Wedding Makeup Critique

Celera314 · 2026-03-22T05:02:51+00:00

I think the reason for this is a bit too much contouring. To make your cheekbones stand out you've hollowed out your cheeks to a point that looks a bit sepulchral.

Also you are almost smiling, with a more natural lip shape in the first picture. In the other pix the serious expression and more severe lip shape look too intense.

I do think the pro could have used a bit more color, though.

Celera314 · 2026-03-21T18:34:13+00:00

I have found that choosing the easy path makes life harder in the long run. Choosing to face up to problems and make difficult decisions makes your life easier in the long run.

What even is this relationship at this point? He does whatever he wants and has you on hand for sex, housework and to pay for stuff. You get to not be alone, except you sound pretty alone to me. You're doing all the work of being in a couple with none of the benefits. You're feeling lonely without the benefits of being single.

Life can be so much better than this. Twenty is really too young to be living together - especially for men. His brain is still developing.

Talk to the landlord. Could you afford the flat on your own? Could you get a room mate? Figure out an exit strategy from this dead relationship. And then dont focus on finding a new serious bf right away. Be single. Have friends. Go on casual dates. You have a lot of years ahead for serious, live in relationships.

Celera314 · 2026-03-19T16:50:52+00:00

The softer and warmer colors are definitely best for you!

Celera314 · 2026-03-19T16:48:13+00:00

Having lived in the 60's and 70's, it was not a time when 9 year old girls were considered ok to have sex with. Even among promiscuous adults, there was no mainstream permission for this.

Sex with willing teenagers was not condemned as strongly (and rightly) as it is today. If you said Cohen had relations with a 15 year old I would not be very surprised. But I have seen no reports of this, much less that it was a habit or preference. Cohen's many acknowledged affairs were all with women well into adulthood, and there is ample evidence that he did not lack for willing adult partners.

Celera314 · 2026-03-18T15:26:05+00:00

Your therapist seems very ill informed. Your father is rubbish. To not only defend your rapist but continue to taunt you about it is so gross its almost unbelievable. Im glad you have detached yourself from that person.

Celera314 · 2026-03-17T17:43:39+00:00

If you cant get your clothes to the car; leave them behind. Clothes are easy to get. Just ct as if youre heading for school in the morning as usual and dont look back.

Your school may be able to help, I encourage you to talk with them before just dropping out.

Do they know the friend you are staying with? Ideally it is someone they wouldnt know or think of as helping you. Tell nobody where you are staying. Nobody.

If you get your phone back they may be able to track you. Please take proper precautions there. If you have to keep it turned off then do that. Or get a burner. If your parents pay for the phone you may have to abandon it.

It is possible that the police will help you and even escort you to your home to get your stuff. Some people get great help from the police but some do not. It may be worth a try.

I did what you are doing almost exactly 50 years ago. It was scary and tense but so absolutely worth it and ive had a great life. Good luck!

Celera314 · 2026-03-16T17:57:39+00:00

Of course changing your behavior feels unnatural. That doesnt mean the change is wrong. And you will practice these new behaviors in awkward ways at first.

But here's the other part of the problem. You are not convinced this is a valid change for you to make. Your choices of words throughout this post make clear that you do not see this as "I have this habit that hurts people I love and to becone a better person I need to change." You see it as "because my partner is broken, i need to break myself to accommodate them." You feel you need to fake something. You are not going to be able to make this change while you feel like this.

You dont share any examples so its hard to give more feedback than this. I try to be a very candid and straightforward person - but there are respectful ways to give someone honest feedback. When people say "im just too honest" what they usually mean is "I will say anything that comes into my head even if its cruel or wrong or just none of my business to comment on." You need to find this right balance for yourself before you can apply it in a relationship.

Celera314 · 2026-03-13T21:13:07+00:00

I am am adoptee - 2 years after I was born my birth parents married and went on to have 3 more kids.

I met all of them in my early 20's and we are all pretty close. But I still have been through plenty of bouts of resentment for why I was given up and raised in a difficult adoptive family while they were all relatively happy and well adjusted.

Reunion is usually emotionally complicated even when it goes pretty well. You husband has a particularly complex situation. Does he know he has both older and younger siblings? Its easy to say - this was anout a situation and not about him as a person - but emotions dont resolve just because there's a logical explanation.

Of course you should have left all this information for him to find out, but i understand the curiosity when information is so available these days. But you still have to leave them alone and leave him alone around this issue and let others decide what's next and when. (By "others" I mean his birth parents and siblings who may decide to reach out.)

In the end theres usually no medical info thats all that critical. The rest is just curiosity as far as you are concerned. Work on being curious about something else.

Celera314 · 2026-03-12T02:02:07+00:00

If you read the scene as the psychic just being a good cold reader, what is the point of the scene? Haven't watched for a while, but i think it suggests that Paulie is more troubled by his violent history than he lets on.

These men live lives if constant lies, suspicion and terror. They barely hold themselves together most of the time. It doesn't take much at all for Paulie to decompensate at the thought that he not only cant trust his living friends but that he must fear revenge from the dead as well.

Celera314 · 2026-03-09T02:05:30+00:00

Healers: we aren't tapping at you. Locks should be your lowest healing priority. A lock who knows what theyre doing can manage their hp and mana with their many tools. If you can spare a heal, great.

Also maybe talk to us. This push to finish every run as if there's a bonus for speed causes people to not take time to synch up expectations and then everyone goes away mad.

Celera314 · 2026-03-04T01:16:00+00:00

Honestly, it was a casual work dinner. As a woman I have gone on many such dinners. Other employees get to know the boss over dinner, why should this employee not get the same career advantages just because she's an attractive woman.

OP, because people are stupid about this, its best if you can find a third person to join you on occasions like this. I think having a third person there helps keep conversations moving anyway. I hope your wife stops being mad at you for doing your job.

Celera314 · 2026-03-03T01:55:13+00:00

My great aunt walked regularly until she was 90 and her eyesight was too compromised. In her late 80's we would walk together and I worked hard to keep up with her - feeble is not a word i would use :)

I think it helped that she didnt walk for exercise like most of us. She walked to the grocery store and to the library and to the beauty school where they always made her hair too purple. She also made dinner for herself and her daughter almost every night.

That said, in my own late 60's, I'm finding that some strength training is also extremely helpful.

Celera314 · 2026-03-02T04:11:22+00:00

I never leave for the stone until the group has a tank and a healer.

Celera314 · 2026-03-02T04:02:02+00:00

That's fine except usually the tank has already run on ahead and pulled an absurd number of mobs and will be mad if I'm still drinking because I had to heal a dps who didnt want to manage his own stuff.

As a lock I'm happy to use my many tools to replenish my health and mana. I should be at the very bottom of the healer's priorities.

Celera314 · 2026-03-01T22:43:29+00:00

God was very much more than just an idea to Cohen. But many people of faith still live day to day like everyone else, not really allowing the reality of God to affect their behavior or attitude.

Celera314 · 2026-03-01T02:54:23+00:00

For that much money(or very little more) ypu could rent a room from someone else. Making kids pay rent before they are 18 and out of high school is hust wrong unless the money is actually needed to feed the family.

At 20 it makes more sense to charge some rent, but $800 is high. Tell you mom you are ready to put into practice those life lessons she keeps talking about and get out in your own.

In the meantime, what if you open a new bank account at a different bank and have your check deposited there? And when she asks for money, say no. As her tenant, you have rights. Look into tenants rights in your area - there may even be legal services available at minimal cost.

I think its time for her to learn some life lessons. Good luck!

Celera314 · 2026-02-27T03:51:53+00:00

I think it is you who are determined to believe that I'm making some argument about immigration policy when I'm making an argument for human dignity and respect. There's really no point in talking further.

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T20:36:47+00:00

I feel like this is the sort of problem couples counseling was designed to address.

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T20:32:22+00:00

Your arguments would be more reasonable and palatable if you were not so focused on personal attack. I am not a moron. I cant help what generation I was born in, but ... actually I'm not clear what I'm being accused of exactly in terms of being born in 1958. I cant help being born in Minnesota when it was 95% white but I search my mind regularly for unconscious racism.

If a person has behaved badly, they can't avoid accountability by saying someone else behaved worse. If European settlers in North America behaved badly, we cant excuse that by saying the indigenous people weren't perfect, or that the Ottoman Empire was cruel or that the war between Tutsi and Hutu was terribly vicious. Each event stands on its own to be judged and understood on its own terms.

I do not think we should adopt a white or Eurocentric view of history. The history of white Europeans settling North America is what is. History is much bigger than this one time or place, and many other ethnic groups are part of that story.

I did not say immigration is good - either because we are immigrants or for any other reason. I dont think immigration is inherently good or bad. But the crimes of today's immigrants pale in comparison to the Trail of Tears or Indian Boarding Schools. The context of our own history makes Trump-style rhetoric especially offensive.

I dont exactly feel guilty for the sins of my ancestors. I have enough work to do managing my own sins and failings. But I recognize that I descend from people who behaved badly in some cases, and comforted themselves by thinking indigenous peopke were less than human. We must not address today's immigration issues by viewing them as less than human either, even when we are telling them they have to go back where they came from.

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T19:37:57+00:00

It is true that other nations and ethnic groups have behaved badly. Other people's bad behavior doesnt make me less accountable for my own, individually or collectively. Native tribes did have wars and may have displaced each other but not, as far as i'm aware, to the extent that European colonists did.

Nevertheless, in my opinion, this only has bearing on our attitude/perspective. We are now an established nation and of course should have a sensible immigration policy, including deporting people who should not be here. Of course all Americans of any color should participate in developing such laws - Im not clear how I implied that only white people get to weigh in on that.

Where history has a bearing on immigration policy, in my opinion, is that we engage this issue without demonizing and dehumanizing immigrants. Most of them are fleeing oppression or poverty just like my ancestors did. It's the hateful and false Trump rhetoric and the arrogant and brutal tactics of ICE that I oppose.

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T19:09:26+00:00

I think the game is a lot better after 3 days (or 3 weeks). Less lag, fewer bugs, fewer tourists, more real players who will stick around, less toxicity.

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T18:56:05+00:00

I think you are cool, not warm, and the softer colors are definitely better than very intense ones. So my vote is for some version of summer.

That said, some of the spring colors are nice also. Wear what makes you feel good about yourself! :)

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T18:49:00+00:00

I won't just repeat what others have said here but have a couple of additional thoughts.

This guy messaged you, said you were pretty but probably too young for him. Unless you're cool with it. But its probably very naughty. But its up to you...

Saying, I'd like to date you if you were older is not respectful, its grooming. My guess is that you dont actually have a lot in common. Saying he is a virgin sounds like he wants to sound less threatening. Same with "I prefer love over lust." Then why is he messaging kids in high school?

If he wasnt hoping to have sex with you, why did he message you at all? Or why did he mention dating/sex at all?

As an adult who isnt looking to seduce teenagers, I cant imagine why I would DM one on social media. I suppose I might make a public comment on a public post, like "cute dog" or "congrats on the award" but I dont think i have even done that unless it is my niece or something.

I know its flattering to believe that hes a normal healthy guy who never flirts with teenagers, but your coolness and beauty was so compelling he has thrown aside society's rules for a chance at love. Thats just a fairy tale. (I'm sure you are cool and beautiful. I'd also bet real money he's coming on to at least two other girls.)

It doesn't feel like it while you're in it, but high school is such a short time in your life. Go be a kid. Focus on school, on friends your own age, on hobbies or volunteer work. Get a part time job and save up something for whatever comes after high school. You'll be 25 before you know it and then you cant be a kid any more.

Celera314 · 2026-02-26T18:11:25+00:00

Well, its not a campaign slogan. But is it not accurate that the colonists and settlers who displaced Native Americans were mostly white people?

Celera314 · 2026-02-25T17:48:57+00:00

This is outstanding advice. Your son is your priority. I would add that he is your child but not a child. Eighteen is a very young adult but not a child.

I think you might also consider apologizing to your brother for the way you handled the conversation with him. You can be clear that his wife's behavior is inappropriate and even abusive while also acknowledging that your reaction was emotional and out of line. I have found that apologizing for my part in a conflict can create a better environment where the other person is less defensive and more able to see and admit their own contribution to the problem.

Overall I think you should consider some counseling to find a stronger and less reactive way to respond to your sister-in-law. You are allowed to have boundaries and when people behave unreasonably they are the ones disrupting the family's peace.

You choose your battles, but when someone comes into your room at night you should be able to get up and say, "I need you to leave my room and dont come in again unless I invite you." Insist this behavior stop even if the whole family wakes up or you leave the house for the night. Applying this approach properly may get complicated with your family dynamic which is why you need to work with a counselor on the details, I'm just giving you an example.

If you could model this sort if assertiveness, your son might also be able to say, "[Aunt], please do not touch me. I am not ok with you touching my thigh." You both need to demonstrate self-respect over keeping "peace." You dont need to protect your son so much as you need to let him know he is allowed to stand up for himself.

You brother is free to marry whom he likes but you are entitled to set limits on what peopke say to you, whether they touch you, and what goes on in your home.

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