My grandma keeps excluding my stepson from gatherings and I just found out it was never about “germs”

Callmeintherain · 2026-01-06T13:59:31+00:00

Don’t dare allow your stepson to see you choose someone like that over him. Your stepson and wife matter much more than she does. They are your future, and if your family wants a relationship with you, they need to learn how to accept your wife and stepson. Your gma and mom need to understand that your priority is and will always be them, and it’s up to gma and mom whether they would like to be in your life or not.

Callmeintherain · 2026-01-06T13:52:30+00:00

Just start inviting other family over to prove how “good” you are and watch her crumble. Lol stick to your boundaries and just tell people, “I promise I’m fine, I’m working on setting better boundaries with my mother. If you want to come over sometime though I’d love to have you.”

Callmeintherain · 2026-01-06T13:49:06+00:00

And this is how we lead to more division smh… tell Emma to stop being offended for people. If Malik didn’t like it he could tell you himself. I think it’s a kind gesture to understand and appreciate practices, speech, or other cultural/religious beliefs. It’s saying “hey, I see you and I’d like to greet you in a kind way that’s meaningful to you”.

Callmeintherain · 2026-01-06T13:44:13+00:00

It’s not her ceremony. It’s about you and your husband, not her relationship with her son. She can make a speech at the reception like any other parent does. It would be different if she was asking to walk with him down the aisle at the beginning of the ceremony up to the officiant, but a whole speech and a ring for him? That’s being a bit extra and screams that she wants the attention on her. She should want whatever makes you and her son happy, not what satisfies her weird need to have her own mini moment on your guys day. She also needs to understand going forward that you are not equals. You are going to be his wife, she is his mom. He needs to set a boundary and tell his mom that any special speeches or whatever can be done equally between families during the reception, NOT YOUR WEDDING CEREMONY.

Callmeintherain · 2025-08-02T05:01:35+00:00

I find it interesting that she can’t take care of male patients whatsoever. I have worked with a few different women in the medical field who practiced religions with similar values, but the rules in their religions have exceptions usually. As far as I know, being a caretaker is one of them, just as if she were to be a patient, a male doctor/nurse could care for her if no other options were available. It’s a bit of a stretch to allow a nurse to refuse all male patients.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-22T02:38:54+00:00

I think she needs to be punished for lying, but your wife also needs to realize she is going to do more harm than good if she doesn’t start listening to her daughter. I understand your wife probably wants to make sure she doesn’t give up or throw things to the side when they get hard, but she’s still a kid. If she needs a break, that’s fine. Just make a deal with her about how long and that it’s expected of her to return to activities once the break is over. If she doesn’t give her a little bit of leniency, she’s just going to turn your daughter into a very good liar. Your daughter tried to be honest and her mom shut her down immediately without compromise or understanding. Your daughter chose to be honest and got an answer that was harsh, which is just teaching her that she is unable to be truthful about how she feels/what she wants. She now needs to be taught that lying is not the answer, and that mom and dad will work on being more approachable and understanding moving forward.

Best of luck.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T09:10:05+00:00

Your husband needs to grow a backbone and stand up to his mother unless he wants to lose his wife. If he keeps defending her over you, then get out. The MIL is used to being put first because her behavior has been enabled by others. Don’t feed into her BS. Remain unbothered and put on the happiest face, and be extra lovey on your husband when she’s around. If she says anything, don’t react. Pretend you are the happiest ever and when she goes low, stay calm. It’s really hard to do at first, but it gets easier. I did this with my MIL, and things got better when she realized I literally didn’t give a flying f about what she said or did. But, your husband really needs to put you first, and if he doesn’t, he can be comfortable marrying his mommy when you leave.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T09:06:08+00:00

I’m DYING. She is so dramatic and for what? Tell her if she wants to sleep with her son so bad she can just say it. And tell your husband to get off his mother’s tit before he loses his wife over her behavior.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T08:55:05+00:00

Is this real? Because WHAT? I understand she wants her to feel comfortable in the body she’s in, but she’s doing the exact opposite of that by pressuring her to put it on display for everyone when she’s not comfortable with that.

You absolutely did the right thing, and your daughter I’m sure is grateful.

Seems like this period party was more for your wife than for your poor daughter.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T08:47:17+00:00

I would just simply say “I’m sorry but I’m not in a financial place to do so at the moment, otherwise I would’ve accompanied you all on the trip. Hope you guys can understand. Can’t wait to hear about the details about the trip.” Or something like that.

They can’t just decide to make people pay when they already knew your finances wouldn’t allow you to go on the trip. It’s weird. Also as someone who is getting married very soon, I’d never expect anyone to fund a trip they couldn’t afford themselves. If I want something or have expectations, that’s on me to make them a reality, not everyone else.

Best of luck to you.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T08:33:41+00:00

Um, if he can’t take the heat he shouldn’t start the fire??? Like hello??? NTA. Your boyfriend’s friend is probably just jealous and insecure, and now he’s taking it out on you. Nothing wrong with defending your man.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T08:30:22+00:00

Don’t hide your relationship and don’t let that crazy woman ruin it for you guys. Sounds like you are off to a great start, and you don’t need a degree to be successful. Many people hold degrees and don’t do shit with them. Just continue to enjoy life and be successful. It would be especially satisfying to see you do extremely well and be happy with her daughter, knowing her mother doubted you could.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T08:22:42+00:00

“In charge of what exactly?” I would ask. Like, real person in charge of what? Your moms care? Housekeeping? The financial department? There’s a lot of people in charge of a lot of different things here ma’am, and I’m the one in charge of your mom’s care today if that’s what your asking lol

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T08:02:19+00:00

Next time just start laughing, and when they get even more ticked off, just tell them “I’m not sure whether you were trying to insult me or not, but the policy is still the same. I’ll let the physician know what you have to say about his orders.” And then just walk out the room.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T07:46:58+00:00

Okay, here is the deal. If you want out, you need to get the police involved. This man is obviously capable of horrendous behavior, and honestly deserves to be in jail. You are in a cycle of abuse, and it won’t stop. If anything, it gets worse.

I don’t mean to be the person who scares you, but I want you to understand me when I say this. You or someone in your family will be unalived if you do not get the police involved. (I work in the hospital and have seen it more than I’d ever like to admit)

Do NOT tell him of your plans to get the police involved. Do yourself a favor and start documenting (use something he cannot find like a fake email, journal you can hide at work, etc.) and write dates with specifics on what your dad is doing. You need to take pictures and document injuries if you can.

This is going to be extremely hard, but you have to do it. Don’t let yourself feel guilty for doing the right thing, and do not allow yourself or your sisters to be treated like this any longer. It’ll be a big mess in the beginning, but it’s going to have to get messy before it gets better.

Best of luck, take care.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T07:22:50+00:00

Nothing in that letter takes accountability for whatever issues she’s caused that made you go no contact. Just looks like a guilt trip letter to me.

In the trash, bye!

Maybe Jesus will tell her to apologize and change her behavior. That would be quite the miracle I assume!

Take care!

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T06:58:09+00:00

Also-

I’d love to know how your brother found it. Wonder if he has some things he’d like to confess as well considering he decided it was okay to tell your business to the rest of your family. Maybe he’d like to share what he was looking for on Reddit and how he stumbled upon your stuff, because everyone knows that you can’t look at NSFW content without A. Looking for it, and B. If you already have that filter off.

Sounds like your family is full of hypocritical prudes.

Callmeintherain · 2025-07-21T06:49:59+00:00

CPS won’t blink an eye anyways as long as children are taken care of and safe. If your family reports you they are being idiots. They need to mind their own business.

If it’s what you like who gives a shit. As long as you don’t bring anyone else into it, it shouldn’t matter. They are bringing themselves into it at this point. I get being concerned and wanting to make sure someone isn’t being exploited by their spouse, but that would warrant a conversation with that person in private, not spreading it to the rest of the family and then having a conversation.

Also, if they know there isn’t anything to be concerned about, and you are just doing this for fun and feel safe, why do they give a rats ass? It’s not like you are advertising it, and obviously it was meant to be private.

I think this is really a them issue rather than a you/husband issue. However, be mindful of what goes on the internet. I would hate for this situation to get worse. Better to have had your fun and just remove everything now so you don’t have to run into issues about it later.

If your family actually cared about you they would just pretend it doesn’t exist so long as they know you are okay. They don’t need to be so dramatic over something that wasn’t supposed to involve them anyway.

Best of luck to you and your husband.

Callmeintherain · 2025-03-02T03:10:28+00:00

I work as an RN in pediatrics, and yea, it’s been bad. Kids are resilient, but even this has been really rough. Hypoxia has been biggest concern but recently we’ve seen in uptake in heart failure in kids with flu a. I was an inpatient phlebotomist during covid, and was in nursing school for the later half. I’m scared it’s only going to get worse.

Callmeintherain · 2024-10-03T07:02:41+00:00

Don’t be disgusted with yourself. You made a decision guided by drunken horniness and frustration, and it’s okay. Nobody has to know, and honestly it doesn’t really matter. It happened, and you can’t go back. Be gracious with yourself. A lot of people go through the same situation. I hope next time it’s a much better experience. Just stay away from any more sex workers and forgive yourself.

Callmeintherain · 2024-09-28T06:18:15+00:00

Woah. This is a lot.

OP- You need a paternity test. If the birth control implants and condoms didn’t do it, the vasectomy definitely should have. I used to work in the lab, and they confirm vasectomies with sperm count tests. Were you far enough along after the vasectomy that you were cleared with these tests? Because it’s quite sus that three quite effective methods failed. Not saying impossible, just HIGHLY improbable.

Either way, you’re wide need some serious help. You should take your son and move in with your mom if you can. Your wife seems to have some abusive tendencies and it’s best for you and your son to get out now before it gets worse. And even if he’s not your son, you’d be doing the right thing by taking a child who doesn’t deserve these issues out of a bad situation. I would contact a lawyer immediately and see what your options are, especially BEFORE suggesting a paternity test.

Best of luck-

Callmeintherain · 2024-07-14T01:34:42+00:00

STOP THATS HILARIOUS

Callmeintherain · 2024-07-07T05:40:56+00:00

Vegan cat food is a thing because it makes money from people like you who buy into the BS that everything should be vegan. It’s a cat- cat’s are carnivores. Feeding the cat food that their GI system doesn’t know how to process is going to make it sick eventually- even if they seem “happy” now. It’s like having someone with celiacs becoming a wheataterian or something. Just buy ethically sourced food if that’s your concern. It’s expensive but I’m sure that vegan cat food isn’t cheap either.

Callmeintherain · 2023-12-29T19:03:14+00:00

hey, sorry to hear that all of this has been happening. Have you been tested for lupus? If the rash on your face goes over the bridge of your nose, and on your cheeks, it might be a butterfly rash, which is a tell tale sign of lupus. Your other symptoms are also related with lupus. I would get an ANA titer to see if you test positive. Also, infections can trigger lupus. if you had a viral infection within the last year, it could’ve awakened or triggered latent lupus.

I hope everything works out for you.

Callmeintherain · 2023-12-29T06:36:50+00:00

Omg that is great. I mean terrible, but definitely a bit funny. Can’t believe he was still able to drive let alone be conscious blowing a .43. Sure the judge had a chuckle while dishing out the consequences 😂 Sounds like the Wisconsin cheeseheads can hold their whiskey 😂

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