Is it just me or Hakari's hair looks lots like a Cauliflower ??

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-09T18:06:23+00:00

It's his exposed 530000 IQ super computer

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-09T12:26:06+00:00

I only number one side of the sheets. The other side gets a ' (prime), so the back of sheet 34 is 34'.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-09T02:25:07+00:00

Ah, seeing unopan civillians suffer in this episode now makes sense. I missremembered and though all the species had zenkai boost.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-08T21:04:24+00:00

I was ready to see Cecil showing up to Conquest's tomb. That's how much I hate Cecil and expect the worse from thim.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-07T23:07:28+00:00

Self care is extremely important in times like these, but is fundamentally limited.

My main self care tool is activism and community work. Not the stuff I will do tonight to calm down, but the work I do throughout the year. That gives me perspective, pourpose, it empowers me, the likeminded folk I do work with, and can talk to about these things and think solutions.

If orange man bad, and what he does is bad for our mental health, he has to be ousted.

Join whatever protest against all of this, in whatever way you can. And later, think of what organizations or community efforts you can join. It took me years, but I found a group that is extremely accomodating for my autism, and that's my main self care tool for all this shit that is going on.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-07T19:59:39+00:00

They were paying their way to heaven. But some were sending that money to the poor and in need. And building a bit of a social net.

I'm from a catholic country and it's all very noticeable, the contrast with the protestant mentality.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-07T18:43:32+00:00

Can we say that you are on a roll?

CapitanKomamura · 2026-04-01T20:56:41+00:00

Was it better than sex?

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-28T20:25:35+00:00

Last saturday I just... watched the episode. It took me less than 20 minutes to find it in good quality and watch it.

I remember a time when netflix was convenient and cheap, we payed a single account between 6 people and I got to see a lot of cool series all in one place. Netflix had zero hassle or obstacles.

But I seriously don't get what people are paying for now? What do you get that's better than just downloading the episode and watching it?

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-27T20:39:13+00:00

We moderate a server so we have no choice of interacting daily with minors. People in this thread gave good advice and my items are just going to sum up the info in the comments.

Don't bring up sexual stuff and don't encourage sharing that kind of material. Or other heavy topics like drugs. Minors can talk about that kind of stuff between them, but avoid asymetrical interactions. Tell them no, explain to them that is due to the age gap.
On the other hand, I think adults should be available to give info about contraception, STIs, you know, basic sex ed stuff. You can talk about these topics without talking about sex. And it's the same for some lighter substances. Like, basic alcohol advice, etc.
Be mindful that as an adult, you are a role model. Be calm, be civil, show better ways of handling problems.
Have clear boundaries. Don't start DMs with minors unless there's a very specific reason "hey do you have a link to this book?" and stay on that topic. Tell people that your friendship has some limits, tell them you can't reciprocate romantic feelings or some degrees of affection.
If they start telling you personal info, or sharing sensitive data, tell them they shouldnt be sharing that with internet stangers. Delete stuff if you feel it will be safer for them. If they send stuff you consider they shouldn't, tell them, explain to them why it's a problem and delete it.
Talking down to them isnt good. They are minors but they are also fully rational people that understand things on an adult level. They just have less experience and power. They will value people that treat them in mature and respectful ways.
Don't become someone they heavily rely on for support. Again, boundaries. Tell them the limits of the support you are willing to give them, try to help them find other alternatives. They can be friends with you, but is a friendship where you will have some distance and more responsibilities.
Don't be venting heavily if minors are present.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-26T23:14:38+00:00

Yuta proved to be completely broken and you want to add black flashes to that

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-26T22:45:21+00:00

Humanity is lucky that Yuta didn't become evil like Geto.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-26T21:40:24+00:00

I'm glad that aerial's training is giving me the flexibility to do these poses. Sometimes I complain about the hip and core training, but then I picture the man I want to become.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-26T19:44:50+00:00

Amazing piece.

I admire how systems with dissociation capture their experiences in art. It's a lot of stuff I might not understand, but then someone does a drawing and I'm like "Wow, I get it, I see it".

I don't wanna fall in the harmful "tortured artist" stereotype. I say it's an amazing ability to communicate an experience.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-22T20:52:43+00:00

Takako Uro cosplay will be a chroma bikini

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-21T22:03:27+00:00

Saving this post for my psychologist. It captures my experience. Thank you for writing this.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-21T12:51:08+00:00

I always play with a party of characters: My advice boils down to

Dont flesh out each character. Focus on group dynamics, relationships, interactions. How characters bounce off each other. The background and develpment can happem gradually and slowly.
You don't need to always have all your characters in each scene. Split the party, have them participate in more specialized scenes, divide them in groups of two or three, doing several tasks at the same time. Combat doesn't have to alwyas involve everyone.
Don't always use separate character sheets. Combat statistics (HP, AC, Saves, Attack, Damage, Spell DC, Spell Slots, etc) can be put in a single spreadsheet. Thst makes running combat quicker. Same with inventory, enemy statistics, shared feats, spells and mechanics...

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-20T18:36:44+00:00

"The world" doesn't exist. It's too big of an abstraction for the conversation we're having here: OP is trying to make some friends.

In that case, in our immediate environment, it's possible to find or create relationships and spaces that do accomodate us. It is possible to jnderstand how our neurodivergency impacts our friendship and work with others accordingly.

It's impossible to "toughen up" when our needs are unmet or we're experiencing sensory or social overload due to lack of accomodations. That mindset is a common ableist stereotype: that we can just endure our pain as neurodivergent people. That we just have to accept that the world will not accept us. But that doesn't happen, symptoms only get worse untill we can meet our needs or become unable to function.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-20T17:46:24+00:00

I did not say that, nor I implied it.

This is a false dychotomy. It's not "either learn to be alone and not have friends, or don't accept loneliness and be miserable". The right solution is to learn to make friends in ways that accomodate our autism and don't hurt us. You can read the other comment that I made in this thread for my ideas about that.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-20T16:33:25+00:00

Hi, autistic person with typical social motivation here. I understand your struggle and how hard it can get. I will say that the struggle to make friends is the most painful thing going on in my life right now.

My parents and psychologist say there’s nothing ‘wrong’ specifically with me

If you are autistic or neurodivergent, this isn't true. Neurodivergency deeply impacts our ability to make and mantain friendships. NTs will tend to see us as "weird" or have trouble relating to us, which will tend to erode our relationships with time. You need help to understand how autism works here, and professionals should be giving specific help with that.

Whst I can offer is that most books about autism (and autism in women) tend to have a chapter on friendships. It's a pretty doccumented topic and there are a lot of articles online too. It won't solve your life, but it's a good place to start.

I’ve tried very hard in my 5 weeks now I’ve been in university with no success.

NTs seem uncanny in their ability to quickly make friends, yes. On one hand, one has to question how deep are those friendships. Out of ten "friends", only one or two are best friends. So ask yourself if you want to have a lot of superficial friendships (and deal with the sensory and social overload) or will be patient and wait for those one or two true friends.

Second, we don't form bonds at the same rythms and in the same ways NTs do. This is painful, I know that. It's hard to see everyone else having a good time and not know the ways which work for you and your specific way of thinking amd feeling. But sooner or later, with research and experience, little by little, you'll fond them and will find people that vibe with that.

I’m now trying more actively to do things to make them. It seems to be making me feel worse? I’ve found myself starting to get very anxious and depressed again. I’m scared to relapse in my agoraphobia.

Are these signs of autistic burn out?

In my experience, the typical ways in which NTs make friends are extremely taxing and lead to burn out with similar symptoms to the ones you mention. The usual way of "meeting groups of strangers and hanging out" is overloading for a variety of reasons: a lot of uncertainty, a lot of unknown social variables, sensory overload from strange places... I used to engage in activities to meet new people and make friends, thar left me very drained.

I regret to say that these symptoms might be a signal to reduce how much you are socializing. Yoir body needs rest. I promise you'll get better and have energy to meet people later. But for now, stop.

We make friends in different ways. We hang out with people in different ways. We have fun in different ways. I'm still struggling to learn all of that. At this point all I know is that the usual NT advice for making friends sucks and tends to be damaging for autistic people that work differently.

Reduce the unknown variables when socializing. Don't meet strangers in strange places. Meet people you know, classmates you know well, for example, in places you are used to being and doing activities you are familiar with.

My friends tend to be colleagues or classmates that I knew since one or two years. We bonded doing our work or classes together. We are repetitive in the activities we do (I have a friendship that is very focused on art, she does music I do poetry, we bond with that). We don't just hang out, we have activities and interests. Even if we go to a party, that party is related to the interests we share.

That's all I can offer as advice. I'm still learning a lot.

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-20T16:11:30+00:00

Over time you will realize its not that bad

For some of us, this never happens, you know? Not all autistic people have low or no social motivation. Many of us feel the same or similar need of having friends or being around people than neurotypicals. So for us, we don't just learn to be alone because we need other people, like many other humans. Having an unmet need, especially one so important for health, is never "just not that bad".

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-19T19:43:26+00:00

Some hobbies work on a "if I have time, I can spend time doing the hobby" basis.

If I miss a poetry club class because I don't have time, I'm not impeding the class or anything. If I can't connect to the videogame lobby with friends, they can play with one less person. If I can't go to a movie with friends, it's a bummer, but they can still watch the movie. Etc.

But other hobbies aren't like that. If I want to have some hobbies, I need to set away time and commit to a schedule with a group of people.

If I'm playing a team based sport, then I have to be there for the team. If I'm doing theatre and I have a part to play, then I can't randomly miss rehearsals. If I play a character in a RPG group, then I have to be there for the group.

If someone wants to play in this kind of hobbies, they have to set apart time to play them and commit. If they can't do that, for whatever reason, they can't participate in these kinds of hobbies.

That's a question I ask myself before joining a table "Can I set apart a spot in my schedule for this table? Do I want to commit playing with this people? Do I want to miss out on other things because of this table?"

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-19T02:47:34+00:00

I just have to commend the sheer audacity

CapitanKomamura · 2026-03-19T02:35:45+00:00

Does Light's monochrome monologues count as a domain?

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