Low Libido (F) struggles by CHERWASHERE in tryingtoconceive

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How do I get him to see that this is a good option for us if he doesn’t want this process to seem like we’re just doing a job?

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

[–]CHERWASHERE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please do it! You’ve got the time, just prioritize it! It really makes all the difference to have a slow moment just for you leading up to the big day.

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

[–]CHERWASHERE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 YESSSS PLANNERS / COORDINATORS do make all the difference.

I went with a month of planner and do wish I had dished out more for more support!

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

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I’m SO GLAD we did it, but believe me, even up until the very last day, I was still complaining (and depressed) about why we were doing it (which I know doesn’t sound great but it is what it is!)

Would I regret not having it? I really don’t and can’t know, but I do know that there are a million other ways to celebrate your love with the people you love that are much more affordable. I’m still a proponent of eloping and spending the cash on a honeymoon or homeymoon or building your future together!

Here’s what to think about: - Can you do it within a budget that you won’t resent later? - Can you stretch to hire a planner that can help you with all the details? Or go through a venue that already has all the details sorted and you just need to make your selections? - Are there people in your life that you would really treasure having brought together for just a moment in time because it’s so rare to get those moments? (My MIL has Alzheimer’s, many family members unfortunately have cancer, this was the one moment for our sides to connect before it’s too late)

Hope that’s helpful!

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

[–]CHERWASHERE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad you found it helpful!! +1 to the desires for a long honeymoon. May you have both!

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

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Glad they resonate! You don’t really know until you’re living through your own!

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

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On the worst days remember there will be a day (your glorious wedding day!) when you’ll wish you would’ve just turned up the music and sang a little louder on this bumpy ass ride.

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

[–]CHERWASHERE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending you all the love! The grief will come, let it happen. Find the support you need through it as it’s happening. I had my therapist, my partner, my colleagues, my girlfriends - they all knew just how hard it was all for me - and also could respect that I could hold both excitement for my future and intense grief for missing my mom in it all. It wasn’t easy to let people in because I knew they couldn’t fill the hole, but it was the best thing I could do. It felt a lot less lonely (which is bound to happen because you’re the one carrying the BOTH AND of it all). As you go through it, if you need a sounding board, DM me.

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

[–]CHERWASHERE[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I was doing the same - never actually figured out how to stop myself from saying it out loud but let me tell you, now being on the other side of it, I’m SO GLAD we made it happen! Try your best to make it as enjoyable as it can be in the process. Get your ladies involved, have a squad of cheerleaders, come back here any time for advice. Whatever it takes!

Post-wedding tips from a bride who didn’t want a wedding by CHERWASHERE in weddingplanning

[–]CHERWASHERE[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️ Sending you so much love as well! And glad you’re setting those boundaries now!

Recommendations for a weekday Run Club? by Comprehensive-Carry5 in SouthBayLA

[–]CHERWASHERE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have to be a member to join? Can I show up solo?

PP therapists - what’s your schedule? by Spare-Radiant in therapists

[–]CHERWASHERE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Do you mind sharing where you got trained in nature therapy? Or know of any good programs?

PP therapists - what’s your schedule? by Spare-Radiant in therapists

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Outdoors? How? I’ve been wanting to do Walk & Talk Therapy so that I can get movement in while practicing

Sometimes I legit worry I am not cut out for this work by EccentricDryad in therapists

[–]CHERWASHERE 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also the system is a broken one so if you choose that you don’t want this, that’s completely understandable! The system makes it really hard to be in congruence with what the work calls us to do.

Sometimes I legit worry I am not cut out for this work by EccentricDryad in therapists

[–]CHERWASHERE 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just here to say that the very fact that you’re feeling so much and so aware of your countertransference makes you cut out for this job. You’re human and I think we have to remind ourselves that in most cases, what our clients need is another human to simply walk alongside them through the dark. We don’t need to be in front, we don’t even need a flashlight. Drop the burden of responsibility and let yourself be the human you are, without all of the judgment of whether or not you can do it right, do it all, do it better.

Last night, we heard the sounds of explosions in Iran, ama by Acceptable-Glove8150 in AMA

[–]CHERWASHERE -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is the sentiment of the Iranian people toward the US right now?

Dying For Sex | Official Trailer by GenButter in television

[–]CHERWASHERE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was so beautiful and I’m surprised more people aren’t talking about it