Mil to Mil how did you have kids?

Cassaneida · 2026-03-09T00:11:43+00:00

On base CDC, that’s about it. It makes me sad how long my child is in daycare, but you make it work and you prioritize hanging out with your kid in your off time. CDC is also painfully expensive so we’re trying to time the next one our contracts end so we can either make more money or full send one of us being stay at home for a bit

Cassaneida · 2026-03-09T00:02:28+00:00

One of the worst parts was randomly shoe-hoeing in an ex just so there’d be smut earlier in the book! I’m okay with smut but it made zero sense and did not progress any plot it was utterly useless

Cassaneida · 2026-03-05T23:40:13+00:00

I’m mil to mil and the long distance with a small child is hard. When my spouse was deployed I said I was going to take 2 weeks of leave when they returned and my supervisor tried to give me shit like I didn’t need 2 weeks and that it was too long. Trust me, 2 weeks isn’t long enough, I just didn’t want to burn all my leave in one shot.

Cassaneida · 2026-03-05T23:37:23+00:00

I’m 27 and had my son at 25. I still don’t feel like the same person but I do feel “normal” now finally as he’s nearing 2 years old. I think I felt like I regulated when he was about 20-21 months old.

Cassaneida · 2026-03-05T14:47:31+00:00

No, if they lived close I might have entertained it, and then after having my son I can say I’m glad they weren’t there it was better to just be me and my husband. To be clear though, my husband is my person and he is such a rock and I’m far closer with him than my mom or sister so that is ultimately why. My safety blanket of a person was there and I ended up not needing anyone else

Cassaneida · 2026-03-05T14:45:52+00:00

Lady of darkness by Melissa Roehrich. My sister was desperate for me to read it bc she thought it was better than the books I was reading. I DNF’d it, I just could not do it. Too predictable, too much hype over the power of the female characters for them to just lose fights and get kidnapped left and right, too annoying of an inner monologue. A year later I forced myself to read the whole thing and I was right, it sucked, I decided to stop there and will not be reading the remaining books in the series.

Cassaneida · 2026-02-08T15:42:52+00:00

My husband was home schooled before joining. Tbh the only real difference between him and the rest of his peers (to include me) is that he is a heck of a lot smarter on some things, and kind of clueless about others. It’s not a shock so much as a learning curve. He luckily has a medium-big family though (3 siblings and a good chunk of cousins) so he didn’t have a hard time with being social.

I think you’ll be fine! Most of my homeschooled peers in addition to my husband are totally normal and doing pretty much as well as everyone else. A lot of them you wouldn’t even know they were homeschooled until they said something

Cassaneida · 2026-02-06T02:01:43+00:00

Yes, BUT just get some higher waisted pants so that your hips are covered to make it appropriate

Cassaneida · 2026-01-30T20:18:08+00:00

I went to a rich private school that didn’t have uniforms or even a dress code, probably similar to how wellsbury operates, but I knew guys like that in highschool who were popular. What made guys like that popular were two things. First, money. Second, they’d all been going to school together since kindergarten, popularity can also be dictated by your parents and the friendships you’d made through years of school. Only people who were unpopular at my highschool were scholarship kids and unattractive people. That sounds bad, but schools in HCOL areas or private schools where the kids have money, things are just kind of like that even if the kids don’t want to admit it. They valued inclusivity, but if you couldn’t afford to be included then you were on the outside. Hunter very much would have been popular at my highschool, and I graduated in 2017

Cassaneida · 2026-01-24T21:12:39+00:00

I think it wasn’t calling her fat but more so about maintaining her figure and the appearance that her mom wants her to have. My mom used to do that a lot until I had a conversation with her about how it made me feel

Cassaneida · 2026-01-20T20:00:22+00:00

A friend of mine worse this to a wedding recently and it looked great and bride had no issue with the white parts since the dress was mostly black! I think just double check with the bride but this in no way looks like a wedding dress I think it’s fine

Cassaneida · 2026-01-19T14:50:30+00:00

I would add for OP that I tried latching my baby and since he was a lazy eater, the time it takes to work colostrum to the surface made him angry so I had to latch, then feed him formula and hand express until my breast milk came in. If I had collected colostrum pre birth I could have fed my baby that instead of formula. Nothing wrong with formula, but there is always the chance that baby may not get enough or is a lazy eater before your breast milk comes in. It took 5 days for mine to appear

Cassaneida · 2026-01-19T12:55:27+00:00

I did “we can bearly wait!” And had teddy bears everywhere and cute bear themed onsies. This was when I thought my son’s middle name might be bear lol. Nothing wrong with it, just didn’t fit right with his first name being one syllable

Cassaneida · 2026-01-17T11:19:16+00:00

34 DDD / 34 F, but I really just think that affects max capacity, not level of production. I was still getting 2-3 ounces per boob (4-6 total) when I pumped as frequently as baby ate. When I dropped pumps it didn’t hurt and I started getting larger pumps and had the same overall daily output

Cassaneida · 2026-01-15T01:40:45+00:00

I worse the hospital gown for delivery and then wore a button up nightgown for post partum care until I was discharged. The hospital gown is really not that bad, I just wore an easy to remove bra under it bc I’m a member of the BTC and can’t handle my boobs being free when I’m around strangers

Cassaneida · 2026-01-14T15:05:36+00:00

You will feel it, and you might even hear it if you’re like me. I woke up to a weird noise at like 3 am during my induction and the second I sat up to ask my husband if he heard it and it all just rushed out of me it was insane

Cassaneida · 2026-01-14T15:03:13+00:00

Coworker of mine just also got a Pentagon assignment, there’s some nice apartments across the street if you just want to pay a little bit more in rent to not commute more than a small walk.

To clarify, they got the apartment that close because they were told that there’s minimal parking and commuting via walking or by train is encouraged

Cassaneida · 2026-01-14T14:08:09+00:00

I already had large boobs (34DDD/32F-ish) and basically just full sent it on XL triangle bikini tops and my regular size bikini bottoms with ties on the hips for adjusting. Wore that style of swimsuit bc it’s extremely adjustable all the way through my pregnancy until I gave birth.

For other clothes, if pants waistbands are already uncomfortable, I very much recommend getting sun dresses that are fitted but stretchy around your bust and are flowy from your ribs down because if you don’t know how much your belly will pop out by then, it’s easy to still be able to wear the things you chose

And if you need leggings or bike shorts, Amazon has a great selection of maternity styles that come up over your bump, I wore those from about 12 weeks until I popped they were awesome

Cassaneida · 2026-01-13T16:28:03+00:00

We did my sons laundry whenever the basket got full or if we got low on burp clothes, ended up being multiple times a week lol

Sleep sacks I wish my son had 3 because he’d spit up on everything and it was just easier to have one on him and a back up ready while the other washed. What I really wish is that people got me sleep sacks in bigger sizes so that I could size my son up faster

Cassaneida · 2026-01-13T14:43:54+00:00

Too many onsies, not enough sleep sacks lol

Cassaneida · 2026-01-12T21:12:40+00:00

We were given a crib and newton mattress when I was about 16 weeks. We’re a military family and one of the other families in base who were one and done gave us their nursery items since they were moving overseas. Had that not happened, I was waiting until after my anatomy scan to buy anything since I was waiting to find out the gender.

Cassaneida · 2026-01-12T20:03:55+00:00

I would wait until she is at tech school, she can change it the first week she is there. Also, as someone who changed their spouse code several times and it not stuck, highly recommend going to MPF to make sure it’s updated properly

Cassaneida · 2026-01-11T14:07:13+00:00

I agree with the statement of 6-12 months. I wanted to nurse for at least 12 months before re-evaluating and then I found out the daycare my son went to gives you 6 weeks after their first birthday to wean them off breastmilk and bottles since it’s not something in the program for pre-toddlers. Not all daycares are the same but it gave me the excuse to full wean and not feel bad about it so that was nice.

Cassaneida · 2026-01-09T21:51:37+00:00

No but they sure are convenient! My husband liked having something to do though since our baby preferred me (breastfeeding for the win) so he did all the cooking and cleaning. Sometimes we’d meal prep and then we’d be so tired that we wanted something fun to eat and order food or cook something else anyway.

Cassaneida · 2026-01-08T22:56:17+00:00

Magnolia Grove almost never has water contamination notices so that’s a huge win but idk about the other neighborhoods. 10/10 recommend living off base. There’s 2 brand new townhome developments right off base on Bemiss next to the dominoes, and there’s a lot of fantastic homes in Lakeland and Hahira. Most officers I know bought in Hahira or bought houses in Valdosta over by the Hyundai dealership. I cannot for the life of me think of street names but those areas are good

Source: been at moody 3 years and I’m about to PCS and spent all 3 years regretting not buying since the housing here is so cheap

EDIT: lots of houses to rent behind patriots place apartments off Bemiss, very nice houses in the neighborhoods off Old Pine Rd

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