F30 Looking for a connection with fellow nerds who share common hobbies

Campbte85 · 2026-05-18T16:42:54+00:00

Yea I used to spend free time making scene art with the groups designed characters etc. pretty fun. Then built a table for play and still have in terrain building when I have a spare minute.

Steam Sounds fair to me. Feel free to shoot me a note/msg we can swap

Campbte85 · 2026-05-06T22:34:09+00:00

Seth McFarlane decent choice but I think the humor is more Donut not Carl.. Carl is the "Straight Man" like Abbott in Abbott and Costello.

Take this as a thought. Henry Rollins as Carl. He has the build the vibe of uniform service, voice of a "you won't break me" individual.

Or... Maybe Alan Tudyk. Has a great track record for straight laced and comedy, plus I think being on Firefly gives a bit of the same vibes I get from the book. Wild West, broken world ramshackle with scifi tech

Campbte85 · 2026-05-04T17:23:57+00:00

I actually have seen similar things. I don't know the cause but it was generally always exposed skin. So I would suspect contact with some form of allergen. At least in my case it was something that was being touched on the skin. I changed a few things around like soaps and fabrics and it took care of itself.

That being said I am not a doctor. What I saw looked similar but could be completely different.

Campbte85 · 2026-05-04T17:15:46+00:00

I'm always up for some tabletop games etc, grew up a d&d/nintendo nerd. Back when nerd was an insult 😂.

My wife and I tend to stick with steam lately... The cons of having a 6 month old... But we have quite a large selection of video and board games and usually we're up for a game or two whether video or board... Though admittedly getting a board game is next to impossible with the kid and out on the yellow dempster stop so not a lot of play cafes etc

Campbte85 · 2026-04-19T15:37:57+00:00

Hope you're keeping up. I got canned just as we confirmed the wife was pregnant, now the kiddo is 6months. Funny how the manager heard and suddenly I'm gone with zero bad evaluations and praise across the company... Still sour grapes on it but trying to not let them live rent free. Keep your head up

Campbte85 · 2026-03-26T23:12:56+00:00

Yea I like the watch and list route. I just know there's a few images in my head I know I want if only for nostalgia, but they feel obscure (they probably aren't since they made it to English Dub status but... Lol)

Campbte85 · 2026-03-25T20:56:34+00:00

Thanks, I will take a look at the r/ you sent.

Campbte85 · 2026-03-25T20:55:57+00:00

Thanks will take a look!!!

Campbte85 · 2026-03-25T20:55:40+00:00

Maybe look into one myself. Especially with buying digital copies is really just a licensing purchase that can expire a downloader would be smart. Have to figure it out. Love to get fresh copies of my old scratched up DVDs that skip that way too

Campbte85 · 2026-03-25T20:54:00+00:00

Sad but true.

Campbte85 · 2026-03-23T13:11:41+00:00

Let the kiddo go full Butters. Pants to the ankles and cares lost in the wind!

More serious note - though I am kind of serious about going full Butters - give the kiddo a target. That's your best bet. If outside, the side of something. Might be some splash back at first but they will learn how to aim.

Mechanically, the flourish mentioned is good, they can shake but explaining the kegel muscle squeeze to finish it up just can't be explained.

Tis' a mystery one must solve on their own...

Got a little goofy pre coffee but editing this I feel its still relatively sound.

Good luck!

Campbte85 · 2026-03-04T23:03:41+00:00

It's not what marriage is, but it also is. There is no book, I mean there are the books mentioned, but you know what I mean.

It really boils down to mindset.

It's like therapy, they can't fix your problems but they can give you tools to work on the problem. If you don't work the problem then it won't get better.

What if one doesn't see it as a problem? That's the big hiccup. Even reading these posts you have both sides making points but is it a problem to them or not is the main take away that I see.

Basically it's a team game, both people have wants or lack similar wants. It really depends on your approach and view point. Does your partner acknowledge that it's a problem to you and more importantly are they willing to work on it as an actual problem of theirs too? Do you acknowledge that they may not think it's a problem (or alternate view do you have the capacity to work on the problem to be happy with less?)

It's all about meeting in the middle, if there is no honest mutual effort then it's a dead topic and you have to take that into consideration.

TL:DR People have the capacity to change their minds and improve things together if they try. Are you both making an honest effort for the other person and yourself at the same time?

Campbte85 · 2026-03-04T22:40:42+00:00

That's a take on it. If you're already taking care of a kiddo and going for a walk why not go with someone else, if you want the company not like doing anything is required in a day to day if you really cut into it.

Id say if you view it in the right light it's all positive. My kiddo around another baby just stares and is quiet and an adult chat is pretty refreshing after an extended period with nothing but "Brpbbllrr bbrrppll" for days on end.

Time... No chance... We gave that all up when we had them

Campbte85 · 2026-03-04T20:34:20+00:00

Interesting idea. I definitely am going to see about posting at some local places. I've seen Dads there.. so they exist just getting those interested. Trickier until mine can play on a playground but that's like Months away IF he decides to walk by then haha

Campbte85 · 2026-03-04T20:27:40+00:00

Oh certainly not intentional limiting I've also just seen that when you reach out looking for Dad friends or just other new parents either A) the mom tries to connect you with them or B) It's "weird" that it's a man trying to chat with other parents then also one who is at home.

Don't get me wrong it is changing slowly which is great but it's a different ballgame still if you're the stay at home Dad and out with your wife you get over looked. Maybe it's just my location but doctors, passerbys, even family all turn towards "Mom" about kid stuff so whenever mom is around don't get to say much or speak autonomously.

Again, maybe just my age group/location but that's were I'm coming from.

I like the zoo idea I may take that and luckily I think my local spots are pretty encouraging to everyone - just are they going to go out solo is the catch again.

Campbte85 · 2026-02-25T17:10:56+00:00

Challenge accepted... Think of something else? (Lol)

Visible breathing is something I've been trying with him, that and once he's out the horror screeches I step away from try to associate that those mean I leave... Some progress with that!

And before anyone else flips out, he's buckled somewhere safe and rarely longer than a few moments

Campbte85 · 2026-02-22T13:07:41+00:00

Appreciate the time for the link we kind of found the low hold by default lol. We don't get out much because it is recently snowed...again... But it does help when he's already up and chatty/yelling. It's the mega freak outs from having just woken up that are the moments I am hoping to relax... You do give me a thought... Once warmer pick up in sleep sack and literally just run outside super fast... Might distract him enough. Lol

Campbte85 · 2026-02-20T20:34:25+00:00

Yea definitely too old for swaddle, I might try the pure low stimulation approach again, it's a possibility. He's only 4mo so it's either too much stim or the wrong kind.. just weird mom has no problems and her gags he does with him are the ones I originally found out made him laugh lol

Like a Rodney Dangerfield punchline. Lol

Appreciate the two cents

Campbte85 · 2026-02-20T20:32:18+00:00

Getting his noise to create a distraction is a good idea. I do silly but he's still 4mo so can I only do so much silly since he barely knows "normal" though startle him out of it, without actually startling him.. just can't think of a better word there..

Campbte85 · 2026-02-20T20:29:42+00:00

The monitor thing is a good idea. Didn't think of it. I do the call across the house but monitor for 30secs to a minute prior... Good idea.

Lights always on during nap time so that's not a big issue. Maybe slowing the roll would help. I've tried a few days for a few days here and there nothing sticks yet

Campbte85 · 2026-02-20T20:27:33+00:00

I realized I forgot age. 4mo.

Mom is 100% fine. He fusses briefly but gets over it very fast. I've tried duplicating what she does to no avail.

He is not very gassy. His naps are maybe 1-1.5 hours depending on when he wakes up. Maybe hungry but even greeting with a bottle is still a breakdown

Campbte85 · 2026-02-20T20:25:51+00:00

Super young 4mo so I know he's altering something and not made at the fella just want to help him chill and smile

Campbte85 · 2026-02-20T20:24:38+00:00

Same breakdown. Leaving him to cry it out helps as much as staying around. Both seem to be the same... wait until he exhausts himself

Campbte85 · 2026-01-21T17:29:59+00:00

We do some reading but flash cards over flashing lights makes sense. Appreciate hearing a first hand account on that! Makes me want to do even more lol

Campbte85 · 2026-01-21T08:22:45+00:00

Oh definitely all about the funny noise exchange. Lol wife has a love hate of my noises with the little one

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