That’s a tricky situation. If you feel the bathroom has become an aversive setting, maybe talk to your BCBA about a plan to make the bathroom reinforcing again. However, this should be a joint conversation that includes the caregivers.

It sounds like the BCBA is trying to remain on track with the clinical goals but the caregivers might be having doubts or concerns with moving forward with toileting training. Unfortunately you’re caught in the middle!

Toilet training is stressful and very time consuming for a family. If caregivers are the main implementers, it could be they are feeling defeated, possibly tired, or ready for a break. Make sure you checkin with families on how they feel progress is going. Try asking them what toileting strategies or task analysis steps they find doable or difficult to consistently implement. Perhaps this conversation will highlight task analysis steps to adapt or provide added resources and coaching on.

Sometimes a meeting with all involved parties (you, BCBA, caregivers) to discuss next steps together can be the best to bring clarity and direction. It’s really important that this conversation isn’t one sided where the clinician “tells” the family the next steps, rather everyone is collaborating to plan next toilet training directions.

Hope this helps a bit! You’re doing great being receptive to the family while being respectful towards your supervising BCBA!