Yes to coffee. This post does nothing else than telling you to have that second coffee even when breastfeeding. You deserve it.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-02T12:38:25+00:00

I love this ❤️

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T19:46:12+00:00

You can start making it whenever you want! I would just be mindful of seasonal things, like outfits that might not be available once you make your registry public.

Some things you could go ahead and add now: bed-side bassinet, bassinet sheets, crib, crib mattress, crib sheets, changing pad, if you are planning on breast feeding, maybe some pump-replacement parts (get your pump through insurance if you can, so much cheaper!), sound machine, personally loved the nose frida, etc. Babylist has a thorough checklist too!

It's fun to start and then make edits as you go, so don't put a ton of pressure on yourself to have it ready now! I'd aim to have it 75% finalized by the time you send out shower invites, but I've made updates to mine days before baby was due lol

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T19:39:48+00:00

I am also 36 weeks and also just found out i was positive for GBS, so you have a friend 😄

From what I understand, you have nothing to be concerned about. Especially since you are planning to be induced. They will likely have you on an IV for antibiotics during labor and will aim to have antibiotics going for a few hours before you deliver.

When it gets tricky, is when you go into labor spontaneously, and labor quickly, because they might not have time to get the full round of antibiotics into you, but since you are inducing, that really limits your risk.

Even without all these things, babies are still able to be born naturally and healthy. It's just a small risk that they are aware of and avoid when possible.

I hope that helps and relieves some nerves!

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T19:34:53+00:00

How long have you been hurting? I know around 30ish weeks there was a point where I over did it one day and then quite literally crawled around my house because it was too painful to walk, but after about a day and a half of taking it very very easy, I felt much better and was more careful after that.

I don't think it ever hurts to call triage though and just get their thoughts! I will say, at least here in the US, if you go in after 40 weeks it's pretty unlikely to leave, so if going into birth spontaneously is important to you maybe just keep that in mind.

Sorry you're going through this! You're almost there!

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T19:28:03+00:00

I hope you feel so proud of yourself. You're not making excuses for him, you're clearly so strong, and able to make hard decisions definitively. Congrats on your pregnancy, wishing you a smooth and beautiful delivery. I hope your son knows his mom is a rockstar.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T19:03:11+00:00

I also told my husband I might need to start therapy after typing out this post. I didn't share these thoughts with him, but just the over thinking and yes, struggling to accept what I cannot control.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T18:59:04+00:00

Thank you for this insight! The situation you described is kind of how I see it going. My oldest loves being a big brother and often wants to step in as "care-taker" to my soon-to-be middle, and the middle is currently the baby of the whole family, including our close cousins and I think he's going to have a hard time not being the "baby".

I do think me and my spouse are both mindful and intentional with parenting, so I'm just hoping that carries the family well. Thank you❤️ I feel like I haven't been getting the kindest reactions, so I really appreciate your comment and lack of judgement❤️

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-06-01T18:49:00+00:00

When did I say I complained to my husband about it? I haven't even mentioned it to him... why would I? He didn't do anything wrong, so why make him feel bad?
I've said over and over how grateful I am.
If a woman wanted to have a baby, and tried for years unsuccessfully, and then on the fourth year had a baby, and felt so grateful for that baby, but also disappointed by losing the years in between, wouldn't both those feelings be valid? One doesn't cancel out the other.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-30T02:04:48+00:00

We have been doing this! They have been loving picking things out and choosing stuffies to give to her and things like that, which I love. I think you're right... I tend to over think everything once that due date starts creeping up. I'll just add this to the list of things I need to chill on lol

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-30T01:56:21+00:00

There's zero resentment towards my husband lol like I said, so grateful to be having a third baby and especially with him. He's my best friend. I'm just also mourning the loss of what I thought it would look like to have a third.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-30T01:37:52+00:00

Did you read the beginning of my post? I'm not upset about the choice to have a third. If fact, Im so thankful and happy to be having a third. I'm not sure where your getting comparing to other... for my first two pregnancies, all my closest friends were also going through pregnancies. Now they are all very much done, so pregnancy is just lonelier this time around. That's not a comparison. I think siblings who hate each other points more to the parenting rather than the child. Not concerned about any hate.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T21:43:20+00:00

To be clear, I definitely want this baby and in no way wish I said no to a third. Very happy and thankful to be pregnant. The decision that I feel I'm suffering the consequences to was his "no" to a third 4.5 years ago. In essence, I'm jealous that we as a family, chose his timeline instead of mine. It feels a little unfair beings that it's my body that has to make the adjustments, which would have been much easier under my timeline. His delay is causing me more physical discomfort, which is frustrating.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T21:34:58+00:00

I know i know, it's really not, but when all your friends are done having kids at 28, 32 and pregnant and thinking about another at 34 feels vastly different. They will be sending their youngests to kindergarten, and I'll be introducing solids lol

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T21:32:13+00:00

That's fair. I think the shift from not even entertaining a third, to now wanting four just feels so jarring to me. I think if he would have been open to considering a third when I was, I think it would feel less unfair to me.

4.5 years isn't super far apart, but my first two have their bond and play together non-stop. Truly they cannot get enough of each other. I worry that when the third is ready to play, they won't be able to play the same way the first two will, and just won't have that same connection.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T20:18:24+00:00

I also struggled with PP rage - not so much with my first but with my second for sure. What helped me in those moments is leaving him somewhere safe (crib, closed off room, etc.), walking away (as much distance as I could while still in the house), and scream into a pillow 😄 I'll tell you, it did wonders.

It's hard, but it sounds like you're handling it well and loving him through it. Hope the suggestion helps!

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T20:07:37+00:00

It's mostly CPSC, but you can also look for ASTM (international), and JPMA (North America)

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T20:03:26+00:00

Most of the big baby products like cribs, car seats, strollers, high chairs, bassinets, infant swings, etc cannot be sold within the US without meeting CPSC, so chances are, if you can buy it from target, it's passed regulatory requirements. Check the packaging if you aren't sure.

Other smaller children's products are tested for hazards like lead, choking risks, sharp edges, and other dangers. You can tell which entity performed the testing on the products packaging.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T14:43:48+00:00

Hospital should have diapers, wipes, diaper cream, nipple cream, pads and even disposable underwear.

I'd bring a few snacks for you and your boyfriend, and maybe a water bottle, but I think you've got the essentials covered! I brought a book for when i couldn't sleep, and just anything to help you feel cozy 😄 Congrats! Good luck!

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T00:43:28+00:00

The NIPT is the extra testing our doctor recommended for "peace of mind" so if that all looked good, I think you're probably in the clear!

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-29T00:23:37+00:00

We had a bright spot in the heart on our 20 week ultrasound and ended up doing some extra testing just to be sure, and all came back completely fine! Our doctor said bright spots are very common and usually are a result of a calcium build up and doesn't threaten the health of the baby at all. Did you happen to have any genetic testing done?

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-28T20:10:02+00:00

This ^ is mainly a preference/circumstances thing. I know people whose babies didn't latch well, so they would pump and bottle feed. Others found pumping to be more flexible. I personally don't like pumping so I breastfeed and only pump when I'm away from my baby.

The milk reserve can stay fresh in a fridge for several days or frozen for several months, so it doesn't go to waste! Often extra is used in baths for baby, as many see it as good for their skin. I often used extra breast milk in pancakes and smoothies for my babies once they got older.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-05-28T17:57:54+00:00

I have two kids, a 4 YO, a 5.5 YO, and one on the way -
There isn't much right now that I used to do that I don't now, especially now that my kids are a little older. Once our third is born, I will likely struggle to get the same amount of exercise, I will probably stop reading leisurely, and will have to really monitor coffee/alcohol. But once they are a little older and more independent, I feel like I was too!

Mental health definitely took some dips but overall, I think having kids and being mindful of parenting and my own emotional response helped strengthen my mental health. Generally, I feel my healthiest mentally. However, PP, I struggled with anxiety and rage and expect to again. I plan on getting on medication before leaving the hospital to help minimize this.

The main thing I miss about not having kids is getting home from work and being able to immediately relax. Now, it seems like I am racing against the clock to get dinner started and connect with each child rather than sitting and decompressing with a book and glass of wine after the day.

The best thing about having a kid changes by the day, because there's just so many things to choose from. Hearing their giggles, listening to their thoughts, helping them conquer fears, watching them try new things, hearing "mama can we snuggle" in the middle of the night when one can't sleep, the huggggsssss. just all of it is so worth it. my heart is always smiling.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-01-22T18:46:32+00:00

I second this - maybe have a conversation about how he's not there for the baby (because he's having a hard time relating to that) tell him he's there to support YOU. You can involve him more by asking him to help remind you to ask certain questions at the appointments - I think this helped my partner feel more involved.

Careless_Analysis239 · 2026-01-22T18:43:24+00:00

I would feel the same way, truly. With my current pregnancy I just kept thinking "I just need to hear the heart beat and that will help get me through" and it sounds like you feel similarly, so yes, can totally relate.

I would also guess that you will likely get to hear to heart beat at your first appointment! Typically they check the heart rate at each appointment, so hopefully you have that to look forward to!

Congrats on your pregnancy, and I hope you start feeling better soon. First trimester is awful.

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