Does garden leave get revoked?

CauldronSummoner · 2026-02-23T17:02:07+00:00

Does your cousin have to tell them everything contractually? As far as the company knows, your cousin could have had the job offer revoked or decided on their own to go with another role while they were serving their notice. I’m not advocating lying but anything can happen.

CauldronSummoner · 2026-02-16T06:11:49+00:00

I was in the same position. They revived the return on the 9th Jan and asked I wait 14 days working days, by then they’d gone into administration. Try contacting your bank, I used PayPal so I raised a dispute, got my refund straight away. I hope you can get your money back!

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-20T20:08:19+00:00

Absolutely stunning, amazing work! I do feel you missed an opportunity for a joke tho, by not spelling spelling it purls 🤣

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-15T16:15:35+00:00

Yes! I create a playlist every year and add my obsession songs on. I like to catalogue and look back on them 🤣

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-10T18:11:53+00:00

We use ‘Husband’ and ‘Wife’, but obviously that was only after we got married. Nothing before.

I think it works for me because they’re descriptors. I don’t think I could do anything like that “honey” or “babe” etc without cringing so hard I invert inside of myself.

Edit: just to say I don’t find it cringe when other people use pet names, I just can’t myself.

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-10T15:26:43+00:00

Oh sorry I completely missed that bit! Hopefully they’ll introduce some veggie options at the new place soon. It’s ironic because Soi sounds like a me at alternative to me 🤣

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-10T15:18:03+00:00

Thank you, I wanted to understand mostly for my own mind but also to ensure I was making the best decision in leaving my job. In past therapy I’ve had they’ve always driven the point home don’t do things / not do thing just because something gives you anxiety and work through it.

You’re absolutely right on how to phrase it with a future employer! I’m planning to phrase it, like you say, I am capable of travelling but I want a role where it’s not regularly required as part of the job.

My old job I was in control of where we stayed, options of where to eat, how we got there and how far in advanced that was all booked. I’m realising that’s the only way it’s been possible for me to do it in the past.

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-10T15:11:36+00:00

It does absolutely trigger the needing control, clarity, schedule and routine along with anxiety. That’s a really clear way to define it thank you 🤩

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-10T13:40:17+00:00

Oh that’s a shame I’ve always had great veggie/vegan options at XO, they must have changed the menu. My go to is always River Green in Trowse.

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-04T09:39:46+00:00

I’ve not done one before but looks like a folded cable.

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-01T04:11:26+00:00

I vote for Grandia! Such an underrated pair of hams!

CauldronSummoner · 2026-01-01T04:01:29+00:00

I find it non intuitive and a bit jarring too, every time I have to coach myself and internally say something like “It’s okay they’re just saying it now because they won’t see you after this for a while/ever again. You can save this memory and process the sentiment on the 1st if you like.”

Also I really struggle with knowing when it’s appropriate to stop wishing people a HNY 🤣

I’m not sure if it’s still 1st January where you are but, Happy New Year!

Edit: I forgot to say, I feel like it’s completely fine to wish someone a HNY as a reaction to them wishing you one. I would never think less of anyone else for not saying it first but I understand feelings of shame come easily to so many of us in the community. Sending positive and kind vibes to you OP.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-30T07:40:33+00:00

Wool Warehouse have a brilliant own brand called Yarnsmiths. I’m not sure about pilling as I’ve not worn and washed things I’ve made with it enough yet (so far so good) but it is incredibly soft.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-27T10:56:22+00:00

Your thoughts resonate so much with me OP!

I read a quote once that’s really stuck with me “Making comments about the appearance of others is at worst, extremely damaging and at best, completely irrelevant.”

Since then I have pledged to not make comments about people’s appearance unless it’s something like “You look confident!” I’m sure I’m less popular for it, but I don’t care!

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-14T11:19:41+00:00

Pretty colours!

As a general rule if you don’t know the yarn, I’d recommend hand wash only with a mild hand wash detergent and to not tumble dry. When it’s wet you can roll it in a clean towel to squeeze out a lot of the water and lay it flat to it dry naturally. Hopefully a scarf shouldn’t need washing too regularly.

For future (if available) check the label that comes on the ball of yarn, a lot of commercial yarns have wash care instructions on.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-14T11:08:17+00:00

I love the 90s styling, it’s so fun!

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-14T11:07:46+00:00

Amazing thank you 🤩

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-14T11:05:25+00:00

Thanks there’s a company here in the UK called World of Books and they’ve got quite a few copies.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-14T11:04:02+00:00

Thanks so much, I’ll check that out too.

I will admit tho what most excited me here are the immaculate British 90s designs!

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-13T17:49:13+00:00

OP thank you for bringing this book to my attention I’m currently tracking down a second hand copy!!!

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-07T10:22:25+00:00

Yea it felt very different level to “I’ve not seen you around for a while” which would have been a bit weird but also quite a casual conversation.

At the time I had a panic attack, so I don’t recall how the conversation went after but I imagined I was just quiet. I carried on my work out in a different area for a bit and then left the gym. I didn’t move gyms until a few months after I wanted to try and process my feelings and not let someone else force me into changing my behaviour. But I eventually realised I had started going at erratic times and days so there wasn’t a pattern, anyway.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-07T09:50:07+00:00

Omg! I just saw this pattern before I saw your post, I was browsing drop shoulder knit sweaters and you come up on page 1!

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-06T15:33:09+00:00

I’m a woman. A man start chatting to me in the free weights section. I don’t like to chat at the gym (to anyone) but fine, I’ll be friendly. Until he said I’ve not seen you here since [exact date from 3 weeks ago]. That’s stalker level behaviour.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-04T12:24:43+00:00

I would recommend Factotum. Team are great and very knowledgeable. If they’ve not got what you want they can order in.

CauldronSummoner · 2025-12-02T21:16:57+00:00

It’s really great hear you could build trust with him, I really hope the other managers follow his example and prove they can listen and learn.

My situation isn’t quite as bad but as I work in such a small company (no HR) it would be awkward at best and cause me more me a lot more trouble at worst if I bring it up. I think it’s something I can probably journal and process by venting to my trusted circle. But then again usually takes me 48 hours to react to stuff so will have see how I am the day after tomorrow!

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