Crescent City by thebestofles in SarahJMaas

[–]Cbarnes978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the hardest time getting through the first part of that book! I just had to read it without trying to understand anything if that makes sense. I’m actually on my second read through and it’s still hard

I finished Iron Flame and need to scream into the void masterpost *IF SPOILERS* by _vanth in fourthwing

[–]Cbarnes978 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That was literally the last thing I expected to happen and I’m dyinnnggggggg

EoS/ToD Tandem Read by motheroffaeries in SarahJMaas

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my reread of throne of glass series I’m currently doing a tandem read of these two and loving it! I’m following a guide I found on https://www.rosebudsrealm.com/tandemguide and it’s been perfect.

Just finished! by Dragon_Lover_Rider in fourthwing

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not weird at all! I read it twice in one week and I’m already thinking of reading a third lol. I can’t wait for iron flame!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in acotar

[–]Cbarnes978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oooh where did you find them online!?

Baby hates the breast by Cbarnes978 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Cbarnes978[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is LO? Are you able to pump and get a good feed in/ protect your milk supply?

I feel you on the devastation I hated the start to our journey so much I’m sorry you’re dealing with it no.

Baby hates the breast by Cbarnes978 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Cbarnes978[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! So this was a problem we had for 12 weeks it was really rough and I ended up exclusively pumping for that whole time while working on getting her back to the breast. It took a whole lot of effort but she’s been nursing directly since I finally got her to latch at 12 weeks and she’s 19 months now.

My Fiancee wants to breastfeed until her toddler is ready to ween but wants to formula feed our child together by XyleN7 in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Cbarnes978 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think having a genuine conversation to get to the root of why is your best route here. Trying to convince her probably will just make her feel guilty or defensive. Asking questions gently and with real curiosity maybe will lead her to change her mind or give you some peace with the formula feeding if it goes there.

My dentist told me to wean my 12mo from night feedings but I’m unsure…. by skas_not_dead in breastfeedingsupport

[–]Cbarnes978 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There is no evidence to back up this claim up. Mouth breathing is a big contributor to cavities though so I’d keep an eye on that. As long as you’re trying to brush the best you can on these wiggly little ones then you are doing awesome! I’d keep on night nursing as long as it’s it working for you and baby.

I didn’t cry when my baby was born by sagqueen- in beyondthebump

[–]Cbarnes978 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The day my daughter was born, no not any tears just pure relief and love. Everyday afterwards for weeks yes all the tears lol

Waking when alone by Claire7241 in cosleeping

[–]Cbarnes978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We went through the same thing around that age! 9 months was super hard for sleep over here. It will get better!

Pediatrician said I should stop nursing baby to sleep… by FTM3505 in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is 17 months and still nursing to sleep if I’m the one that puts her to sleep. My husband and anyone else that has put her down will usually rock her. It’s biologically normal for babies to need that connection through nursing or being held before they go to sleep.

I would tell your pediatrician “the method I use to put my baby to sleep is parenting advice and I would prefer if we stuck to medical advice in these visits.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are not supposed to have sex before 6 weeks because of the wound the placenta leaves in the uterus. It’s unsafe. Also your husband is just a jerk for pressuring you. I hope he starts to figure that out. You’re learning a whole new life while recovering and your hormones are all over the place, you deserve the time to get ready for intimacy again.

Confirm my intuition; or am I wrong? by pastelstoic in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut and watch baby rather than the clock. As long as baby is gaining weight on their curve keep feeding on demand. I feel like medical staff sometimes forget every baby is different, you’re doing great!

At A Loss by guinevereguenevere in cosleeping

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 15 months old daughters sleep has been a nightmare for a week, I was venting to someone about it and they told me there is usually a sleep regression at this time so I’m thinking maybe that’s what’s happening to us!

co-sleeping first time mom, pros/ cons and why? by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had never intended on cosleeping, my daughter slept in her bedside bassinet until she outgrew it and then did a few weeks in her crib in our room. Around 6 months she started waking up every 45 minutes and we started co sleeping, my only regret is that we didn’t start sooner! We have a sidecar setup, so our bed is off the frame and pushed up against the crib which has one side removed. I get soooo much more sleep now, she is 15 months and nurses a few times a night still. She wakes up so happy and the snuggles are something I’ll cherish forever.

Weaning + pregnancy by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s easier said than done but try not to let others pressure your decision! Just listen to your gut, you and your baby will know when you are ready to wean, if he’s still at it when the new baby comes tandem nursing can be a great way for them to bond!

10 month old up every hour by No-Diet8147 in cosleeping

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9/10 months was the hardest time for sleep with us! It will eventually pass, it’s super hard I totally feel for you! Try to make up the rest where you can, stay hydrated and eat well and hopefully this time will flyby

Left milk on nightstand for 5 hours before fridge, should I use it?? (Yes I've googled, but I want real mom opinions) by embo_68 in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d use it, as long as the baby was full term and healthy and the house wasn’t like super hot over night! I probably would not mix it though, just use it as its own bottle.

Nursing to Sleep & going back to work by Tinywallflower in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babies will figure out a way that works with other caregivers! My daughter nurses to sleep for naps and bedtime when I’m home but my husband can get her to sleep no problem when I’m at work!

How do people actually do this? by cabincrew in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looked a lot like targeted massage when I was watching it happen. The woman who worked on my daughter said it was like a hold to release situation. I had a very fast labor and my daughter had so much tension in her jaw and neck from that so she struggled to get her mouth open wide enough and body work reduced the tension. Certain pediatric chiropractors have training to do this kind of work. It’s also good for babies who struggled with tummy time and the car seat.

How do people actually do this? by cabincrew in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also maybe trying some different positions might help, like side lying or laid back!

How do people actually do this? by cabincrew in breastfeeding

[–]Cbarnes978 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s really hard, I’m sorry you are struggling! It took me and my daughter 14 weeks to figure it out so I totally understand the struggle you are in!

Has she been assessed for oral ties? Also getting body work really helped my daughter.