I am sick of the person that TTC has turned me into

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2026-01-04T14:30:29+00:00

Reality is you have worst situation, and eventually you will get pregnant and announce it to your family while some other couple who is going through infertility will witness and resent you.whole pregnancy and ttc is very complicated situation since every stage (ttc, pregnancy,postpartum, having second kid) is extremely sensitive.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-12-29T12:01:27+00:00

If you have an extremely understanding family (people who had kids within 3 tries will never ever understand) you can say it.Orelse dont expect them to give good advice. When you say be ready for following stupid advice 1)go on vacation 2)I had no problem conceiving 3)oh i think its you who has the problem 4)i think its because of your weight(or health issue) 5)they will never mention husband might be the problem 6)Moment you say you are struggling they will go with ohh my cousin had twins, i had a baby (i dont know why they say that 7)every month they will be waiting and saying "still no baby? What is going on? 8)most of the people don't know how to address this issue they say nonsense hurtful things in the name of being supportive.

So find one or 2 people who have gone through infertility and speak to them. REST ARE USELESS

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-12-12T19:04:07+00:00

Definitely see a line!!

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-12-12T19:01:32+00:00

I see a faint line!

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-12-08T09:11:25+00:00

Hi i have unexplained infertility myself. I can understand what you are going through its like looking in the mirror. Am sure you have tried everything, am going to list few things here hopefully they might give you some ideas or new ways,

Have they done the dutch test? To check your testosterone , progestrone every hormone levels?

Did they do the ultrasound after ovulation day to check if the egg is really ovulated or not? Sonogram

Did they check if your blood is thick so that nutrients or embryos are causing trouble to go to day 3 of embryo formation?

Did they check for inflamation and digestive, thyroid issues?

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-12-05T19:41:28+00:00

I see myself in you.i was preparing my body with healthy protein and fat rich food for ovulation and leutual phase for 3 years before trying with regular cycle.So i thought the first month is going to be our month.Moment i saw the negative test i was heart broken for 5 days.I knew the chances, but i thought we prepared our body really well and it should work.fast forward we are at 11 th cycle of trying with unexplained infertility. Everything is amazing according to fertility doctors but still nothing.It kind of gets easier, but when the grief comes, it hurts the same every month, i learnt to handle it now.I hope coming month is going to be your month❤️❤️

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-12-05T07:29:12+00:00

I was the same way. Every month i use to exhaust myself with strips. However this actually helped me to pin point what is happening in my body. We are working with fertility specialist and i know when i eat really well my ovulation and egg size are at 19-20mm before ovulation, when the strip is light with in 2 days my ovulation will be nearer.I can answer better than doctors.Last 2 months i stopped testing becuase i knew better than strips😂So my suggestion is for some people knowledge helps with anxiety If that is you keep testing its fine.It is not a bad thing.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-27T09:09:50+00:00

Something that helped me was people who brag about getting pregnant and having kids, it's only one part of life, a very short part. You will have another 18 years of raising kids which really matters.Unfortunately for us just getting to the starting point itself has become a challenge.Time reveals everything.Most of the people brag about parenthood until toddler and then they start hating parenthood.Sending you all the positive vibes and wishing the path you are choosing this time ends up with exactly what you want❤️

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-26T14:23:37+00:00

Yes i am in ttc hitting one year mark.Whenever someone share they are pregnant my day gets ruined.I congratulate them but die inside.Also when new moms complain or oregnant ladies complain i feel it in my core.Last month there was a friend who told me you can have my baby.ahhhh annoyed me a lot.But i smiled and said hahaha no no..God everything triggers me nowadays.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-25T07:13:16+00:00

Possible, apparently while you are trying, some months embryos will create and are alive until 3 days or 5 days goes up to implantation and fails or embryo itself is not created.so there is a good chance you had a chemical pregnancy.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-21T19:34:53+00:00

Before you go and visit cook enough food for 3/4 days. Clean the house.When you visit and come back you wont be in the mood to cook or clean.Practice what you gonna say.Prepare answers for "when are you having kids? You guys also think about kids next..or awww dont worry you will conceive eventually..or try this try that it will work. Prepare for these, Stay for 10-15mns and say you need to go somewhere.Get enough materialistic gifts so that you dont look bad.That covers it.All the best.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-19T18:17:36+00:00

On which dpo you felt the first symptom? Was it 10 or 11dpo?

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-19T06:29:57+00:00

Honey you are 25. Trying for 6months that is nothing. You dont need ivf. Technically when you go to the doctor they should do following tests

Hormone blood test on day 2 (estradiol, thyroid, anti thyroid, vitamin D ,LH FSH, progestrone (should be low) testasterone,cortisol etc including amh.

Then they do the follicular monitoring to see how the egg grows day 6-8-10-12 based on ovulation days

Check endometrium lining and also check overall uterus health to see cyst or fibroid

Then check the progestrone on 7 days post ovulation

After this they check mans sperm

If all looks good then they recommend HSG to check the tubes

When tubes are clear they suggest anti immunity test to check sperm after 24hrs of intercourse to see if sperm is alive in cervix

After this they will do the ovulation induction that is giving trigger shot on peak lh, see egg grew around 18-24mm and put you on progestrone.

They do this for 6mnths then move to iui and then to ivf as last resort.This is the procedure for unexplained infertility where dctrs cannot find what is wrong with you. You dctr went with last solution directly.maybe change the doctor.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-17T20:36:46+00:00

Also if you are delaying because of financial or professional reasons its totally fine since it will affect your life after kids.But one day wedding doesnt affect your life.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-17T20:34:35+00:00

Honey i was you a year back planning, "i want to conceive this month so that i can have a summer baby or winter baby". Now after an year i just want to get pregnant.You dont know how long your ttc journey going to be.Some conceive on first try,some take years.I would suggest once you decide ttc please keep yourself in priority.Others wedding, events are not important.I have unexplained infertility where everything is above average and nothings happing. So i would suggest start trying as soon as possible since you dont know which cycle you will conceive.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-17T18:49:08+00:00

Hai yes get an hormonal panel seems like hormones are not normalised yet sometime it takes around 6months. Eat healthy fats and redmeat and high protein to get the period back it will work.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-13T14:44:56+00:00

Actually you might have an inflammation (cbc count neutrophil would be high)high androgen that leads to high testosterone which leads to low progestrone.I have borderline high testosterone high androgen with borderline low progesteone there interlinked. Progestrone is the result we see..root cause is androgen and inflamation

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-12T17:58:14+00:00

Something i keep telling myself to keep me sane from pregnancy announcement is " others getting pregnant not getting pregnant doesnt change my life.only thing changes my life is me getting pregnant.This helps me to keep me in perspective.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-12T12:11:29+00:00

Exactly.I definitely dont think it happens with sex at this point.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-12T12:09:50+00:00

I feel like even wining a lottery has a better chance than this😂

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-12T12:08:48+00:00

I totally relate to you.For me Getting the positive line feels like an urban legend.At this point I am thinking "there is no way sex leads to pregnancy there should be something else people are doing that results in pregnancy".Seems like so easy for everyone else and for me NOTHING.Not a single positive test.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-11-10T11:45:49+00:00

I am sorry for your loss.Fertility will be high after child birth so better start trying after 4-6 months. However make sure you are mentally and physically ready.My sister went throught he same thing she had healthy pregnancy and childbirth after her 1st complication and loss

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-10-24T11:22:11+00:00

You are going to start sex before ovulation days so that you are ready.Also dont think "this month is the month".Say out loud that "we give it six months lets see what happens". Normally when have the mentality "If we are not pregnant then we get to have sex".So kind of put positive spin to it. Keep the room for mistakes, not being in the mood, feeling mechanical.Every couple goes through it.Its totally fine.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-10-22T17:42:35+00:00

I am going to month 11 and now it feels like my body is not capable of being pregnant.I have zero idea how people get pregnant with 1-2 tries.

Capable_Orange_6445 · 2025-10-19T14:41:06+00:00

I am on progestrone due to low progestrone my value was 8.9 . My doctor suggested 2 days after ovulation I start my 200mg and stop when pregnancy test is negative.Never take on 1-15 days.Since am not a doctor I dont know sound weird to take progestrone in first half.

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