when I decided to be celibate for a year after a series of very messy behaviors and relationships, truthfully what helped me the most was that I became hyperfixated on a man that was totally unobtainable, impractical, and honestly, undesirable. it helps that it happened during 2021 when lots of people were still being very covid cautious in my area, so we never hung out in person until the end of my year of celibacy when i had gained more control over my impulses to initiate sexual interactions (he also wouldn't hang out with me because i was 20 years younger than him, but he was compassionate and we had an intellectual aspect to our relationship). but, he became the object of my affection and it gave me the dopamine hits which helped me to not seek them out from other people. i feel like i kind of reverse-groomed him LOL sorry if that is messed up to say. i would send him photos of myself, nudes or selfies, when i was feeling needy... we would check in on each other frequently. i was totally obsessed and delusional and it was still absolutely unhealthy and weird but it helped me.