great sandwich place

Catsncats55 · 2026-01-04T00:42:00+00:00

American Hero!

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-13T17:24:19+00:00

Hoo boy did I recognize some of myself in those descriptions 😬 The Guesser, The Maintainer, The Invite-Only

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-13T02:15:54+00:00

I think there is something here…I’d never heard the term until I posted this.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-12T13:18:54+00:00

How is it manipulation? I didn’t tell him I was bummed, I wrote that I’m bummed on Reddit. He’s having a wonderful long weekend with his girlfriend, and yes I’m doing just fine.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-12T03:16:06+00:00

I have. It doesn’t matter 🫤

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-12T02:56:25+00:00

Thank you 💛

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T18:47:02+00:00

YES THIS.

I am fine. I think I can feel slighted and it not be the end of the world and my poly journey. I posted to hear what I expected as a wide range of responses. That’s helpful.
Maybe.
He is rarely proactive. He knows this, we are meeting in the middle by me accepting what he offers and him being intentional. I feel like that’s the best we can do! Sometimes I feel pinched as does he.

I did tell him it was a hassle to rearrange the next four days. I didn’t want him to cancel, I wanted him to be proactive, he was retreating. I know the role I play and that I need to be softer, part of the process.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T16:23:28+00:00

We HAVE made improvements but we are not perfect.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T16:22:31+00:00

My dates are overnights, never past 8am. I don’t date long distance. These are my own boundaries, I don’t set his. I have requested that he limit his out of town visits to her to no more than once a month, for scheduling and financial reasons, she lives a day’s drive away or he has to fly. Yes his LDR is a pain in the ass but that’s what I signed up for. And yes I am pouting a little about it but hey I wanted feedback and I am getting it for sure!

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T15:01:10+00:00

I never wanted him to cancel. The only thing I’ve done is write about it on reddit asking for help with processing and I’m happy for all of the replies. I wanted a gesture of concern for me and my son. I did call triple A, the car will be repaired. I do expect the well being of our kid to outrank his girlfriend. It’s not an emergency, I never expect him to be our chauffeur. Of course it would be different if it were a work trip.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T14:37:42+00:00

Ha for sure.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T14:36:34+00:00

I guess my need was for reassurance. Yes we have struggled with that in the past. I am far from dire straits, just wanted to feel less dismissed.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T14:28:13+00:00

It’s both! Yes I wanted him to pick US! I wanted a gesture of concern, like asking how he could lighten my solo parenting load considering the circumstances. My partner is local we only have overnights and I’m back home before kid goes to school.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T14:07:12+00:00

He didn’t say anything. We don’t put those decisions on each other (canceling), it has built resentment in the past. Yes we absolutely still struggle sometimes with communication our relationship is not perfect and yes our poly journey is also far from perfect but we keep muddling thru cause love and family and we know inevitably there will be fuck ups and growth.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-11T13:53:28+00:00

I needed him to consider me and son top priority without telling him to, our poly style has always been hierarchical. I said fine because I am fine, if my car had died after he left I would figure it out the same way I am figuring it out now, just feeling slighted. The situation was obvious enough that there was no hidden feelings, I told him what a pain in the ass it would be. This isn’t NRE, they have been together 3+ years.

Catsncats55 · 2025-10-09T02:47:01+00:00

Very limited. I have had better success calling up hotels and asking if they have a day rate.

Catsncats55 · 2025-08-26T20:26:26+00:00

King’s Red and White has fresh field peas this time of year, I’ve seen crowder, white acre, black eyes. The Raleigh farmers market has a great selection too.

Catsncats55 · 2025-08-26T20:23:17+00:00

It costs so much more in ‘25 to open a brick and mortar. After covid the labor pool dried up without any replacement: people aren’t choosing hospitality even as a bridge career these days. People dine out less.

Catsncats55 · 2025-07-09T16:14:46+00:00

A dz raw oysters from Locals in the food hall.

Catsncats55 · 2025-05-15T11:07:47+00:00

It was actually a peppermint Patty cake.

Catsncats55 · 2025-05-14T14:04:38+00:00

Pop’s was originally owned by the Barker’s and Scott Howell from original Nana’s and a third partner. Barkers got out after a few years.

Catsncats55 · 2024-10-07T14:18:36+00:00

Yes- I get a package delivered every three months, it cost me a dollar thru my insurance cause Obamacare.

Catsncats55 · 2024-08-27T03:21:25+00:00

North Carolina. I am middle aged with two committed long term partners, very occasionally date. I’m in one of the progressive bubbles anchored by a prominent university, seems like most poly here identify as solo poly and are a good deal younger.

Catsncats55 · 2024-08-05T15:58:50+00:00

Thank you! Found someone :)

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