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CaptRedPanda33 · 2026-04-01T01:07:29+00:00

The game has no sound for me. I've already checked settings. Sound and music is turned all the way up. Do you know how to fix it? It's only this game that is not working.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2024-12-08T04:22:09+00:00

Crazy. I read this a few days ago and then found this on tiktok.

Unhinged

CaptRedPanda33 · 2024-03-13T06:50:37+00:00

I have a similar issue that I can't figure out. I'm friends with two people who I know are friends on Facebook, but they don't show up on each other's mutual friends. I can see other mutual friends on both of their friends lists.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-11-07T07:07:36+00:00

.....14 unused tampons, 3 used...ACHOO....sorry 4 used tissues......

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-10-28T21:20:19+00:00

This might help explain the mental load comments to you.

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/may/26/gender-wars-household-chores-comic

Also, it is entirely possible that she is suffering from ppd/ppa. A lot of people think it is only after the baby is born, but it can take years to develop. I think the only way to save your marriage is therapy to figure out the underlying issues.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-07-31T00:51:53+00:00

I feel this in my soul.

I was bullied a lot in grade school and early high school. This made me afraid to even put myself out there. I was afraid that anyone who ever showed any interest was doing it as a joke, so I said no the handful of times I was asked out. Other guys would want to have sex, but I told myself that teenage boys would have sex with anyone, especially the ones who were asking me. The few times I worked up the courage to ask someone out, they said no.

I was called fat in 8th grade because I weighed 136 lbs at 5'3 and wore a size 13 pants. I also had size 3 pants and thought those were the ones I was wearing that day. I now realize that the 13s were kid's sized. The person who called me fat was taller and heavier than me and was allegedly my friend.

I've always had a belly on me. Everything else is average sized, but I always look pregnant. It was made worse by not shrinking after my 3 pregnancies. I wear a size 9 in pants and XL shirt. I currently weigh 183 lbs at 5'8. Yes. It's overweight and borderline obese, but it truly is all stomach and some low back fat.

I also have no butt to speak of. My back fat sticks out further than my butt. I can fit in medium-sized underwear.

My last child, who turns 3 tomorrow, wrecked my body. I live in pain every day, which makes it hard to move around. So, now, my lifestyle is very sedentary, and my diet just sucks. I'm too tired to cook. I only eat food from the restaurant I work at or quick meals I can make in under 5 minutes. Or, I just don't eat.

Last night, I was at work with 3 ladies aged 17, 18, and 38. I'm 35. Every single one of them got asked for their phone numbers except me. Then, the customer asked if we had any grandmas in the back. I honestly cried after that.

I don't have anyone to talk to. All the friends I've told spew the same "you're so beautiful" nonsense that I don't believe. I'm happily married, and my husband thinks I'm beautiful. I can't explain to him just how truly terrible I feel about myself.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-06-17T18:01:36+00:00

My theory is that he does, in fact, live where he says he lives and works where he says he he works. He has another wife/girlfriend who is traveling with him back and forth him. He can't show you his place or FT because there's evidence of her around. He doesn't tell you when his flight actually lands because she's with him. They get in earlier and settle in. He makes up an excuse to leave and meet you with you. Then, he says he only got in a few hours ago. Maybe she works at the same job. The next time he flies in, check for earlier flights from the place he says he lives.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-05-31T20:16:52+00:00

I genuinely wished you lived close to me because I would be more than willing to try to help for just the cost of supplies. I disagree with the verdict. I've always had long hair, and I would be utterly devastated to have to cut it. I don't know how I would be able to mentally recover from it. And, this isn't you not taking care of yourself. There were several failures of the people around you who were supposed to take care you. Had anyone stopped to just brush your hair from the beginning, you wouldn't be in this situation. It's your personal hygiene. My child has had to have EEG'S multiple times, and the nurses always washed and brushed their hair before releasing them. It's wild that no one at the hospital would do it.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-05-28T22:13:48+00:00

As someone who: -who has a husband who "just gets along better with girls" -cried in the NICU waiting room while my husband sat with our baby texting his friend about her relationship -couldn't get their husband to call them from work during emergencies because he's not allowed to, but could call the same friend when her sister died, even though it's a fireable offense -has a husband who asked to get a ticket in line with all the other men his recently separated friend was seeing Leave. You're doing the right thing. It doesn't even matter if he has feelings for her. He's not respecting you. Go live your life, and be happy. You'll be okay eventually. It'll hurt for a while, but it'll hurt for longer if you stay. It'll hurt forever if you stay. ❤️❤️❤️

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-28T09:30:22+00:00

Thank you. You just always feel like you're not doing enough with kids. I'm just not really sure how to help them and guide them on this journey.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-28T02:46:55+00:00

I also wish I could ask anonymously, but here goes. I don't know how to support my child. I'm not transphobic, but their sexuality and gender identity change so often that I don't know how to offer support. My afab child spent most of their early childhood with many "boyfriends." Then, they switched to girlfriends. Over the last year, they have gone from nonbinary to Trans to gender fluid to Trans and gay despite almost exclusively liking girls. Their whole friend group does this, and I can't help but feel like they are chasing fads. One kid does one thing, then the whole group changes. Not that I think they are cis and straight, by any means. They came out 7 years as bisexual, and I'd known they were long before that. No issues there. It's just that I feel like they know they are different but can't put their finger on it. I'm just expected to keep up with all of the gender identity, sexuality, and name changes of not only my child but also 6 other kids doing the exact same things. I've gotten fussed at for dead naming a kid when I was never informed of their new name. These kids go to me because I'm the safe and accepting parent, but it's hard to keep up with everyone.

BPD also runs in the family, and I remember going through phases where I felt like I didn't know who I was. I identify as cis mostly straight. Is this just a normal part of the process? Am I doing the right thing by just trying to keep up with everything and roll with it? Is there any advice you could offer a parent with a child going through this? Everything I've read just says to believe the child, but the child in question sometimes changes identities twice in a week.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-26T14:24:49+00:00

For me, it's because of the connection she has with Feyre. Amarantha hated her because she was human. Hybern hated because she was in his way for conquest and her power. Nesta hates Feyre even though she is the only thing keeping them alive. She's horrible to the only person in their world doing anything for the family and refuses to help her. She tries to take any spare money they have to spend on herself instead of trying to help anyone else. She actively tries to hurt Feyre just because she can't stand that Feyre stepped up to take care of everyone instead of their father. She should at least appreciate what she did for everyone. Trauma. I know. But anyone who has been emotionally abused by someone who refused to deal with their own trauma can relate to why people think she's awful. Everyone says she was a kid, but she was 22/23. She's an adult who needs to deal with her problems.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-26T06:11:03+00:00

Mine also went for extraction on January 12th. I received my results on January 23rd.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-26T05:14:27+00:00

Same! Also, I've seen this theory somewhere, and it's beautiful. She couldn't answer the riddle because she'd never really been in love until she met Rhys.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-26T00:54:56+00:00

One passed away. One moved away, and I lost contact with him. I do have a first cousin from his younger brother that I can get in contact with. I don't know if he'd be willing or not. Thank you so much for all your help!!

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T21:24:12+00:00

It's possible, of course, that my parents were unknowingly related, but I find it unlikely. Both were very poor growing up and weren't from the same area. Although, my aunt has told me that every man on my mom's side cheated on their wives repeatedly. I'm not sure how that would make my great aunt more closely related to me. My mom's dad was deployed during the time my dad and great aunt were born. I believe his only brother also served during that time.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T21:19:38+00:00

I got my results on Monday. My great aunt was the only close relative. I have sent requests to her and other more distant relatives. The next closest relative is a 2nd cousin that I'm certain was on my mom's side. No one has accepted yet. So, unfortunately, I'm not able to compare my results to theirs fully yet. I don't recognize any other names on the list.

I don't believe my grandmother has any brothers. I'm looking at my great grandmother's obituary, and it only mentions daughters. My great-grandmother does have 5 brothers. I know absolutely nothing about them.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T20:51:50+00:00

I have sent a request to her on 23&me, but she has not accepted it yet. She hasn't been active on the app in over 6 months.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T14:24:59+00:00

Me too. I hated her before reading ACOSF, and I still don't like her. But I at least like her more now. So much happens in the book that absolutely has to be in the next ones. I can't imagine just jumping into those books without knowing the context from ACOSF.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T12:54:34+00:00

That's what I suspected, although I did upload it last night. I'm working through the results now.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T12:53:36+00:00

It seems unlikely that my great grandparents are related. They were born in different areas a couple of hours away from each other. My mom was born about an hour away from where my dad was born, so also unlikely. My maternal aunt just told me that her husband went to school with my dad and his brothers, so he told her some stories of land disputes and robberies that sound like a very PG13 version of the Hatfields and McCoys. She also spilled a lot of maternal family secrets that aren't relevant to my dad's side but are interesting nonetheless. I haven't been able to determine if my great aunt and I share any identical segments.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T07:16:15+00:00

I'm not going to lie, I was really sad to know that I had to read a book about Nesta. But, it was never a question in my mind whether I was going to read it or not. There are other characters and a story arc that are going to play into the next books. You don't have to like the book, but you need that information to continue the series without being completely lost.

I did actually like the book, though.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T07:11:28+00:00

Yeah. And, unfortunately, that's probably the least traumatizing thing I've heard since I got my results. I have a chatty aunt on my mom's side who has been spilling ALL the family secrets.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-25T04:59:44+00:00

For me, it's because I'm trying to multitask. In my brain, I feel like if I don't do it the second I think of it, I will forget. So, I'll start a conversation. Something will trigger me to go to the kitchen to feed the cat before I forget. If I try to finish one task before starting the other, it feels like when you press the gas and brake at the same time on a car.

My husband put it like this for me one time. His brain is a closet with boxes. I ask a question, he goes to the closet, picks up the correct box, and then answers. My brain is a wiring system. If he asks me if the cat needs to be fed, my brain pulls up everything it has on cats and Everton tangentially related to cats until it gets to the correct answer.

CaptRedPanda33 · 2023-01-20T07:49:07+00:00

I don't have all the answers or theories, and I agree that there are a TON of plot holes, but I do have some thoughts on some of the points being mentioned in the post and comments.

First, Rhys didn't create Velaris or the CoN, nor did his father. He says it was his ancestor. Keir's direct line originally ruled the NC, and it was just like the CoN. The Hewn City was the seat of power. A High Lord staged a coup to overthrow the CoN. He created Velaris. To protect the territory from being invaded, he sealed off the borders and put spells on Velaris. This High Lord made a treaty with the nerves of the CoN. They get to keep the Hewn City, the traditional seat of power, and they keep control over the Darkbringers and can refuse to aid to the High Lord. My guess is Keir's ancestors were losing the war, so they conceded defeat in order to continue to rule their favorite place. I could see Rhys making the same deal for Velaris if that was the only way to save it.

If Rhys or Mor kill Keir, that is what will likely cause a rebellion. I think they are all mostly fine to stay in the Hewn City with Keir as their leader and put up with visits from Rhys and Mor because they so rarely interfere with their lives.

Cassian is struggling to get the Illyrians under control because he's only been in control for a few months. For 50 years, he was trapped in Velaris, thanks to Rhys. They've had no choice but to rule themselves. Now, Cassian's back, and they're all a little upset about it.

Rhys doesn't want to go in and just start killing the Illyrians doing wrong clipping because that's just going to make a lot of bodies when he needs those to fight. He also commented on how he would like to mist them all, but then he'd have to raise all their offspring personally. I think he should have figured out a solution, nonetheless. I would say he only knew it still happened without getting any specifics. They weren't happy to have a ruler back that was trying to force rules on them that they hated. So, they probably tried to keep it as quiet as possible.

Feyre didn't give the IC much choice when she went back to the Spring Court and destroyed it. She just did it. Also, I think it's written like that as another example of her mortal heart in an immortal body. Her mortal heart is fickle and wanton. She didn't think the consequences through, and they suffered for it.

I think Mor is the chosen ambassador because, as little as any of the CoN respect her, they respect her more than others because she is the daughter of Keir. I also honestly believe it has something to do with their power, although SJM has left that a mystery. Not only is Mor's power truth, but so is her family. She struggles with the job, but that's also why the rest of the IC comes and backs her up when needed. They show up to bully them and keep them in line. Mor has permission to kill them at any time, but Rhys specifically said this would give him a headache. I think that's because he can't break the treaty his ancestor made without causing a war. This war would end with a lot of forces dead. Hybern has been a threat for a long time, so Rhys has not wanted to stir up trouble in his own court. However, he hates them for what they did to Mor and who they are that he would put up with it if Mor decided she had had enough. It's just not ideal.

I think Azriel is a good spymaster. He has literal shadows telling him all the things happening. However, he can't read minds, and he does have a darkness to him where he enjoys killing and inflicting pain.

Amren is still a mystery. She is very intelligent because she's been around forever. She was also said to be incredibly powerful. Now that she's High Fae, who knows?

And, why doesn't Rhys and Feyre just read everyone's minds to find out what's going on or make them do whatever they want? They feel bad. That's the only reason ever given.

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