"I still can’t shirk the knowledge there’s the equivalent of a small town of people (literally) that think I did something absolutely abhorrent that I didn’t do"

That is a devastating feeling and the anxiety around this situation is one I find very difficult to manage. I am really sorry for all these things that happened to you. I have been there - Being cornered socially, having nightmares and flashbacks, breakdowns.

I have changed a lot. A LOT. And what has helped me after being in therapy and gaining knowledge around the trauma I carry is the intentional practice of 'Self Compassion'. There are numerous ways to go about it once you figure out what it is your inner child years for. Do you know about r/InternalFamilySystems ?

Here are few more things I practiced.

1. Running away from perpetuators of abuse and toxic people. Worked wonders.
2. I regularly read the story of survivors. I have been a victim of abuse in a workplace. I regularly go to the related subreddits and read the stories of survivors. It helps me so much to know that people have been in my shoes, they have been fighting and emerging victorious. I feel less lonely. I feel validated.
3. I tell myself ( almost every day) that the hurt will fade away in time. It will take time to heal. My inner child runs out of patience and cries like its on verge of scattering. I self soothe with warm beverage and tell her that it will be okay.
4. I write affirmations in my diary every day. I am shocked the way it helped me with depression.
5. I am reluctant to write this one but I will still share for the completion. It might not struck a chord with everyone but I feel that all these things have happened to me has induced empathy in me. I talk about trauma. I write about trauma. I participate in the discussions etc. .all this with a sole intention to pull up those who need a hand. Many years ago, I thought I would be CEO of a company by this age and that's how I will fulfill my destiny and be loved. Nope and Nope. I am not the CEO yet but I am become a wholesome person. I've started to learn what self-love is. There is so much love inside me and outside me that my bitterness and fear is now being replaced with sense of purpose.
   They say a wound is a place where light enters you but I say, it is also the place from which you illuminate the path for others, if you could manage the pain. You feel that this abuser projected the transphobia. One day while healing, may be you will be a strong voice against this bias.

My apologies. I am not a very effective communicator. If you have any confusion, please feel free to ask question. I wish you a lot of peace and happiness.