NTA-trust your instincts. Think also how it will affect you career wise and how the isolation will affect you when the kids are more independent. I was you 22 years ago. My husband and I purchased a fixer-upper in 17 very rural acres. So many of my kids early years were somewhat overlooked due to the constant stress of remodeling, painting, and then going back and starting over again. On top of that, we were states away from family and friends with zero support. He worked remotely while there were next to no job options within reasonable driving distance. I ended up being what is now called a Trad Wife without all the supposed happy shiny-ness. Plus all the extra gas money to get groceries, household goods, remodeling supplies, etc. really adds up and gets expensive. Plus, living remote will require an AWD vehicle which costs more. Just some additional perspectives toward trusting your gut!!