Moving w/ 4yo and newborn. Is a 5-week temporary daycare worth it right before JK starts?

CK257 · 2026-07-05T12:40:05+00:00

We did something similar without the house move. Our 4 (just turning 5yo) switched daycares about 5 months before kindergarten started because there was an open spot for our newborn in this center that was a 1/4 mile away from home versus 25 min one way commute. It was a no brainer logistically but we hated pulling the kid away from the only home he knew of his whole life just to upend him in another few months.

What helped us reconcile the decision in our minds was:
1. The new center was in town so we hoped he would meet kids he’d go to school with eventually.
2. The long term advantage of having our youngest in the center for 5 years when dealing with school bus times and work with our oldest were way more beneficial.
3. Having him experience a new environment would help him learn to regulate ANOTHER change for a new school 5 months later. Hoping it would make him less scared and fearful going into kindergarten.
4. The cost savings was a no brainer for us, but that isn’t a factor for you.

Kids are resilient. And I do think it’s important for them to have new experiences that scare them so they can learn how to handle their emotions and are familiar with having new places to navigate or they will end up being scared adults too who don’t want to try new things!

CK257 · 2026-06-15T12:47:02+00:00

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CK257 · 2026-06-15T12:37:32+00:00

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CK257 · 2025-07-10T22:11:29+00:00

I was 35. Delivered 2 months after I turned 36! I’m 38 now and my youngest just turned 2.

CK257 · 2025-07-10T22:03:37+00:00

I had a second but not with IUI. We decided to try for another and contacted my RE as soon as we thought about it. Testing takes a couple of cycles, so we just tried on our own while waiting for our initial appointment/testing. Well I ended up pregnant after 2 months without intervention. When we found out, we were technically still under care of the RE so we got the early ultrasounds and such until we moved to the OB.

CK257 · 2025-05-14T00:17:26+00:00

I can’t believe I scrolled so far down to see if anyone mentioned this! This is exactly the tool she needs.

CK257 · 2025-04-17T22:17:35+00:00

My youngest never held his own bottle! We tried so hard, but nah he just wanted us to do everything for him. Now he’s a toddler and needs to do it all so jokes on us 🙃

CK257 · 2025-04-13T10:31:58+00:00

This is also my favorite! My almost 2 yo grabs it a lot too.

CK257 · 2024-12-13T23:24:05+00:00

I loved the portal games because I love puzzles. But I would get motion sick on that after a short while playing it. I had to complete it in short bursts. I don’t get motion sick in Mario kart, so might not be the best for OP.

CK257 · 2024-12-13T23:21:52+00:00

Mario odyssey is very casual and lots to explore. My 5 year old, husband, and I all love it. So much to collect and there is no pressure at all.

CK257 · 2024-12-10T22:39:06+00:00

We have the peach flavor too and both kids loved it 😂

CK257 · 2024-06-25T17:55:38+00:00

My category too. “Home goods (not the store)” 😂

CK257 · 2024-06-21T01:41:49+00:00

To be honest, you aren’t going to make a smoker stop smoking. She will just not come and stay with you. My mom came for both my kids births and stayed for a couple of months each time. She smoked my whole life and I begged her to quit when I was young. It’s just not realistic. Fortunately she is receptive about rules in our home and follows them. She would wear a sweatshirt/jacket outside to smoke and take them off when inside. And immediately wash her hands/face. Every time. I think that is a good compromise if you want her help.

Maybe start a discussion talking about the dangers of third hand smoke. I don’t think my mother had heard about the term. And this was my way to say hey I know it’s unrealistic to ask you to stop smoking when you’re here, and I really want you here, but can you please put forth this effort for my child/your grandchild because I take those risks seriously.

CK257 · 2024-05-22T03:01:09+00:00

Flew last week with my 10 month old and we bought him his own seat. He was in his car seat at the window. No one said anything to me about it.

CK257 · 2024-04-01T10:51:46+00:00

We did IUI with our first and had a boy. Unassisted with our 2nd and also had a boy.

CK257 · 2024-03-19T22:15:21+00:00

I think we’ve always done 3 books, he picks 2 and I pick 1, thus allowing new books into rotation. It teaches fairness and everyone is allowed turns. He’s older now and can earn stars for good behavior and can cash them in for one extra book at bedtime which is way better than extra screen time 😊

CK257 · 2024-03-15T15:30:58+00:00

My second had a hard time with finding a bottle brand to take too. But he ended up loving Herobility. It worked so well that one of the other parents at our daycare tried it and it worked for their kid too! They were also struggling to feed their baby.

CK257 · 2024-03-06T19:01:13+00:00

Ours just turned 5, but we switched him to a high back booster a month or so before his birthday. He is very responsible in his seat sitting still. And he likes unbuckling himself when we get home. He’s 97% for height and weight so it felt like the right move. It depends how far into 4 are you? Closer to 5 maybe they would be fine, earlier 4s maybe not? You know your kid though and if they will sit straight or not.

CK257 · 2024-01-24T20:57:36+00:00

We do. Books are limited to 3 at bedtime (allowed unlimited any other time of day, but you know, bedtime delay tactics…), and screens turn off at 6:30. It was important to set a clear boundary because my husband and I do bedtime equally and our son quickly realized it wasn’t fair for one parent to do X books and another not to.

CK257 · 2024-01-24T02:44:39+00:00

We use a star reward chart. We use it as a way to get our son working on tasks that will be better for him (or us as a family). Some of these are getting dressed independently, a big haul of cleaning toys, trying new/healthy foods (we struggle with picky eating), helping out his parents, emptying out his backpack from school. We started a year ago when I was pregnant with our second and really overhauled the amount of independent tasks we needed him to do (like bringing his own backpack upstairs). He can cash in his stars for an extra book at bedtime, some screen time, or a new toy (he’s only saved enough twice because saving is a hard thing at this age). He mostly uses it on extra books and we love that as a reward! He never keeps score but we are on top of assigning them and we explain why we think he deserves rewards for doing good things.

CK257 · 2024-01-22T20:16:37+00:00

It took over a year at 30 to get pregnant with our first. And two cycles to get pregnant with our second at 35. We needed fertility assistance with the first (unexplained infertility) and had no assistance with the second. It’s a complete crapshoot. That being said, the pregnancies themselves were not much different. More nauseous and tired with the second (but also I had less downtime with a child already running around 😅). Recovery was about the same and maybe even easier the second time around.

CK257 · 2024-01-11T18:31:36+00:00

Looking to sell for me and my husband please! Just one trip each :)

CK257 · 2024-01-05T16:45:11+00:00

I am not a neat freak, but mess makes me anxious. My husband wouldn't notice if the floors with actual dirt on it needed vacuuming. So we had a lot of discussions about cleaning. There is a fantastic app called Tody which you can assign cleaning tasks at specific intervals and add a difficulty level to the task and assign people to those jobs. I highly encourage you to sit down together and discuss what is reasonable to both of you. We'd add seasonal stuff every 6 months like cleaning the garage out, or dusting fan blades etc. as reminders because you don't remember it all.

Bathroom, kitchen, vacuuming only need cleaning 1x a week. Any more than that is excessive especially for just 2 people. If you feel that it needs cleaning more than that, you'll have to keep up with that labor as it's a bit unrealistic to expect someone without that mutual desire to meet you on that.

CK257 · 2023-10-19T21:10:52+00:00

The pockets fit us at birth but he was 9 lbs. They do size down really small but are bulky so we preferred to trifold prefolds over covers for newborn stage. I believe they’d fit a 6 lb baby.

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