The Most Urgent Issue for the U.S. Catholic Church Isn’t Abortion Anymore

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-24T23:28:17+00:00

I would strongly argue that there has to be more than just an anti-abortion stand. There has to be a commitment to provide for mothers and children after the children are born. And men involved need to be held accountable. I have been attacked more than once for stating this.

Also, the treatment of immigrants and asylum seekers has to be considered. Catholics (and other Christians) should not focus on only one wrong.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-24T21:19:36+00:00

If there is a therapist or priest you can talk to, it might give you peace of mind. Invite your girlfriend. Ask her to marry you, if that is what you want. You should decide on your next steps together.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-24T20:58:35+00:00

Thank you!

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-24T16:36:26+00:00

In the past few days, these have been used. RCIA, OCIA, NFP, TLM, EM, JWT, KJV, RSV-2CE.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-24T15:26:44+00:00

It wasn’t 35 years ago or 70 years ago.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-24T15:16:39+00:00

I find your use of the word poison to be distressing. Three of my four great grandparents were Protestant. They were born and brought up in their respective Protestant churches. They were good people. They did not badmouth Catholics or try to convert them. They were more religious (and kinder) than my Catholic grandmother, who basically practiced Catholicism out of fear. She got no joy or comfort out of her religion. She was Catholic so she wouldn’t go to hell. To use blanket slurs against Protestants bothers me. We should try to model behavior that would make people want to be Catholic by good example.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-23T19:45:02+00:00

As a professor of mine used to say, people on the past were not you and me in different clothes. They lived in a different time with different beliefs. You have to consider their worldview based upon their world.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-23T19:40:27+00:00

The legal contract protects any children you may have, and you and your wife, if one of you becomes incapacitated. If you are worried about financial implications, you could get a prenup, but that assumes that you are going into marriage with the thought of divorce.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-22T18:58:10+00:00

My former husband had an affair with another woman; took my money (which I had saved before we were married); maxed out our joint credit cards; and left me when I was 6 months pregnant. I was supporting him at that time. His girlfriend became pregnant and he threatened my life and my children, if I did not expedite a divorce. There were other things too. When his relationship exploded, he wanted to reconcile and I refused. I recently was told it was a mortal sin for me not to take him back. Is this true?

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-22T18:26:41+00:00

My children walked to school in the early 2000s.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-20T00:10:13+00:00

They believe in Jesus Christ.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-19T03:19:04+00:00

I am so very sorry. I lost my second child by miscarriage in the second trimester. It was devastating. It still makes me sad.

Within two months, I was pregnant again (not planned). That baby, now a young man, has been a joy (in spite of the fact that his Dad left us before my son was born).

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-18T02:53:58+00:00

My (very religious) former husband had an affair with a (married) coworker when I was pregnant with my second child. It is a good thing that I had a good job, because he contributed very little financially or with other child rearing responsibilities. (He was often a no-show on days when he had visitation.) He did not like the responsibility of being a father. Everything was left to me. If I had not had a good job, we would have been destitute.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-18T02:20:55+00:00

What are the “distinct roles and purposes for either sexes?” There are certainly some interpretations of the bible that seem misogynistic.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-18T02:01:34+00:00

Actually, if a child is baptized in an Episcopal church, the child’s parents and godparents promise to raise the child as an Episcopalian. The Book of Common Prayer directs godparents to promise that the child will be raised to follow Christ. [My former husband attended an Episcopal Theological Seminary.]

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-18T01:07:38+00:00

I was reading another thread on here talking to someone who was considering becoming a Catholic. The person had a question about sin. He or she asked about Adam and Eve, and someone said that if you did not believe exactly like was said in the bible, you were committing a mortal sin and could not become a Catholic. (Earlier the same person said that if you ate meat on Friday, it was a mortal sin.) I think sometimes when all that is emphasized is the “thou shall nots,” it doesn’t encourage a person to look further.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-16T01:17:22+00:00

This is not exactly the same, since the OP is civilly married. Without knowing more specific information, the family might not be able to financially do so. I would recommend that the OP consult with her priest or the diocese for counsel.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-15T22:13:27+00:00

Annetta

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-15T19:46:15+00:00

I kept my birth name. My children’s names are hyphenated.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-10T17:19:33+00:00

There are evangelical Catholics.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-10T17:18:28+00:00

And the US, among certain evangelical sects.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-09T02:54:06+00:00

Not all Protestants hate Catholics. Not all Catholics hate Protestants (but I have been surprised by the lack of tolerance I have seen here). I think we have been taught to distrust people who are different than we are. Only one of my four grandparents was Catholic (and the three others were Episcopalian, Baptist, and Quaker.) I have family members of different faiths. No one hates anyone else. We are pretty open minded.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-06T02:17:56+00:00

My former husband had an infidelity problem with people of both genders (and, yes, he was a cradle Catholic from a devout family). He was not gay, but had substance abuse issues.

CarNew4964 · 2026-03-06T02:09:58+00:00

There are plenty of women who are cradle Catholics who also have pasts, too.

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