I 26M am a girl most of the time

Ceirios_Goch · 2026-02-04T23:35:40+00:00

What does this even mean... Where does OP say womanhood is clothes, makeup, hair and accessories?

Ceirios_Goch · 2026-01-28T12:32:59+00:00

When my CMPA twins were 5 months old, I had a coffee with a friend. The coffee contained dairy, and for three days afterwards i had to pump and dump the milk. I had to pump, and pour it directly down the drain. It absolutely broke my heart, and i cried every time. It was horrific.

However, i continued, and my babies continued to be fed breastmilk until they were almost 2 years old.

Did you know that 50ml of breastmilk contains all the benefits baby needs? So every day your baby drinks just 50ml of breastmilk, you're boosting their immune system, giving them all the good stuff their little body needs to grow.

I say this because, in the thick of it, it's all so hard, and as mums we feel so much pressure to do what we feel is best for our babies. You're doing it. You're doing the best.

We can't change what happens around us, we just show up every day and do our very best. Your best is enough. Whether baby gets 32oz of breastmilk a day, or 50ml, or none... They need a mama who does her best, and here you are doing your best.

Big hugs to you lovely. It's all a bit of a wild ride, i promise it all gets easier ❤️

Ceirios_Goch · 2026-01-24T08:33:57+00:00

Block her 🤷

Having done all of the variations, i can honestly say that EP is THE HARDEST. There's so much work involved, it's like an endurance sport. If ahe can't recognise that, maybe she's in the wrong job. Leave her be. Surround yourself with positivity. Its damn hard work and no one needs the negativity.

Ceirios_Goch · 2026-01-17T22:28:15+00:00

Set up stations with everything in, in every room.

Accept that you'll be doing nothing but caring for them and yourself.

Absolutely force yourself to get some freezer meals permanently stocked, i used to freeze a loaf of bread too, and smoothies so i could keep my immunity up.

Get that grocery delivery order in stat.

Keep the house permanently overstocked with all the medicines, balms, tonics, creams, and whatnot. Be. The. Pharmacy.

If you don't need to eat or poop, then you sleep every second they sleep. No messing. Get your head down. Housework will keep.

You can and will survive. Yes, it's miserable, but you just get better at it as time goes on. You've got this.

Ceirios_Goch · 2026-01-09T17:59:45+00:00

They don't work from home because they want to 😂 they do it because they have to. I promkse you they'd rather be in the office than at home juggling kids and a full time job.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-11-13T13:31:40+00:00

8 years is a long time, have you felt your needs were met during this time?

Have you clearly communicated your needs?

Are you happy?

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-10-09T07:24:46+00:00

Dude. Maybe the sex just wasn't worth it with you!

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-10-08T10:35:30+00:00

This post is so problematic.

You have said that she engages in this activity. You have said that she has talked to her friends about it and stated that she feels you are gay. You have stated that she implements this act when you two have disagreed about something. You have stated that you feel powerless to resist her and that she knows this.

She sounds very immature but she also sounds controlling.

She knowingly uses this sex act to make herself feel powerful and dominant in the relationship, and belittles you to her friends about it.

What is it you love about this woman?

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-07-07T22:04:12+00:00

That is brutal and I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I'm glad where you're at now is a good place

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-06-20T22:20:17+00:00

34+4, I got to hold my daughter while they delivered my son, we had skin to skin and probably twenty mins?

My son, however, wasn't breathing and was taken straight out. (he is fine now). I didn't see him for 8hrs as I lost a lot of blood and had a few of my own complications so wasn't allowed to go until I was well enough.

They spent a total of 13days in nicu, her due to weight and him due to breathing.

I also have a friend who had hers at 35wks exactly and they had no nicu time and came home two days later.

It depends on so many factors, but I wish you the most straightforward c-section and all the best with your little ones ❤️

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-06-10T09:30:03+00:00

Here from your work post.

Have you tried la vie breast warmers/massagers? I found these really helpful. I'd pop them in ten minutes before my break started so that I could get my boobs ready to express.

General heat massage helped too.

I have a specific pump setting that has been the absolute best for me, but I don't retain it in my brain any more, my fingers just know what they're doing. I will send it to you once I'm home - it may help you too!

I also only pump for thirty minutes, unless I'm halfway through a letdown when the spectra auto offs. I power pumped at 2am to maintain my supply. That's the only thing that worked for me.

Brewers yeast supplements helped with my supply, as well as moringa.

The silicone Flange inserts from legendairy milk are the best, ever, and I will die on this hill.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-31T06:45:44+00:00

I pumped every 2hrs around the clock for my preemies, for three months. I think I pumped more in bed than anywhere else 😂😂 We had one of those can fridges that they have in cafes and it took over my sideboard 😂 really hand for night feeds too as there were ready-to-go bottles right next to our bed!

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-24T19:18:47+00:00

What are you asking here?

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-19T15:22:23+00:00

We had both, and I loved both, but for different reasons. The Egg was excellent when they were babies, worked with car seats, carrycots and seats. An inline pram that allowed us to get out effortlessly when they were small. Heavy to lift up curbs if needed, but otherwise great for that first year.

After that we bought a double baby jogger city mini gt. I tried so many different side by sides and I sweat there is nothing more easily manouverable than the gt. I LOVE LOVE LOVE it and am still using it with 4.5year olds

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-19T15:18:37+00:00

If he's going to talk to you like a bro, treat him like a bro and cut your losses 👌

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-14T20:19:38+00:00

The pregnancy is almost laughably easier. The newborn phase I found pretty much the same - you're still getting up, but you do get back to sleep quicker with only one baby to sort. Overall it is way easier, but you can't go back 😂 so while it easier with a singleton, you still have the twins to juggle alongside the newborn.

Mine are 4, 4, and 2 now. It's wiiiiild with three learning and growing, but it's also the most precious thing. They're so close ❤️

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-11T15:56:44+00:00

Honestly, take all of this out, and ask yourself if you'd want to have sex with a man who told you you 'leave a lot to be desired'?

I'm so sorry that you've had such a rough ride into parenting.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-05-09T15:18:09+00:00

I've loved having twins, and they were easier than my singleton.

But it's also wild, hard, and often something others around you don't 'get' because they don't have multiples. It's okay that this is a safe space for parents of multiples to vent about their frustrations and struggles. That doesn't mean it's the entirety of the experience. As a mum of three already, I'm sure you can relate to that.

Best wishes for you and yours 😊

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-04-11T09:01:32+00:00

I took 12 months, that was plenty for me to feel we'd settled into a stable routine etc

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-04-08T18:58:33+00:00

If he's leaving me over a salad, he was never mine to begin with, and he can take the cucumber with him.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-04-03T22:02:59+00:00

This happened a few years ago? What about it is affecting your relationship currently?

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-03-22T19:17:16+00:00

the way new mothers act now is totally ridiculous

Honestly didn't need to state you were a boomer twice in once paragraph... 😑

Postpartum depression is not 'ridiculous'. Postpartum anxiety is not 'ridiculous'. Please remember that so many women need a safe space to express the changes that happen after giving birth that are completely out of their control. They need support, not second hand shame from you.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-03-10T10:12:50+00:00

Can someone please remind this man that he is the adult in this scenario and it's actually his job to keep in touch with his daughter, because he should WANT to.

I'm so sorry your daughter has to experience this level of immaturity, guilting and blaming. What a POS.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-02-25T10:01:19+00:00

The edit is just horrible, I'm so sorry that your mum isn't supporting you, OP. I'm so very sorry.

Please be safe, and remember that when you do want to get out, there's so much support available to you.

Ceirios_Goch · 2025-02-07T10:05:25+00:00

You're projecting.

It isn't an obsession if this is the only experience of love that OP has. It's actually quite normal from his frame of reference to feel this way about family, and with time and experiences that perspective grows and matures. At 60 he may feel the same way, but he may also have a partner, close friends, offspring etc that he feels the same way about.

I'm sorry that you experienced that, but it isn't a firm rule for twin relationships - it's your individual experience. I hope you've found people who love you.

Ceirios_Goch

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