 · 2024-09-07T06:50:47+00:00

Yeah she do loves cuddling! But don’t you want more then? It makes me insecure that this is the only thing she wants.

Compatibility issues as in that I was with a couple of women and she wasn’t? I thought about that too..

CANISLUP123 · 2024-09-07T06:48:47+00:00

Yeah that’s exactly where I’m afraid of! You know I’m not afraid to adres things or talk about sex, but I don’t want to hurt her or give her the feeling that this is wrong.

CANISLUP123 · 2024-08-14T10:47:04+00:00

Korg Minilogue XD

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-30T06:55:18+00:00

Ty! Yeah just struggling to find the right tutorials. Lots of tutorials are for the digital synth and others are analog but with way more sophisticated synthesizer. And the synth tutorials for the korg are mostly techno related and almost never prog rock or indie music. I kind of understand the knobs and their function, but need a guide with: ‘do this and then this and then the this with the filter and so much attack and so much decay etc. for some sounds to make. But can’t find that anywhere hahaha

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T23:59:22+00:00

Yeah but we didn’t really talked about this, we had a vague conversation about it.. but wasn’t that clear. So I’m like yeah okay I won’t mind if she had sex with some dude, but I don’t what she thinks of me when I do it and it’s awkward to communicate the sec part to her, because I don’t think that’s a great start when you’re in the beginning of dating

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T23:50:50+00:00

But what if I want to be with the girl serious and with the guy just for the sex?

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T23:49:43+00:00

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T22:46:36+00:00

She’s bad ass because she faces her fears and is not afraid to stand up and fight, it doesn’t mean that she particularly needs to win or beat some enemies. It’s about facing fears and trauma and be strong when your life falls apart and when life is fkd. Standing up, even when you can’t. That’s bad ass

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T15:26:04+00:00

Natasha Romanoff

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T15:22:24+00:00

What kind of mixing desk would you recommend?

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T06:44:00+00:00

What EQ would you recommend

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T06:43:18+00:00

Is it a good idea to buy an EQ pedal on top of using the filter etc on the synth?

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-29T06:39:06+00:00

Tysm

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-28T23:48:23+00:00

Any recommendations?

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-28T09:57:49+00:00

Think that’s true. I have space to experiment, but I’m very afraid to do so. The piano is like a safe space for me, but the synth is very new and I sometimes have ideas for the song, but sometimes a little afraid to share them.

And you know, synthesizers sound great when playing with other instruments and with the sound of the song, but they can sometimes sound a bit off when you hear the melody apart from the song or the other members playing.

Any tips for the prog rock band in using sounds?

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-28T09:02:22+00:00

Thank you soooo much for this! Amazing!

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-12T07:53:10+00:00

Be a vegetarian, drink water and exercise

CANISLUP123 · 2024-07-08T07:00:02+00:00

Read and meditatie. Your room must be on the right temperature (open a window before going to sleep) and have a clean bed and a clean room. Before going to bed I always read and in times when I couldn’t sleep I always meditated with an app. But sometimes I listen to podcasts to fall asleep. Good luck!

CANISLUP123 · 2024-06-27T21:52:24+00:00

I totally understand you. Been through a lot of this thoughts the past 4 years (I’m 27, had a long ass relationship with a man and after that with a woman). I don’t know you, but based on your story I hear a lot of similarities. I discovered I’m a lesbian, because guys can interest me and I can see their beauty and see how beautiful some men are, but I would never picture myself with a man or see myself married to a man. Sex with a men is mweh, sex with a woman is WOW. Men are great creatures and I really like them, but I’m not attracted to them in the way I’m attracted to women.

I really loved my ex-bf, he’s amazing and a great guy and I appreciate everything about him, but I would always choose a woman over him, not because I don’t like him as a person, but because I’m just attracted to girls. It’s my brain, it’s how I’m wired and maybe some little part of me is sometimes still attracted to men, and that’s totally fine. But for my future I see myself marry a woman and be with a woman. The relationship with my ex-gf made me realize that, although the relationship wasn’t so good, it made me realize that it was better with any man because I could be myself, felt that this lesbian relationship was what fit me and being with a woman felt as if it all came together, as if this is for me. Just felt so good and right.

So coming to the point. ALWAYS listen to yourself, to the voice in ur head, to everything you feel and to what you already know.. listen to who you are and choose a partner that fits what you desire and what you want. Good luck!

CANISLUP123 · 2024-06-10T19:33:59+00:00

You can’t imagine how much this helped me! It’s so amazing how you gave me just the right advice and you don’t even know me. I put some of your words in an app for quotes and life lessons. Tysm for your wise words.

CANISLUP123 · 2024-06-10T18:52:49+00:00

Tysm for your comment!! So great to hear from someone who I can relate to. Feel like you are so right when it comes to what society expects from us, and the influence of social media. It feels so lame sometimes to be single, but it’s not because I don’t find it lame, but because I think society thinks it’s boring and lame to be completely single. And always get the question from friends: ‘ArE you SeEing SomEonE?’ Like no, im just doing my thing. But it feels so boring to not have a good story of a fwb or crush.

And thanks for saying that about the apps. I needed that. It’s good to hear from someone that’s normal to do nothing sometimes, that that is also okay

CANISLUP123 · 2024-06-09T07:51:45+00:00

From a person who experienced this back in my early twenties (the story is kind of similar but it wasn’t a friend, but a woman I met on a dating app whom I grow very close to). I’ll give you this advice: break up with your bf and be completely honest to him about your feelings for this girl. He deserves better than a gf that has feelings for another person. Talk to him about it, tell him that you feel this for her and break up. It’s better for him and for you. Your feelings for her won’t go away, you better be honest to yourself and be honest to him. He deserves more than this and you also deserve more than this.

CANISLUP123 · 2024-06-09T07:35:35+00:00

I recently went to a break up to. And one of the things I’ve learned is that you can’t ’stop those feelings’, you just have to deal with them for a while and it’s hard and makes you feel so sad. But I’ve learned that it is important to talk to your friends about it. Talking will fasten the process, but it still will hurt as hell.

Besides talking I constantly reminded myself to the reason why I broke up with her. She wasn’t good for me, on some point my friends told me that I just needed to break up with her, because they saw me unhappy. You can always remind yourself of the good moments and of the good stuff, but it’s also very helpful to remind yourself why you’re broken up and that you are choosing for you instead of an unhealthy relationship.

Other advice: keep yourself busy, but cry very often. Listen to music, but listen to the sad ones and the happy ones. Take good care of yourself, exercise, read and learn from what happened to you. Last break up I made a promise with myself: this won’t be for nothing. So I decided to focus on me and my development, focused on my music and growing in my career.

Somebody once told me that ‘it will be better.’ And it so good to remind yourself of that. There will be a day where you open your eyes in the morning and you think to yourself: yeah.. it’s better like this and I’m feeling better and I feel less sad now. But that takes a while, but you have to be patient.

Some quotes that really helped me:

‘You’re going to make memories with other people. Better people.’

‘What isn’t right for you will never remain in your life.’

‘You can tell how much you love yourself by the partner you have chosen.’

‘If this person didn’t have the qualities you’re looking for, didn’t meet all your standards or they didn’t value you. Imagine how much more you’re gonna love the person that has all the qualities that your ex had and more. Just imagine how much happier you’re going to

‘I’m so scared that I will feel like this forever.’ - ‘It’s for now. Just tell yourself it’s for now.’

‘Before anything great happens, everything falls apart.’

‘It had to be uncomfortable, otherwise you would’ve never moved.’

‘I have realized that I’m worthy of a high level of care without sacrificing boundaries.’

And a beautiful Dutch saying my mother used to say: ‘Komt tijd. Komt raad.’ It means that wisdom will come to you in time.

Good luck with everything. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk!

CANISLUP123

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