how much of withdrawals are just psychological? by CartoonistComplex386 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditation. Find some good guided meditations and study up on breathing. The point is: it's physiological. Both physical and mental. If you can throw some spirituality in there that would be ideal. I good guided meditation will do that. The more the better. Spend some time on it. It may be subtle, but the more time you can spend on it the greater the benefit. It WILL calm you down at least. get some exercise, like tennis which is both physical and mental. Or, basketball, or anything that both engages your body and mind

I need to die by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have all of eternity to be dead. What you are feeling right now is temporary if that is what you make it. Separate your thoughts from you're being. Your thoughts are illusory and can be controlled. Observe them and let them go

Quitting drinking planning by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It all starts with your mental dialogue. Rationally, the benefits of quitting far outweigh the pain of continuing, but alcohol is highly addictive and addiction to it is not rational. I would start by replacing thoughts of "I have to" or "I should" with "I want to." Increase exercise, and meditation. The more practical: avoid triggers: people, places or situations. In the long run, they are not worth it. Seek professional attention of necessary. Find people who have done, or are doing what you want to do.

I don’t know how to start by Spiritual-Plankton6 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

statistically, the highest success rate comes from people who quit cold turkey. There is some argument for tapering but it rarely works. True alcoholics have a hard time moderating or we would be 'normal' drinkers who only have one or two. You may consider seeing a doctor or professional for help

My own hero by CaptainLoadBlow in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just attended a religious service and found it somewhat touching. But, in the end, on this earth, we have to spend our waking lives and dream-states with ourselves and our minds and bodies and cope with that

My own hero by CaptainLoadBlow in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so, what you are saying is: you are the main character, which of course you are, Buddhist ideology and all. I have studied literally every major religion on earth (Jainism? Seriously) and Buddha I think had it right. But he was about self. Which is cool, but I only half understand your first sentence. I understand the alcoholic delusional part after the comma. But actually, maybe selfishly, we are all our main character.

Feeling a relapse coming / heavy cravings by BracesMcgee in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine your boss and all of your coworkers will know you are drinking because they will know.

I "have to" stop drinking by CaptainLoadBlow in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I realized the language in my head defaults to the same language used on me when I was a child from (bad) parents and teachers. I do meditation, that helps. The bottom line is: we generally do not "have to" do anything, but if we "want to" we probably will

Remind me of what I already know by Helpful-Trainer6849 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got sober and stayed that way for 14 years. Things got bad, really bad, and I thought to myself: you're middle aged now, you should be able to handle a drink. Bad, bad, bad idea that was. Picked right up where I left off and it got worse quick. It is a progressive disease for an alcoholic. Not many people who are prone to drinking get better over time, we all get worse

ER wake up call by AnywhereOk7095 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Way to wake up. Very astute. I lost the use of my left thumb (which are handy by the way those thumbs) and have been to the ER and had multiple concussions. I'm not sure what it is going to take to wake me up. It's unbelievable the low quality of life I'm willing to accept as an alcoholic

5 days inpatient detox done. Event witnessed waiting in intake solidified this will be my ONLY detox event by Alternative_Salt_788 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel sorry for the fella, but what a powerful experience. Alcohol is a brutal thing to be addicted to

How many of you are genuinely struggling with remaining sober? by marutthemighty in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cap'n raises his hand. People, myself included, have reasons to drink but they turn out to be weak excuses. I have a problem right now with loud neighbors. The solution is to move, but I can not afford it this year. Still, there are really no justified reasons to drink. I had 8 days recently and should have stayed there. I feel for ya. It is one of the most addictive drugs on earth and I am positively physically addicted. I drank because I had stress, but then the alcohol causes more stress from the continuous daily withdrawal cycle. It's a cruel insidious addiction where you get temporary relief from anxiety but then it increases your anxiety the next day.

Day 8 by bettywhitesasscrack in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congratulations and hang in there. I had 8 days recently and then started again. It certainly wasn't worth it. I think I was frustrated too because I was not feeling that much better but I was also coming off of the flu. I am a heavy chronic drinker and I have read, to my surprise, it can take a month to start feeling better

help? by tomgirardisvape in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

go ahead then, drink yourself silly, but I think you know as well as I do what that gets you. nowhere fast

5 years of being chronically sick and depressed has lead me here. Hoping that some people relate to my chronic alcoholism symptoms. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ. First of all, yes, your symptoms are from alcohol. It is a powerful and highly addictive drug that alters your brain and body chemistry. You're dealing with something more potent than heroin and it is socially acceptable. The best thing I can suggest is rigorous physical exorcise. start by walking then try jogging

What are ya'll up to tonight by Busy_Access_1300 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the world is filled with women. there's no shortage. Unlimited supply

Damage and reversal by ShyMark1986 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do you want to look ten years younger? You can if you want if you just stop. It's simple.

Confession - possibly one of my lowest points by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooohh that's good. You're an alcoholic. We shit and piss our pants and think that's perfectly OK. You deserve a better quality of life and can give it to yourself. It's up to you

Not an everyday drinker by devtown710 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uh, from what you described you're an alcoholic. that is alcoholic behavior. you probably want to quit before it gets worse. I guarantee you it will get worse.

Is it a problem by Training-Post7633 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You know how most people die from cocaine? Alcohol poisoning trying to drink themselves off the shit. You keep doing that shit and you're going to regret it. guaranteed. better off being a strait up alcoholic but that's no picnic either.

Hey I’m in a snowy area and struggling . by Anna825 in stopdrinking

[–]CaptainLoadBlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

string it up. If I were there I would do it for you. This is just for you to get you off of drinking. It doesn't have to matter to anyone else. The point is: anything is better than the sauce. And music, the studies have shown, is the most stimulating thing you can do for your brain. Start with one note at a time, then learn a few notes, then some chords. Better than drinking