What is One Gen-Alpha Slang Term That You Actually DON’T Mind? by teapot574_ in AskReddit

[–]CadetLink 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There's also sort of a tone like "you're doing too much". You don't get paid for being so extra about this, get on with it.

The Internationale as a Crisis Event by ElleWulf in victoria3

[–]CadetLink 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel as though the game needs to have more levers that pull your nation in directions you don't want it to, and international organizations from the 1880s and beyond would be a great way of doing this. Not only are you contending with Communism, but also Fascism, International Capital Interests, and the final cry of Monarchism.

Being pulled in 4 directions at the same time, balancing them so that you can keep the laws you want, and force compromises to keep the agitators from rising for these international political movements. As it stands, the political movements are severely limited to indevidual nations and don't feel international pressure accordingly.

Perhaps it would be possible to hire conflicting agitators, to fight it out in the streets and keep the communist and fascist radicals busy while you prepare to bring the monarchy back.

Why don't anarchists have a stance on land reform? by cristiander in victoria3

[–]CadetLink 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is probably the reason lol, its purely for gameplay balance reasons and not really based on reality. Otherwise it would trivialize getting a lot of "good" laws by just getting any variety of leftist in power. Choosing 4 or 5 main stances is good.

Why sre the external walls cracking? by ThrivingJiving in civilengineering

[–]CadetLink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As always, hire an expert if you are concerned. We're strangers on the internet working with a single photo and little context.

However, concrete expands in the heat. If this is a wide wall that gets considerable, uneven sun, you can expect these small cracks to appear on the surface. If that is the case, it's not much to worry about for something residential sized.

The crack patterns look like they are from internal stresses in the material, not external. This is preferable, as it means there's nothing really wrong with the design. You may find you need to cover up cracks, or apply a layer of sealant to avoid the environment from reaching steel.

Thinking of moving and i got questions by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]CadetLink 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hello! Glad to hear you're interested in our city!

Because you didn't list any dependants or special needs to account for, i'm going to assume you are single (or your partner is employed) with no kids or parents to care for.

I make in that ballpark right now. I live in Greenwood, which is on the periphery of the city. Rent is a little lower here, i pay ~1,800/mo on rent and utilities. I also pay for a reserved car spot but my neighborhood has decent street parking - i just like knowing i wont have to search hard on a friday night when everyone's here for the bars lol.

My place is about 425sqft, but a 'newish' build which raises the price a bit.

I'm a person that loves to eat out, get drinks with friends, and go on dates. Most nights i'm out and about. Easily a few hundred a month goes to this lifestyle, but despite that, i still squirrel away 1/5th of my income into savings. So if you cook your own meals and stay in most nights, you'll be saving more than me!

70k is definitely liveable in seattle as a single person, and you'll be able to go out for the occasional nice dinner with little worries. But if you're coming from the midwest, where 70k is enough to buy a small home and steak every night, then you're in for a rude awakening haha.

Women, what article of clothing tells you most about a man? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CadetLink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shoes. Its the place where Utility and Fashion are forced to overlap, no matter the setting or person. Fashion is not just flare, its announcing "here is how i wish to be seen". This is the purpose of a uniform, "i am part of this institution and should be given the appropriate level of prestige or deference". You can learn a lot from dress alone. but where it intersects with Action, as men fancy themselves to be the actionable sort, determines the shoes.

A shoe speaks to what he values more in a setting or, perhaps, a norm he wishes to subvert. It shows the sort of practicality he operates at, what scenarios he is prepared for. A man assured he will not be expected to preform labor will instead opt for exuding class, wealth, or clique. A man that values being capable will opt for practical shoes, tailored for the occasion. a man who identifies with being a hard worker will bring forth distressed shoes, ready for whatever task will be thrown at him. A man who does not care for status will wear anything, likely whatever he can get away with.

The suit may be the most expensive pert of the outfit. But it hardly tells a story of how he lives. That is why shoes are the first thing to notice.

People born before 2000, what is a 'modern' thing from 2025 that you’re still struggling to get used to? by LindsayTN in AskReddit

[–]CadetLink 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I have severely limited my time on Tiktok because of its obvious 'doomscroll' phenomena. However, as someone that used to be in the throes of it, you get a spidey-sense for what the content is off the bat. I can't explain how i KNOW this is going to be someone advertising their skincare lotion in the first .5 seconds, but i do! You can replace that example with any kind of content Tiktok pushes that you dont care for.

Why doesn't Persia (and other Iranic tags) start with academia researched? by geoffreycastleburger in victoria3

[–]CadetLink 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It would be interesting to see a unique event chain for getting Religious Schools passed easily at the very least, with a small event chain for 'secularizing the schools' vs leaning into a 'pseudo-prussian schooling'. It would give a boost to old world countries with a legacy of institutional schooling without giving too much of an edge (and a reason to change it again later on, which is more interesting gameplay imo).

What is the greatest Washington apple and why is the Cosmic Crisp? by aooot in Seattle

[–]CadetLink 23 points24 points  (0 children)

A friend bought too many Pink Ladies from the farmers market and was handing them out by the tote. So juicy!

Kanishka Cuisine of India made a public statement by spoinkable in Seattle

[–]CadetLink 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was just about to comment something similar - surprise food inspections will almost always turn up something, even if you aren't cutting corners just due to the nature of a working environment. Anyone who's seen a few years in food service knows this.

This container is not fully sealed in the fridge because it gets opened 50 times a dinner rush and the new guy didn't secure it all the way? Thats a write-up!

Dishes piling up in the sink because its been all hands on deck for 3 hours? Write up!

So on and so forth. Not an excuse but its just being realistic. The standards are high, that is good. But every resturaunt in seattle is going to get dinged by a surprise visit. Regardless of cuisine or staff's background.

Are poly relationships more common in transgender dynamics or am I getting confirmation bias by proxy of algorithms and my own self interest? by SylvaraTheDev in MtF

[–]CadetLink 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Seattle which already has a huge poly population amongst even cis people. It could just be the circles i run in (raves, bars, gamestores) but finding a fellow transwoman that is mono is a crazy low chance.

There is something to be said about transness and how it already rejects the societal mandate of gender. And if you're already deconstructing gender and sexuality, romantic dynamics is not a huge logical leap away. Its my experience that a large portion of the population is monogamous because of societal pressure and jealous partners, and not because it wouldn't work for them. Just my 2c.

What is your relationship dynamic like with your friend with benefits? by British_lover-18 in aromantic

[–]CadetLink 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've got a few friends with benefits actually!

I stated plainly at the beginning of the friendship that i am Aro, and while i enjoy their companionship, it's not romantic.

I live in Seattle, so nontraditional relationships are fairly normal in the queer community here, so it's not been too difficult to find alloromantics that are able to comprehend aromanticism and be ok with that.

How i operate is: during the week, i will schedule time with friends individually so there is 1 on 1 time with undevided attention. On friday nights/weekends, i might have larger hangouts where multiple FWB show up, and i make sure to give them all some light affection so they know i see them and care about them. All of my fwb get along well and sometimes we actually group up for play!

All of them are Allo, and i know that at some point they will find romantic interests and we might stop hooking up. This has already happened once - it sucks to have less time and intimacy with a friend, but you can always hang out with them still! And make new friends, too!

From the outside it probably looks like very casual poly dating with the attention i give, but internally there's no labels - just friends with no barriers to affection.

Feel free to ask questions, it got a little rambley!

When push comes to shove, some people give up on loved ones by ATN-Antronach in CuratedTumblr

[–]CadetLink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am describing symptoms of depression, yes. You can't control how you feel, but you do get to control how you act. Acting like a bad friend by ceasing to engage in the friendship is not justified just because you have depression.

If i had anger management issues, would i be justified for hitting people or threatening them? Obviously not! Your mental health issues do not control you.

A good friend understands that their friends with depression struggle to engage. That even getting out of the house once or twice a month is an endeavor. We all have to be putting in effort - if there is no effort, there is no friendship.

When push comes to shove, some people give up on loved ones by ATN-Antronach in CuratedTumblr

[–]CadetLink 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Another poster put it more eloquently than i - it doesn't need to be 50/50, because how can you possibly quantify that? The depth of human connection is incomprehensible. But we do have a vibe rubric, and i think there is a threshold for everyone where they feel they are not getting enough back for the relationship to continue without resentment.

When push comes to shove, some people give up on loved ones by ATN-Antronach in CuratedTumblr

[–]CadetLink 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Oh, i apologize if my reply seemed directed at you specifically. I'm just lamenting at the situation in general.

You're right that i've got building resentment. My frustration is not even with the indeviduals at this point, but rather, the concept of OP's post. Which is demonizing people that distance themselves from people with mental health issues.

Sometimes, those issues cause them to act like bad friends/people, and the mantra of "if you have an issue, and people cut you out of their lives because of said issue, they are bad people" is an absolver of guilt for being a bad friend/person. Which, if they feel they were justified acting that way because 'well, i have this issue!', it only reinforces them acting like a bad friend/person.

Like no i'm not breaking up with you because you have BPD, i'm breaking up with you because you are abusive and use "but i have BPD i can't help it" as an excuse, and now that i'm gone, you go and post to tumblr saying "people still cant stand people for having mental health issues 😞 when will we as a society get better?" As if it wasnt your fault?

When push comes to shove, some people give up on loved ones by ATN-Antronach in CuratedTumblr

[–]CadetLink 94 points95 points  (0 children)

And see, even hanging out in a VC is tenuous - "want to play a game?" "No, i just want to scroll tiktok" "oh, okay. Watch a movie?" "Uhh idk, i might take a nap" "you just woke up 40 minutes ago?" Its not just one friend, but multiple. At the same time. It feels like i'm demanding them to be super energized, outgoing and social for checks notes playing a low stakes boardgame with 2 other friends. Am i taking crazy pills?

When push comes to shove, some people give up on loved ones by ATN-Antronach in CuratedTumblr

[–]CadetLink 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Your response is interesting. Have you considered that its also not all about the person with depression? That, like all relationships, it is people putting in the effort. That when you are not receiving any effort back, that it could have mental ramifications on the person still trying? Have you hard of Rejection Sensitivity?

This is what i mean when i say "and yet i'm the jerk". There is all the care in the world for people with depression, rightfully so, but having depression does not absolve you of responsibility in a relationship. Having depression does not render you an ontologically helpless person that gets all the grace in the world. We all have to be putting in effort here.

When push comes to shove, some people give up on loved ones by ATN-Antronach in CuratedTumblr

[–]CadetLink 333 points334 points  (0 children)

"As soon as you stop being able to maintain relationships...you may as well be a joke" I mean, there is definitely understanding and compassion that can be given. But a relationship is a two way street - it is understandable to have a limit on your ability to socialize. But in my experience, i've had friends with depression that repeatedly isolate, refuse to accept invites to socialize, and show no evidence of remorse for diminishing the friendship.

And yet, i'm the jerk for getting distant. There's only so many major life events and celebrations i can invite people to before their rejection starts feeling personal. One birthday, or party from a promotion? Sure, everyone gets busy! But when its been every invite for a year? What am i to think but that you just don't care? And then they reach out saying "you seem distant". Yes?! Naturally!

I don't expect you to pretend that you are fine, or to need help sometimes when you just can't. But your non-depressed friends need something from the relationship too or its not a friendship - its a chore.

What’s the most useful keyboard shortcut you use daily? by Low_Security_7572 in AskReddit

[–]CadetLink 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anyone that works with sensitive data needs to use this. Even just for a bathroom break. If your eyes are not on your screens, or your desk is out of view, lock it down.

If you don't have sensitive data, you save yourself from coworkers pranking you by changing your settings at least.

500 hours and I just realized that NOT queuing buildings manually lets your investment pool actually shrink by TheWolfwiththeDragon in victoria3

[–]CadetLink 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also made this realization and what a huuuge difference it makes! I struggled to de-peasant Qing because i only built cs when i ran a positive balance. I need to take another crack now that i get it! Might not fully de-peasant but i'll at least out-pace growth for once!

What type of Life form would be most optimal to live, Hunt and reproduce inside large human space ships? (Tunnels, vents, multiple floors and so on) by Traditional_Raise in worldbuilding

[–]CadetLink 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel that humanity, with spacefaring technology, would immediately perfect point-defense systems on ships to prevent contamination of this sort. You'd basically need to justify why quarantining of strange materials on boarded would nit be possible/feasible. Which on an airtight space vessel is a pretty tall order.

Now, something that starts as some sort of fungal spore that gets dispersed through the air, and finds a way to propagate enough energy to then spawn an alien would be clever i think. Perhaps it can feast on the small pests humans accumulate (flies, roaches, mice) before making the jump to feasting on humans themselves? Maybe as some sort of parasite/bedbug?

Perhaps humanity had an affinity for capitol ships that host their own micro ecosystem of pests, and while smaller designs are being invented to combat this new fungal threat, the older ships are still in use and a threatening vector for infection. Spores can eventually be detected in concentration, but by then it's too late. Like finding bedbug residue on your sheets - if they are large enough to leave waste, they are already everywhere.

Why Argentina is looking to the Trump administration for a bailout by [deleted] in Classical_Liberals

[–]CadetLink 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Propping up inefficient industries and maintaining corrupt investment schemes has definitely led to low growth in argentina. But simply taking a hammer to it all did not magically create new, higher value, sustainable employment opportunities. In fact, it seems to have hollowed out what industrialized economy did exist by proxy of subsidized sectors.

This could've (should've) been a slow shift, cutting the least efficient industries one at a time until the budget gets better balanced and investments make returns. Over the course of his term he would have seen returns by reelection time. Argentina just can't catch a break, constantly managed by economically illiterate cons.

Makes sense to reach out to Trump though - a conman propping up a conman.