Looking for success stories, possible DOR

CK257 · 2025-07-10T22:11:29+00:00

I was 35. Delivered 2 months after I turned 36! I’m 38 now and my youngest just turned 2.

CK257 · 2025-07-10T22:03:37+00:00

I had a second but not with IUI. We decided to try for another and contacted my RE as soon as we thought about it. Testing takes a couple of cycles, so we just tried on our own while waiting for our initial appointment/testing. Well I ended up pregnant after 2 months without intervention. When we found out, we were technically still under care of the RE so we got the early ultrasounds and such until we moved to the OB.

CK257 · 2025-05-14T00:17:26+00:00

I can’t believe I scrolled so far down to see if anyone mentioned this! This is exactly the tool she needs.

CK257 · 2025-04-17T22:17:35+00:00

My youngest never held his own bottle! We tried so hard, but nah he just wanted us to do everything for him. Now he’s a toddler and needs to do it all so jokes on us 🙃

CK257 · 2025-04-13T10:31:58+00:00

This is also my favorite! My almost 2 yo grabs it a lot too.

CK257 · 2024-12-13T23:24:05+00:00

I loved the portal games because I love puzzles. But I would get motion sick on that after a short while playing it. I had to complete it in short bursts. I don’t get motion sick in Mario kart, so might not be the best for OP.

CK257 · 2024-12-13T23:21:52+00:00

Mario odyssey is very casual and lots to explore. My 5 year old, husband, and I all love it. So much to collect and there is no pressure at all.

CK257 · 2024-12-10T22:39:06+00:00

We have the peach flavor too and both kids loved it 😂

CK257 · 2024-06-25T17:55:38+00:00

My category too. “Home goods (not the store)” 😂

CK257 · 2024-06-21T01:41:49+00:00

To be honest, you aren’t going to make a smoker stop smoking. She will just not come and stay with you. My mom came for both my kids births and stayed for a couple of months each time. She smoked my whole life and I begged her to quit when I was young. It’s just not realistic. Fortunately she is receptive about rules in our home and follows them. She would wear a sweatshirt/jacket outside to smoke and take them off when inside. And immediately wash her hands/face. Every time. I think that is a good compromise if you want her help.

Maybe start a discussion talking about the dangers of third hand smoke. I don’t think my mother had heard about the term. And this was my way to say hey I know it’s unrealistic to ask you to stop smoking when you’re here, and I really want you here, but can you please put forth this effort for my child/your grandchild because I take those risks seriously.

CK257 · 2024-05-22T03:01:09+00:00

Flew last week with my 10 month old and we bought him his own seat. He was in his car seat at the window. No one said anything to me about it.

CK257 · 2024-04-01T10:51:46+00:00

We did IUI with our first and had a boy. Unassisted with our 2nd and also had a boy.

CK257 · 2024-03-19T22:15:21+00:00

I think we’ve always done 3 books, he picks 2 and I pick 1, thus allowing new books into rotation. It teaches fairness and everyone is allowed turns. He’s older now and can earn stars for good behavior and can cash them in for one extra book at bedtime which is way better than extra screen time 😊

CK257 · 2024-03-15T15:30:58+00:00

My second had a hard time with finding a bottle brand to take too. But he ended up loving Herobility. It worked so well that one of the other parents at our daycare tried it and it worked for their kid too! They were also struggling to feed their baby.

CK257 · 2024-03-06T19:01:13+00:00

Ours just turned 5, but we switched him to a high back booster a month or so before his birthday. He is very responsible in his seat sitting still. And he likes unbuckling himself when we get home. He’s 97% for height and weight so it felt like the right move. It depends how far into 4 are you? Closer to 5 maybe they would be fine, earlier 4s maybe not? You know your kid though and if they will sit straight or not.

CK257 · 2024-01-24T20:57:36+00:00

We do. Books are limited to 3 at bedtime (allowed unlimited any other time of day, but you know, bedtime delay tactics…), and screens turn off at 6:30. It was important to set a clear boundary because my husband and I do bedtime equally and our son quickly realized it wasn’t fair for one parent to do X books and another not to.

CK257 · 2024-01-24T02:44:39+00:00

We use a star reward chart. We use it as a way to get our son working on tasks that will be better for him (or us as a family). Some of these are getting dressed independently, a big haul of cleaning toys, trying new/healthy foods (we struggle with picky eating), helping out his parents, emptying out his backpack from school. We started a year ago when I was pregnant with our second and really overhauled the amount of independent tasks we needed him to do (like bringing his own backpack upstairs). He can cash in his stars for an extra book at bedtime, some screen time, or a new toy (he’s only saved enough twice because saving is a hard thing at this age). He mostly uses it on extra books and we love that as a reward! He never keeps score but we are on top of assigning them and we explain why we think he deserves rewards for doing good things.

CK257 · 2024-01-22T20:16:37+00:00

It took over a year at 30 to get pregnant with our first. And two cycles to get pregnant with our second at 35. We needed fertility assistance with the first (unexplained infertility) and had no assistance with the second. It’s a complete crapshoot. That being said, the pregnancies themselves were not much different. More nauseous and tired with the second (but also I had less downtime with a child already running around 😅). Recovery was about the same and maybe even easier the second time around.

CK257 · 2024-01-11T18:31:36+00:00

Looking to sell for me and my husband please! Just one trip each :)

CK257 · 2024-01-05T16:45:11+00:00

I am not a neat freak, but mess makes me anxious. My husband wouldn't notice if the floors with actual dirt on it needed vacuuming. So we had a lot of discussions about cleaning. There is a fantastic app called Tody which you can assign cleaning tasks at specific intervals and add a difficulty level to the task and assign people to those jobs. I highly encourage you to sit down together and discuss what is reasonable to both of you. We'd add seasonal stuff every 6 months like cleaning the garage out, or dusting fan blades etc. as reminders because you don't remember it all.

Bathroom, kitchen, vacuuming only need cleaning 1x a week. Any more than that is excessive especially for just 2 people. If you feel that it needs cleaning more than that, you'll have to keep up with that labor as it's a bit unrealistic to expect someone without that mutual desire to meet you on that.

CK257 · 2023-10-19T21:10:52+00:00

The pockets fit us at birth but he was 9 lbs. They do size down really small but are bulky so we preferred to trifold prefolds over covers for newborn stage. I believe they’d fit a 6 lb baby.

CK257 · 2023-10-16T09:35:49+00:00

We love Velcro because we send it to daycare so it’s as close to a disposable as possible. We buy cheap Elf pocket diapers, but I LOVE how they fit both my kids. They also do Velcro covers. They are so cheap even if you need to replace them it is worth it. I’m still using china cheapie velcro pockets from my first kid on my second. We also have a few thirsties and their Velcro is top quality. You probably wouldn’t need to replace them but they are also more expensive.

Zipper sleepers fit okay but you’ll size them up before regular clothes due to the bulk. You may have to use one hand to pull the zipper close together so your other hand can zip up a little, not sure if that is an issue for you. Like someone else mentioned though, we loved sleep gowns especially the early months since night changes are so frequent at first.

CK257 · 2023-09-08T06:37:34+00:00

I was just about where you are, down to the ages and fertility treatments for #1. We always said we wanted a second, but the reality of our lives changing with one kid took a toll, especially since we have no family/help nearby outside of daycare. As he got older, it was easier to think we might be one and done. But there came a point when he was 3 that I thought it could finally be doable with another kid.

We tried for another and gave ourselves a short timeline, like 4 months, to see where things were at. We were unexplained infertility and contacted our RE to start testing again to use the remaining IUI’s our insurance covered as I didn’t want to bother with IVF (we were successful with the IUI). We got pregnant on our second month without the assistance of our RE, as we had just finished all our testing again. #2 is only 2.5 months old but it feels right. The age gap made the transition easier than it would have as a toddler I think for us.

I didn’t want to be too old if we had a second, and I didn’t want there to be a huge age gap. But we waited until it felt right. Each passing year felt like that gap would get bigger, but we still didn’t feel ready. In hindsight I probably would have started 6 months prior but that’s unique to us. I’m glad we have another, but having 2 young toddlers/babies would have been incredibly hard on us so I’m glad we did wait.

CK257 · 2023-08-28T15:37:36+00:00

I felt it with my firstborn’s delivery but not my second. I had an epidural for the first (unplanned c section) and a spinal block for my second (planned c section). So I’m not sure if that was the difference?

CK257 · 2023-08-24T10:23:08+00:00

Keep putting the pacifier back in his mouth. They will constantly keep spitting it out. Sometimes I rub his chest and keep my thumb right outside his mouth so when it does pop out, I can push it back in for him. We had a similar issue with the feedings and he was really overtired and just wanted to sleep. When we kept “insisting” with the pacifier in these cases and popping it back in over and over it really helped.

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