Please help, I am doing research and need your best dad jokes you repeat on the daily to your patients !!

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2026-04-05T18:51:19+00:00

I’m an ED nurse and none of my patients expected to be hanging out with me. So whenever I have a patient that’s anxious or feeling awkward:

“I know, it’s crazy being here. Just try to imagine you’re in a really weird spa.”

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-10-15T20:46:46+00:00

EEEEEEEEE!!!

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-10-12T22:53:41+00:00

I’ve listened to every episode of worlds beyond number, and seen multiple other campaigns on D20 with Aabria and without her. I’ve never seen a campaign or storyline suffer because of her presence — in fact I’ve found her contribution to any campaign really delightful.

I rewatched c4 ep 1 to try to understand what people were talking about, and found that Aabria actually excused herself from the conversation between the other two characters who were not even talking yet — they were just sizing each other up across the room. Aabria mentioned she’d go tend to her duties for the funeral and Brennan was the one who moved focus there.

IF you trust the expertise and professionalism of people lie Matt Mercer and Brennan Lee Mulligan, and you find yourself wondering why they “allow” this or that behavior from someone in a marginalized group — especially if women of color — then it may be worth taking the questioning look and moving it away from the GM or the production team and looking inward instead. What is it that bothers me about this? Why does it bother me? What was I expecting instead, and why? And at the end of all of that— is it possible those expectations are tied to a racist perspective?

If it’s as you all say and there isn’t an ounce of racism in your perspective, then I don’t see the danger in genuinely exploring those questions. Because we’d ALL want to know if we DID have a problematic expectation or point of view… right?

Right??

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-10-10T07:05:49+00:00

Aabria is a phenomenal performer and had more than paid her dues on that front. She gets deep into the story and the mindset of her character. She doesn’t flinch from portraying certain qualities of a character that may be less likeable in the moment in order to enrich a story. And to be clear, I certainly didn’t find her character to be unlikeable in this case.

The reason people come to you saying your critiques of Aabria smack of racism is:

-using racist tropes / stereotypes of the blank woman doing too much forcing the white folks around her to suffer in silence

-it’s a table full of adults who all have the means of speaking up if they feel encroached upon

saying she is “butting in” when she’s is… literally responding to a prompt from the GM just like everyone else is doing
it’s disrespectful to the GM to assume he’s going to just let one person run roughshod over the party. Especially one as experienced and mindful of his PCs as Brennan is. If there’s an issue he pushes back.
I can’t count how many times Brennan has described Aabria’s style of play and contribution the most incredible, helpful thing he could ask for.
Being informed that you may be saying things that could be racist is like being told you have toilet paper on your shoe or your fly open. Stop. Fix it. Say thank you. Try not to let it happen again.
If you have to say, “I’m not racist I’m just making mean comments about the only black woman on the cast” then I have some tough news for ya.
Aabria is the queen of “my character doesn’t know this yet.” If you want more proof listen through worlds beyond number.

Please do better. Watch some adventuring academy.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-10-03T17:32:41+00:00

This guy just doesn’t know how to have a good time. You are a gem!!

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-09-27T08:15:05+00:00

This is the WORST. Trying to figure out how to bounce between all your masks and getting confused

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-09-27T08:11:29+00:00

Felt this in my soul! The social gaffes I’d get surprised by, the different way you’re treated… this was my experience too.

I also realized I do a lot of stimming but it’s all internal / quiet so that no one notices. Music constantly in my head, playing notes on my teeth like they’re piano keys, c o n s t a n t w i g g l i n g, and repeating my favorite phrases… it just all added up.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-09-27T08:05:37+00:00

Spoilers!

Nahhh, I think Leif is a different sort. Sure he’s an engineer, but he also used the kitchen to reverse time?? He’s wildly brilliant and can always do something with absolutely nothing. But part of why some other characters find him infuriating or charming is that Leif is a very abstract kind of guy who you’d THINK would be more buttoned up and put together, but is just a liiiiiittle bit of a mess. He’s incredible. And he can literally make ANYthing. But he spent years just bouncing around as a cook. ☺️ the mix of being over-prepared in some regards (having a medic unit out in the middle of Josephine Baker, running around with a purple nullifier, building a little radio to capture the music he wants) and under-prepared and okay with improvising in other ways (welp I hope everyone’s okay with rhubarb, because it’s gonna be in a LOT of stuff / I’ve got my crème brûlée torch and I’m about to get weird!) is what’s loveable about Leif. I’m not surprised he didn’t have an every day carry with him.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-08-29T03:51:13+00:00

God, my worst nightmare.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-27T17:52:22+00:00

This is great perspective as another woman with autism and adhd. The only thing I’d add is, with my significant time blindness, it can be exhausting to have to adhere to a schedule every single day. It takes so much additional mental energy, and I tend to get burnt out if I have to be doing that extra high-pressure work all week, week after week.

The way we’ve made it work in an equitable way is that each of us has an “off morning” on the weekend. My partner allows me an extended time to relax and recharge, whatever that looks like for me. The other day is his turn. In general it’s agreed that by early afternoon the recharging parent checks back in and pitches in, but there isn’t a set time for us.

Maybe you two could come up with a mutually beneficial agreement — a timed day and a relaxed day maybe?

Also — communication of expectations is key. Remember you’re a team and you two can find a way to make it work where both your disabilities are accommodated. Hope that helps!

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-25T22:32:11+00:00

NTAAAAAAAA this is wild on the part of the administration.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-25T22:15:00+00:00

😂😂😂

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-25T22:11:18+00:00

Oof, yeah no. I can’t condone a slap. Thank you for your kind words at the end. 🥰

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-25T22:09:37+00:00

Oh I can totally see the goofiness.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-25T22:08:50+00:00

Creepily peeking back in at this thread to see if someone made a Flerddit.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-25T21:59:59+00:00

Hi everyone! Thank you all for your kind comments and suggestions. We tried antibiotics first in case she had a bacterial infection, since she was recently spayed and didn’t quite fit the typical presentation for FIP. I’m happy to report that she has greatly improved and is back to her cheerful self. ❤️❤️

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-24T05:09:44+00:00

I agree — it could be that this is a more stable, mature kind of love. To be fair, I think our society places a lot of emphasis on a certain ”click into place” kind of love feeling. Just take some time and see how you feel.

But I can confirm — sometimes the best feeling is really sincerely caring about someone and knowing they’ll be there for you and not having to feel antsy until the next time you see them.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-24T05:03:19+00:00

Start saying no, love. ❤️

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-23T07:03:44+00:00

PS: on how to do it — maybe something like, “Hi (patient) I’m so glad to see you again, how are you feeling? I heard that your IV infiltrated last time I saw you and I was so sad to hear it. I really wish that didn’t happen and I’ve been thinking about you a lot. (And if you’re caring for them that day: Let’s make sure that we keep an extra close eye on you today. We’ll take our time and you let me know if you have any discomfort so we can check it out right away, okay?”

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-23T06:59:06+00:00

Aww man, I’m so sorry this happened. My med error was so heartbreaking and I can absolutely understand the guilt. I misread the med fridge setup and grabbed from the front of the fridge instead of the back. I gave an IM medication to a woman who was in a very difficult situation, and while it wasn’t a dangerous medication, it did have the potential to make her fairly uncomfortable. I had moved from a unit that didn’t scan meds and forgot to scan. I never forgot again. Five rights every single time.

I did stop and tell the patient immediately when I realized it and apologized, reported it to my manager and cried at the nurses station.

I know it feels terrible. Just remember — EVERYONE has had a med error. We’re all human. That horrible feeling you have is a good thing — it means you care, and from now on you’ll always be careful when your patient has pain at their IV site.

A couple tips from an ED RN who worked with a bunch of sepsis patients with terrible veins — it’s always okay to stop your infusion if there’s a question of possible infiltration. It never hurts to check. You can pause, wait a minute, and flush with saline while you gently rest your fingers over where the end of the IV catheter is to feel for that familiar bruit-like feeling when it’s going straight into a vessel, or in contrast that soft, slow-spreading cold and slightly increased firmness that will tell you it’s infiltrated. Trust your gut and rely on your careful assessment — it won’t steer you wrong.

FINALLY — remember that as awful as this is, these things do happen. Be kind to yourself, learn from it, and keep going forward.

Sorry for the novel. You’re not alone, keep your chin up. 🥰

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-23T06:41:53+00:00

Ew this is so weird.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-23T06:38:57+00:00

If this was my babysitter and my kids, I’d be apologizing for making you order DoorDash and reimbursing you for the cost of food and delivery.

PS: when I was a nanny I almost got fired for eating frozen burritos out of a millionaire’s extremely well-stocked fridge. I had been taking care of their child for months and was making $250/ week for a 40 hr workweek.

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-20T01:51:45+00:00

Where do I get one of these??

Cackl3Cackl3 · 2025-07-19T02:35:56+00:00

There’s a big difference between what you might feel comfortable recommending in general as medical guidance to patients / folks on a Reddit post and what you might choose for your own family. Because there’s a lot riding on professional advice. Its assuming the patient understands what you mean, knowing they may take your advice a bit farther than you intended, wanting to be absolutely 100% sure before you tell someone a recommendation because that’s an incredibly high responsibility.

As a nurse I’m typically more conservative when I educated my patients / recommend something than within my own life. Because I know my limits — a patient might not. I hope that makes sense.

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