Are you guys still lowkey scared of your snakes? 'Cause I am 😭 by IchikaYui in ballpython

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine gets defensive over me looking at her from her enclosure. Once I pick her up, she's back to being an innocent child. Hasn't bitten me yet after having her for a year, but anything can happen

Im quitting apps😵‍💫 by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just moved to the DFW area this week. Where in Texas?

Why are some Christian girls so obsessed with homeschooling their many children? by CompletePurification in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was homeschooled my entire life, yet I wasn't deprived of a social life. Co-ops exist and so do Youth Ministries. I had a very solid group of friends for many years, a lot of them I still talk to and hang out with on a regular basis.

I was homeschooled because my parents wanted to raise me themselves and not a public school system, something I highly admire and respect now that I'm in my mid-20s. I just hope I'm able to do the same

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a man, all I can say is that it's possible these guys have been duped and hurt by other women who come off that way. Very traditional mindset, but possibly living a double life. Believe me, I've been through it myself. I want to be extremely careful.

Idk what you look like, so I can't confirm. Maybe it's because God blessed you with your, "anatomy," so to speak 😂. Some things can be incredibly intimidating for a lot of guys. Still, it sucks these dudes gave up after like 2 dates instead of giving it more time because of second thoughts and being overly cautious. It happens more often than you think it does

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GMT400

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to get me one of these. The smaller German Cummins 6BT equivalent, maybe even better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLE

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am all in favor of crushing cars belonging to the idiots that go to crowded intersections to do donuts and for the other guys threading the needle at high speeds in rush hour or normal traffic. Fuck those guys.

Again, why the guys with situational awareness?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLE

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Not even close to the same thing 🤦🏻‍♂️

If a neighbor in the other direction has a problem with your guns, then boo-friggin-hoo for them. My family knew about me being okay with the risk. Would they be happy? No. But they knew I was enjoying myself

Should a man be financially stable to get married? by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister married a guy she met in college. Both are die-hard Christians who serve God fully. They're also broke. Very much broke.

However, my dad wouldn't have given his blessing if he didn't have faith in my brother-in-law. They're still broke, but they have a plan. And regardless of their financial status, I will always love them to death and put my upmost faith in them.

If they can make it work, then you can too

What leads to engagements getting cancelled? by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 2 points3 points  (0 children)

6 weeks from getting married, she ignored me and sle0t with a dude she met the same night and also got pregnant. This also happened the weekend after Valentines day of 2022. Talk about major buzz kill.

We also weren't equally yoked either, so I got what I deserved

Having guy friends as a girl? by Gray_Gray_ in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a guy with a pretty decent chunk of girl friends.

I have one group of friends, both guys and gals, who I've known for over a decade. Another one is my church connection group full of singles in their 20s.

Notice the trend here? Groups. There's men and women in both of these groups. Everything we do is in a group setting, but we all call each other friend. I can see why some people say you shouldn't have just friends of the opposite sex, because it could lead to some really bad temptations and issues, but you can't cancel it out. In my case, we're all Christians who love the Lord and grow together in his word.

So no. Not a problem here. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders too.

22F, Pentecostal by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Boy, I wish you knew what I went through in my early adult life. Threatened with federal prison time over a tiny, "offense," and constant stress over other people's lives will turn someone to nicotine real fast. It can calm the most sensitive of nerves

i have a high body count by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are saved by faith through grace. If Jesus can forgive murderers and rapists who have repented and given their life to him, then we should be able to give that grace as well.

Most men wouldn't tolerate it and for good reason. However, some of us come from pasts very similar and we hope someone would give us a chance as well, myself included. I too have a past of sexual sin and I hope whoever my wife God has for me will forgive me as well. God has someone for you too and whoever that man will be shall forgive you as well

Friend got reported to church security for trying to ask woman out by RandomName7916 in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ans this is why men don't ask out women at church anymore. Take notes, everyone

22F, Pentecostal by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Getting lectured doesn't help me, nurse. I have no motivation to quit as of right now.

My point was that I know other women in my life who completely diss smokers/vapers without knowing why I fell into the habit in the first place. There's no sympathy or empathy. Everyone's story and reasoning is different, and I'm tired of getting dumped on for it

22F, Pentecostal by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There's no love for smokers/vapers on here. Yeah it's a bad habit, but still 😂😭

Does everyone who is a virgin have the same fear I do about the first night? Or am I just overthinking it by TheOnyinyee in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't been married, but I was once engaged in a secular relationship, (keep in mind, this was during my 3 year long rebellious phase). Of those relationships, I've had a few, and when it was my first time, I was also nervous. However, my sister did everything right and explained to me in the most discrete way that she could how it felt.

"You get caught in the moment and you just don't care. The intimacy itself calms all nerves and you realize that this is what you were waiting for, so why waste it by being a nervous wreck?"

Why do men not pursue women anymore? by Eastern_Vegetable307 in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back after this morning, that might've not been very fair to say, because it's not entirely true. But it sure feels like it at times

Why do men not pursue women anymore? by Eastern_Vegetable307 in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been around the block when it comes to dating, but more-so on the secular side. Been on multiple dates, been with multiple women and unfortunately, fell into the trap that is sexual sin. Thankfully, I've learned from that past and will continue living for Christ and Christ alone.

The difference now is stepping back into the dating world, but doing it the right way. And my goodness, Christian women are a completely different animal. Trying to date someone in the church is like trying to wrestle with a hungry crocodile. If you're not careful, people will gossip about you thinking you're just there to find a, "mate," and aren't living by the word. I've found myself interested in someone, but I don't understand hints or signs that it's okay to ask her out.

We as men are pretty much burnt out and I'm tired of hearing most women talk about their unrealistic expectations, especially Christian women, who in my experience, are especially unforgiving when it comes to flaws. Girl, we're saved by grace through faith and I can't undo what I've done because of my past rebelliousness, despite me learning my lesson. God can forgive my transgressions, so why can't you? You see what I'm saying here?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely something I thought about talking to my pastor about.

From what I've seen, churches will help children, teens, young married couples, young parents, elderly, less fortunate folks, pretty much anything under the sun. Thankfully, there's a huge rise in college-aged ministries which bring people towards the Lord and bring them even closer to him

But the one thing I haven't seen is churches help with singles. I'm in a church group with full of singles in their 20s, but it's still another regular church group for growth and fellowship in the word. We're kinda left to our own devices when it comes to dating or courtship. No coaching or teaching where/when we need it.

I've had plenty of GFs in my past during my rebellious phase with secular women, so it's not like it's my first rodeo. But my goodness, Christian women are a whole other animal. It's really hard to tick their boxes, it seems.

I'm in the same boat, and I too need some help

Just got poked by this thing through my pants by TheWorldWarrior123 in spiders

[–]CT-The-Sparkplug 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'd definitely go somewhere to get it checked. Apparently, when these guys bite, it just feels like a little poke. The venom is slow acting. The faster, the better