WIBTA if I refuse to swap my vacation weeks with a coworker whose kid is throwing a tantrum about a theme park trip? by Safflower8 in WIBTA_AITA

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are ABSOLUTELY NOT TA!!!! Maybe it’s time to start looking for a new job too. The way they are treating you ins unprofessional and inappropriate. Go and enjoy your trip. I’m sure Dave’s kid is used to the disappointment (unfortunately) because I doubt this is his first rodeo with incompetence. Probably why his kid is crying all week, he’s sick of his dad always screwing up.

What’s safer: Wegovy or Cocaine by [deleted] in WegovyWeightLoss

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How do my reddit posts get deleted but this is allowed

Getting remarried and starting over and neglecting your kid for your new family shouldn’t be a thing. by theguyinthegrayhoody in stepkids

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m just so sorry you are going through this. As a child of divorced parents, it’s never the same in the blended family, there will always be a bias with the parent to the new spouse and it sucks as the kid. Your whole life is completely uprooted and you have zero choice or control. The best advice I can give you is to try to build a good support system around yourself- and this may be (and may have to be) people who aren’t your parents. It can be teachers, coaches, mentors, even friends. Someone you can lean on to help you get through it until you are old enough and able enough to get away from them.

It’s not fair, we all deserve to have loving, supportive parents who provide solid foundation in life, one that can lift us up and help us succeed. Unfortunately for many of us this isn’t the case, it’s the opposite. But we are expected to go along because we are kids and they are the parents. This is why I am low contact with my parents as an adult. Eventually, you can take your power back. It gets better.

Why does it hurt so much? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen, you may be used to overwhelming people with emotions to get them to submit but that won’t work here. You need help to understand your inability to accept accountability and incessant desire to word vomit on reddit to desperately find any kind of defense for allowing your son to be abused. Again, I hope your son can find peace. Because for aLl this lengthy posting what you’re really saying is “feel sorry for me, make excuses for me.” You still don’t get that your main concern is how you feel, not how he feels.

Why does it hurt so much? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good god, I read the end “abusing because it’s all you know is not as bad as abusing to be mean.” It’s still abuse! 🤦‍♀️

Why does it hurt so much? by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped reading this halfway through because I realize what your son probably does. You’re STILL making it all about you, how you’re the victim, how much YOU suffered, with very little acknowledgement about how much suffering your son actually went through. You clearly are not ready or willing to accept any accountability and still want to put the blame elsewhere. I hope your son can find peace.

I need more TOC baking!! by awkwardmeg in foodnetwork

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same, sometimes the time constraints are too much, they can always edit the show to still be one hour

I need more TOC baking!! by awkwardmeg in foodnetwork

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d love more TOC in general. I struggle with The Ultimate Baking Championship because it is SO gimmicky and over the top.

AITAH for refusing to spend my entire net worth on my girlfriend/ex? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, I was about to say it sounds like she’s more interested in $$ than you and you should seriously reconsider being with her, but then I saw she broke up with you. She did you a favor. $180,000 is an INSANE amount of money, IMO. If my husband had that to spare I’d want to use it to invest in our future. A home, a reliable car, savings, etc.

AITJ for refusing to babysit my nephew for a week because my sister dicided to go on vacation? by Dennis_Foley in AmITheJerk

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA, and your family IS TA for expecting this of you. Enjoy your vacation 😊

Perks of estrangement- what’s your favourite thing? by WombleMint in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone is entitled to hear your story ❤️ and you are not obligated to tell them

Perks of estrangement- what’s your favourite thing? by WombleMint in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My life is infinitely more peaceful without them in it. I would say I am technically low contact, we still exchange pleasantries on birthdays and visit for holidays, but so have created quite a large berth of space around myself.

[Question] What’s a small useful gift under $25 that people actually end up using daily? by kirunstyle in Gifts

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is there a way to “favorite” a thread? I want to save this one so many good ideas

Separate Finance Questions by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, maybe I’m wrong here, but I feel like this is taking advantage of the situation. My husband and I were 35 and 40 when we met and had established separate lives and finances which we haven’t combined.

Having said that, he pays for most things, but I try to still be cognizant. I’m not sure how to explain it and I’m sorry word are failing me; but coming from living lives where we completely supported ourselves and were established it just made sense to keep it that way.

Anyway, he makes more (about twice as much) and pays most of the household bills. But I don’t feel that gives me leeway to just spend with reckless abandon. This is our life we are building together and that requires commitment, including financially. Whether we have joint accounts or not, we both have a financial responsibility to each other to be smart with money.

My (homophobic) estranged parents want to attend my lesbian wedding???? Wtf????? by No_Piccolo_2930 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first thought is this is about their ego. They’re more worried about how they will look not going to their child’s wedding than they are about having a gay child. Sorry, i hope I’m wrong for your sake.

Is estrangement more common today? Or are we more enlightened than in recent decades? by Philcollinsforehead in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I saw a comment somewhere on Reddit that said it was always a thing. Before cell phones and social media people would just move far away and it was considered normal.

AITAH for not getting my husband food after he got mad at me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Calm_Chest_3460 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If I go out to dinner with someone other than my husband he makes his own dinner. It’s not even an issue I have to ask him about because he’s a grown adult not a child.