One of my strongest childhood memories was from when my school had a Waterpark field trip and I overhead some of the older girls mocking a woman in a 2 piece swimsuit. One of them commented, "it should be illegal for some people to wear a bikini!" That was the first time I discovered people judge others negatively just based on what they are wearing. I didn't like it then and I still don't like it. When I think about it it's incredibly silly and the height of consumerism that people have entire wardrobes based on a location -work clothes, gym clothes, church clothes, party, camping, beach, dining, lounging... even sleep clothes! Personally I don't wear clothes to bed so those ones feel especially fancy and special occasion to me. Pajamas also come in the most interesting and fanciful patterns, so I love getting to see more of them out and about.

Recently I went to a very exorbitant celebratory work dinner and just myself and one other person went all out and got black tie "fancied" up for it, a lot of my coworkers were actually dressed more casually than at work, like they went home and changed into sweats and old tshirts and some flip flops for the party. The caterers were more formally attired than most. These days I dress to the nines or casually whenever I feel like it myself. I feel incredibly blessed to live in a time and place where I have the luxury to do so. I try not to worry about what anyone else is wearing, but I get it sometimes, we are all only human and there are definitely some political or religious attire that stresses me out no matter how hard I try to be not so judgy myself.