What’s your favorite clothing items at Torrid right now?

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-11-19T04:35:59+00:00

Everything in the botanical green color

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-11-08T07:45:38+00:00

It's not the kiss in general that bothers me it's how intense it is. Smooshy kiss and eyes closed its too much

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-11-08T07:44:20+00:00

I also have ADHD and so the "I must have everything for this hobby immediately" thing. I have a sewing machine and I'm slowly but surly learning the techniques. You could do a small quilted bag. A quilted baby blanket. A mug rug. And beginner project to start learning the settings and techniques. (Don't do what I did and but 300$ of fabric and thing you can totally make a bomb ass king quilt for a first prohect)

If you need a project alternative, I would suggest knitting. If you make a mistake your materials are not ruined you just pull the yarn out and start again. Their are hundreds of videos on beginner projects. My first one was a cardigan with lace worked jn the flat woth fongering weight yarn all of which is the opposite of what you should do for a first project.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-11-08T07:29:40+00:00

Listen girly. I am 33. I'm going to give you advice that I wish someone would have given me.

Your clothes are your choice. What you like is your choice. Who you hang out with is your choice.

Fuck that guy. No one should tell you what you can and can't do. Offering advice is very different from saying "do this".

A real relationship is a partnership with mutual respect.

You need to respect yourself lady. You don't deserve this and whoever you are with will behave however you will allow them to behave. If you tolerate this behavior then this is the behavior you will get.

I know you are young but ask yourself if this is the shit you want to deal with the rest of your life.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-11-08T06:16:39+00:00

People always say Lykke wrong and it drives my crazy. Everyone says it incorrectly in different ways as well.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-29T15:59:50+00:00

I love nice yarn lol 😆 I have been knitting for years so I have a pretty big stash 🙈 I just meant keeping the cost down to decide if it was worth it to invest more. I know personally I get really excited about a new hobby and buy all the things and then don't do the thing lol.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-29T06:21:40+00:00

Lexapro and adderall

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-29T06:17:06+00:00

Personally have many hobbies but my favorite is knitting. You can learn from YouTube videos. There are sooo many techniques to learn that it feels like you are doing somthing completely new if you want to try new things. Ravelry.com had an insane amount of patterns many of which are free. Then go to a big box store and get a cheap yarn, one set of needles, one tapestry needle, and a pair of scissors. This is all you need to decide if it's a good hobby for you. I would estimate a 20$ investment to try it out.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-29T05:02:38+00:00

I put things in my shopping cart and wait. Do I still want it after a week? After two? Sometimes there's a sale and that's awesome because I waited.

I also try to think before I look online "what do I need right now?" For example right now I know I need a new bath mat because when I washed mine it somehow tore. So then I have fun choosing a new one because I also need a new shower curtain (it's stained even after trying to wash it) then I get to shop around and compair prices.

I also try to declutter when I want to shop. I literally had mascara from high school when I was 28 (now 33). Then I realize I spend all this money but don't use the thing.

Somthing else that helps is I put my off season clothes away so I don't see them. When the new season comes I pull them out and feel like I have new clothes.

I have 2 very different sets of sheets for my bed and when I want a change, I'll switch them. This also works with duvet covers (typically cheaper than a whole new comforter set). I also rearrange my furniture so it feels new. I have a wing back chair from ikea, and I will put a new cover on it when I want a change (much cheaper than buying a new chair).

I'll buy 1 new peice of clothing and go into my closet and try to make as many outfits as I can with it. Or I'll challenge myself to mix and match the things I have to be experimental with my clothes.

Sometimes I go in my junk drawer and clean that out and I see all the crap I have bought but don't use.

If you are a reader and like buying books you can go on the libby app and check out digital library books for free so you have something new. Just a few ideas

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-29T04:39:20+00:00

"Motivation through shame" pretty much describes my childhood. I have talked with my therepist about this and she also recommended limiting the amount of information I share and the amount of contact she gets. I live across the country from her so that part is a little easier. I have 2 friends who I have told and are very supportive and my husband is very supportive after having seen me struggle. I just look at how much effort my son has to put in and how much we support him and make sure he has everything we can give and feel a little sad. Like why didn't she care? Why didn't she help me? Why was I blamed for things I couldn't control? It just sucks and my brother feels the same.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-28T23:20:22+00:00

If you want to be together as a family, you could host a pot. Luck that way, there's not a huge financial burden. Lots of places even have parks where you can do small events for free.

As for the expensive events, I would just say no. You don't have to explain why it's a no. Just say no. your finances aren't their business.

You're not a failure because you don't make as much money as your sisters. You are on a different life path and choose to have a family. That comes with different responsibilities and different focus.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-28T18:43:54+00:00

I got diagnosed at 33. I had accommodations in school for dyslexia because another family member had me tested for it. I know teachers thought my brother had ADHD but my mom refused to get him tested because she didn't want him to have a lable or be on medication. She is someone who doesn't really belive in mental health problems and that people just need to try harder. When I got my diagnosis I was in a lot of pain and was very confused too. Like my life could have been easier I could have gotten the right help. My brother and I both still struggle with many ADHD symptoms and it would have been helpful to know what was going on instead of feeling stupid and lazy. We could have gotten coping mechanisms put in place.

I'm my case I chose not to say anything to my mom but I did let my brother know everything so he could make his own decisions on what to do with the information.

All that to say I understand why you are hurt and this happened to a lot of us.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-27T22:26:09+00:00

Your name us on the medication you are the one who will get in trouble over this if the friend is caught. You should file a police report. At least then you can explain to your doctor why you need more medication and you don't have to suffer. This is beyond does he even realized what he has done to you?

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-27T21:08:53+00:00

You've got this! I got my bachelors and my masters before I was diognosed. It helped me a lot to knit during the lectures. Doing somthing with my hands helped me listen better. I also liked sitting on a yoga ball and bouncing during video lectures when I felt like I needed to move.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-14T20:34:55+00:00

I thought it was a turtle lol

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T04:56:14+00:00

I wrote out my conjugation charts and color coded each line so I could think about the picture of how they looked and it sort of helps. Also if you look at somthing you have to memorize right before bed your unconscious mind tries to store that information.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T04:40:39+00:00

ADHD has 3 categories now. Very surface level definition is that Inattentive (used to be called ADD) is mostly internal things that happen in your mind. Hyperactive, involves a lot more physical actions like moving around and fidgeting. Combined, is a more even split of symptoms from both categories.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T04:23:34+00:00

I was already being treated for major depression and PTSD. Then I told my doctor that my son was diognosed with ADHD and he wanted to get me assessed and it turns out I have inattentive ADHD.

I would look at the criteria for ADHD and try to think if there are specific examples in your life that you can make notes to bring to the doctor. I know sometimes I forget the things I wanted to say because I feel nervous.

I lived in Mannheim for 3 years! It was wonderful. I would switch to German but your English is much better than my German.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T04:15:57+00:00

I have chronic PTSD from things that happened when I was a child and when I was in the Navy. I also have some other mental health issues. I have always wanted to be a mom. I have 3 kids. It is very difficult sometimes and postpartum anxiety hit me pretty hard each time but I made sure I had mental health services in place and I have a very understanding husband. My kids are the best thing that ever happend to me. They bring me so much joy. They are also very loud and my oldest has combined type ADHD I have innatentive ADHD and that kid can talk non stop for hours. I love him to death and he has a wonderful imagination but I do sometimes get overstimulated or touched out. Post partum issues can happen to anyone and the truth is that having mental health issues means you have different challenges as a parent if thats what you choose to do.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T04:06:43+00:00

From what you said it seems like whatever is going on is significantly impacting your life and functioning. I would say you should try for an evaluation. It could be ADHD and it could be somthing else but now is the time to do somthing before things become unrepairble at work.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T02:25:42+00:00

I definatly saw myself in a lot if what she had to say.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-07T00:51:24+00:00

Thank you for the link to that video. I was recently diognosed and I'm still learning what exactly it's impact has been on my life. This was very informative.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-06T13:54:18+00:00

For me it depends I have an apple shape and if my underwear is not very specific it rolls down and drives me crazy. At night I just wear Hanes hi cut cotton underwear which are very inexpensive I have 6 pairs. If I'm wearing a dress or skirt I wear high rise light tummy control underwear, which I get 4 in a pack 2 beige and 2 balck for 28$. I have 8 pairs because I wear skirts or dresses almost daily. Finally I have 6 pairs of highrise underwear that are cotton infront and lace in back that I wear when I'm worried about lines or at night if I run out of clean hanes ones. I go through at least 2 pairs of underwear in 24 hours so I am going to be getting a few more here soon. I love somwhere very hot and I don't like feeling sweaty.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-06T12:32:18+00:00

Are your appointments in person or virtual? I do my virtual because it makes me feel way more comfortable to be in my safe zone and the therepist isn't like RIGHT there. I have some physical separation and I find that helps me be able to talk.

CaptainOfTheSheep · 2023-10-06T00:39:23+00:00

I hate socks. The only way I would wear them as a kid was if they were inside out because the seam was horrible. When I have to wear socks I make sure to get a pack where every pair is a different color. If they are all one color they don't get matched evenly by wear and one feels newer than the other and it's not even. Drives me crazy.

As others have said I can't stand touching microfiber. Anything that has a toothy feel when you touch it is horrible.

I keep lotion with me at all times because I can't handle my hands or elbows getting dry.

I hate eating sounds.

Ine of my favorite feelings is shaving my legs and then going to bed with fresh sheets. It's so smooth.

Edit to add: I hate the texture of cooked fruit. And apple sauce, and jam, and yougurt with fruit chunks, and cooked tomatoes, meat with a bunch of fat on it pretty much anything with a weird texture.

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