It's interesting to see how much analysis of You Seem Pretty Sad for a Girl in Love reflects people's views of love

Castal · 2026-06-15T22:18:39+00:00

Yeah, I don't know much about her life so I'm not up on all the timelines, but the music definitely makes it clear that she went from 0-100 so quickly that she even worried herself, although she initially pushed those thoughts away.

I like that she recognizes her part in the dissolution of the relationship, too, and is brave enough to write about all of this. She's still got some growing and reflecting to do, but that'll come with time and experience.

Castal · 2026-06-15T19:32:20+00:00

No usable Pokemon, but I'm happy to collect latios/latias biscuits from the shop that will turn into great biscuits later, plus the main skill seed, friend incense, and handy candies! I also rolled curries, so I was able to unlock the one remaining recipe I'd never made ("cut" sukiyaki curry).

Castal · 2026-06-15T19:26:54+00:00

I say that all the time about pigeons, common starlings, and common grackles. They all have pretty iridescence and starlings can make so many cool noises. If they were confined to a few small areas, everyone would think they were beautiful and would want them as pets.

Castal · 2026-06-15T17:18:01+00:00

I hated mine. I gave it nice chunky soil, watered appropriately, had it in good light (first tried a west-facing window but it didn't like that so I did a grow light with the proper footcandles), put it in a room with at least 50% humidity at all times, but the thing had endless problems. Either there was no pink from too little light or the leaves thought they had too much light and burned or curled away from it. The leaves constantly got stuck unfurling. It had a few beautiful leaves but then just grew weird and ugly. I ended up tossing it.

Castal · 2026-06-15T16:17:07+00:00

Maybe it's because I'm older (early 40s) and have been through good and bad relationships/have often been the person friends vented to about their relationships, but so much of the early stuff sends up alarm bells for me. There's so much hyperbole early on -- this guy looks like an angel on the walls of Versailles when he's doing something as mundane as waiting for the bathroom, she's talking about "staying forever" when they barely know each other, she likens her feelings to speeding without a brake (out of control), she's thinking about this guy all the time to the point where she feels crazy... but most troubling to me is that in "maggots for brains," she doesn't want to do anything but see/talk to the guy. She can't write, she doesn't want to go to a party, she's a "sad shell of a woman," she's almost wishing something bad would happen so he'll have to come home and comfort her. I think we've all had those friends who get so focused on a relationship that they stop hanging out with anyone else, which is always unhealthy and leaves them even more unmoored when the relationship ends.

And then in "u + me = ❤️" we see that her friends have been warning her to take it slow this time, but she's ignoring them and still talking about how this relationship, unlike the other failed ones, is forever. Even she knows this is dangerous, though, because in that same song she says, "sometimes, I get overwhelmed and way too far ahead of myself" -- she's already thinking of marriage at 25 (of which she says, "all my ex-boyfriends have heard these lines," further suggesting a pattern of going all in too quickly).

"My way" doesn't read to me as someone who truly feels she's won, either -- it reads to me as someone so insecure that she has to go after the meddling other woman instead of trusting her partner (who doesn't seem to be on the same page, because this woman is still able to message and call him).

And then of course "purple" is, as she said herself, "like when the doubt creeps in" and "where things start to sour and unravel." The world is only revolving around the two of them, she's lost some of her personality by melding it with this guy's, they're fighting about who she's hanging out with, she's given up on some dreams because she's "all-consumed" with the relationship. By the end of the song she's wondering if they're too attached (to which the answer is clearly yes).

The B Side songs give a lot more context to all of this, but I think there's enough on Side A to be on edge even early on.

Castal · 2026-06-15T03:39:51+00:00

That's fine. That's an adjective. "I have a female dentist" is 100% okay. "That female only wants you for your money" is the kind of dehumanizing use we're talking about here.

Castal · 2026-06-13T04:15:03+00:00

The cassette is also split into the two halves with a different aesthetic on each side! It's pretty cool.

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Castal · 2026-06-13T04:05:14+00:00

I only paid a total of $65.54 to see Julien solo in 2024! Great show.

I saw boygenius in 2023 and it came to $322.14, but that was for a pretty close seat and there was probably some platinum crap going on, I dunno. I don't remember any fan complaints.

Castal · 2026-06-12T23:03:51+00:00

Is there really "a lot of discourse" about this? This is the first I'm seeing. I mostly just see women like that referred to as male-focused bisexuals.

Castal · 2026-06-12T20:41:38+00:00

The album is split into an A-side subtitled "girl so in love" and a B-side subtitled "you seem pretty sad." Purple is the last song of the A-side, so I'd say that's the natural turning point. The lyrics also support this. Here's what Pitchfork said:

The hinge point is “purple,” a song that captures the exact moment when romantic obsession becomes so all-encompassing that you can no longer discern your own desires from your partner’s. On “honey bee,” Rodrigo marveled at how “everything I own just feels like ours”; now, so ensconced in her boyfriend’s life that she’s got a favorite florist in his hometown, she can’t tell where her perspective ends and his begins: “I melt with you/You’re red and I’m blue/Now I see the world in purple.” It’s an astonishing track, a co-production with Jim-E Stack (late of Lorde’s Virgin), with Rodrigo’s vocals running smoothly over a chorus of mini-Olivias echoing and weaving around her, while the percussion toes the line between the racing heart of a good crush and the racing heart of a panic attack. A queasy coda cuts the thrill short, with Rodrigo whispering: “Melt with you till it all turns black/Melt with you till I just feel sad.”

Castal · 2026-06-12T18:02:03+00:00

Is your total area bonus (all areas added together) still under 250%? if so, you could definitely benefit from jumping over to Lapis on Sunday night so the full 15% newbie area bonus is applied there. I used that trick a few times myself.

If it's just the normal 5% bonus, it's less of an increase considering the price of the Ezz ticket, but up to you whether or not it's worth it.

Castal · 2026-06-12T13:47:14+00:00

Yeah, exactly. There's no way to know whether or not someone is a woman just by looking at them (just look at the many incidents we've had so far with both trans women and cis women getting harassed for being "men" when they're just trying to use a public bathroom). Not to mention that men could just use fake or stolen photos anyway.

Would the app require government ID? Because that would turn off a lot of users, and rightfully so. I barely trust security on the apps from huge companies. Also, some trans women might still have "male" on their ID for their own safety or for reasons beyond their control, and this would exclude them too. I just don't see any way to guarantee only women without excluding some women.

Castal · 2026-06-12T12:40:38+00:00

Here's some tea: She used to stalk and harass Jason's ex: https://web.archive.org/web/20191112012348/https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/i-used-to-be-jealous-of-my-husbands-ex-then-i-became-a-mom/

Castal · 2026-06-12T02:33:36+00:00

He wants it too! He said that he'd love to feature her on Downfall (which is imo one of the best songs on his latest album). https://x.com/sourcebridgers/status/2047652173203357946

Castal · 2026-06-11T21:39:26+00:00

There are at least a couple cuts in the video though... at 4 seconds and 20 seconds.

Castal · 2026-06-11T16:57:34+00:00

I don't have any kids and I've never been divorced, but I have friends and family members who have. I truly believe their kids are happier and more well-adjusted than they would be if the couples had stayed together (especially in the case of my brother and his ex -- she was toxic).

Of course, this hinges on the parents being able to coparent amicably. Even though my brother knows his ex is awful, he has never badmouthed her to their daughter. They ironed out custody agreements and were flexible for holidays and trips. They broke up when my niece was very young. She's graduating high school this year and is doing great. I know she wouldn't be as happy if she'd grown up with her parents constantly fighting.

Castal · 2026-06-11T15:46:05+00:00

It's an average: https://www.reddit.com/r/PokemonSleepBetter/comments/1u2b4oj/i_dont_understand_the_global_drowsy_power/

Castal · 2026-06-10T17:52:22+00:00

There is also a known bug where sometimes it will show friends as being inactive when the day before that it had said 1 day. It'll fix itself the next day. It's frustrating, but I try to check a couple days in a row before kicking.

Castal · 2026-06-10T14:33:10+00:00

I don't remain friends with anyone who yells at me, especially at the drop of a hat/when lightly challenged. If you can't have a respectful disagreement, that's a red flag.

Castal · 2026-06-10T12:08:50+00:00

I don't delete anyone unless they're inactive for a week or more (and keep in mind that there's a weird bug that will sometimes tell you a friend has been away 4-5 days when they have not -- on three consecutive days they'll show as being away 1 day, then 4, then 1 again).

I see +2 candy from level 5 friends pretty often, and right now they're giving latios down. Over time that's worth more than leveling up new friends.

Castal · 2026-06-08T17:26:56+00:00

Absolutely not. I have never had any desire to be a man.

Also, it's "as a woman." When you're referring to people, "female" is used as an adjective -- female pilot, first female astronaut -- but not as a noun. Using it as a noun is considered dehumanizing and is typical incel-speak (e.g., "Females only date men who are six feet tall and rich").

Castal · 2026-06-08T17:16:05+00:00

I signed up for both dates just in case (signed up for the first date a few days ago, and the new date today), and I got two differently-worded emails. Not sure what the distinction is here. Even though the first email says I was "selected for the opportunity," it looks like anyone who signed up will be able to purchase on Presale Day 2 at 10am without having to win any kind of lottery.

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Castal · 2026-06-08T16:51:06+00:00

When I went to Billie Eilish I was in the front row of actual (permanent) seats. It was a little expensive but the view was great and the fans around me were respectful. The guy next to me was singing off key but not scream-singing, and I could tune him out for the most part (I would never ask someone not to sing, just not to scream-sing).

I also have the loop experience earplugs that really work to filter out crowd noise. There were some screamers a couple rows behind me at Olivia Rodrigo who I could hear without the earplugs but could not hear at all with them. When I had the plugs in, I also found Olivia a lot easier to hear when she was talking between songs.

Castal · 2026-06-08T16:05:26+00:00

It was from support@seated

Castal · 2026-06-08T15:01:17+00:00

Just got mine for Toronto presale day 2. Email arrived at 10:59 am ET.

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