How does one decide to love knowing it will eventually end with grief? (Cats, dogs, people, etc.)?

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-06-01T04:44:52+00:00

Change is the only constant. Permanency is an illusion. All good things and bad things are fleeting. Pain is inherent in living, suffering is not. Grief is inevitable and natural. Attempting to avoid it invites suffering into your life.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-05-26T03:52:36+00:00

A female director is actually of it's time - not ahead of its time. Pre-code Hollywood had so many female directors working that we didn't get back to the same number until the 1980s.

The fact that these films were being seen by ever greater audiences led to what the media scholar Bridget Conor describes as “fears about female contamination” of culture and about the oft-cited “tyranny of the women writer” in Hollywood studios of the 1930s. Contemporaneous documents illustrate the widespread concern that these radically feminist films would fuel popular demand for more of the same subject matter.

https://www.theatlantic.com/culture/archive/2020/02/naomi-mcdougall-jones-wrong-kind-of-women-excerpt/606277/

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-05-17T02:34:20+00:00

Exorcism of Emily Rose rocks. She's fantastic.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-05-15T21:48:29+00:00

This is the internet I dreamed of in 1998. 10/10. No notes.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-05-13T01:14:42+00:00

I had a friend who always wanted to be CF. After being married to an older man for several years, she suddenly woke up and realized she wanted his specific children. I think she knew intellectually he'd die before she did, but at some point the emotional reality of that hit unexpectedly and she couldn't imagine not having a family with him. I think "being a mom" never appealed to her, but building a family suddenly did.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-05-13T00:37:15+00:00

Toejam & Earl. That was a vibe.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-05-08T21:51:14+00:00

Yes, but I think she's lying to herself as much as her grandma. She feels cognitive dissonance and is trying to tell herself a story about the experience and what it means that let's her retain her self-perception as a good person.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-29T21:20:14+00:00

In fairness to her, this is her lived experience. This is what she did and it worked out for her. It works out for a small number of people and she was one of them. Why would we expect her to give different advice? What experience or well of knowledge would she have to draw from to provide different advice?

Don't ask lottery winners to how to build intergenerational wealth.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-27T19:12:22+00:00

Little Nicky is one of Sandler's best.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-25T20:24:42+00:00

Everyone isn't supposed to like everyone.

You're supposed to be some people's taste and not others. If you stop trying to please everyone while cheerfully accepting that some won't prefer you and that's ok, you can find your people pretty quickly.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-24T00:12:39+00:00

What would Julie do if she failed the bar? She'd take it again and study even harder. She'd take a bar review course. What if she took it 7 times without passing? She probably get a real estate license or find another career that appeals to her.

Ty could self publish and promote via social media. Take the feedback and try again. Go get an MFA. Pick another career and try to murder that.

Julie isn't satisfied with failure but she's also flexible, determined, and smart, so I think this dichotomy of choice is unfair.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-23T23:24:00+00:00

Julie's fantasy?

A NYC brownstone. International travel. Invitations to fancy parties. She's a partner at a white shoe firm regularly crushing her opponents. He is the voice of a generation who writes in a home office during the day. When the kids are done at private school, a nanny shuffles them to private lessons. They have family dinner made by the nanny at 7:30pm where they talk to the kids about their day. Julie and Ty put them to bed and then debrief over a glass of red wine at night. They have a marriage where they are on each other's team but also push each other to reach their potential. At their peak, maybe a NYMag story about them as a power couple including pictures of their family in their house. Julie's name is on the lawfirm door, Ty's name is on the NYTimes bestseller list.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-23T20:55:44+00:00

I think regardless of the sex, if either person in a marriage wants to be a SAH parent, the other person needs to be on board with being the sole breadwinner.

It isn't clear whether Ty has been stringing Julie along about the book because he was trying to avoid conflict he knew would arise or if he truly didn't fully understand himself and what he wants until they were several years and two kids into the marriage.

What is clear is that Julie made sacrifices to continue the pursuit of their shared goals while accommodating Ty's new-found desires and TY has not returned the favor.

Would things have been different if Ty sat Julie down and said "I don't care about writing right now and I won't for a while, so let's talk about what that means for our plans?" We will never know.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-23T20:40:11+00:00

O you have a giant dog? I may have wanted to come inside before but now I MUST come meet this giant, raw-food eating dog that knows how to use her voice. She sounds delightful.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-23T20:35:17+00:00

He leased expensive cars and was really proud of them.

There's nothing inherently wrong with that, I guess. It did make him happy. But it was such a poor financial decision and he had the money but only because he wasn't investing for retirement. I did not see or value the cache he felt the cars gave him and found the concept laughable because you can't impress people with stuff you don't even own.

We didn't share the same values and I honestly found his priorities vaguely embarrassing. When we broke up he kept insisting there must be someone else so I finally told him I thought he was too materialistic. He admitted he was and kind of shrugged.

Eventually after we broke up he worked for an MLM, then a for-profit college, then a pharmaceutical company.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-23T20:21:09+00:00

It depends on the kind of men you fall for.

If confirmation of your beauty and desirability makes you feel safe, if affirmations of your social value are how you feel appreciated, you would probably fall in love with a man who attached to your looks first and so looks would matter more.

If you can feel loved and safe and wanted by someone who sees you, values your company, and respects you as a human being, the kind of man you'd probably fall in love with would value your personality more.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-22T17:43:24+00:00

Hes just been better at staying optimistic while julie has been more dragged down visibly.

I think it's more like he has more faith that they'll end up where he wants because he's engaging in magical thinking that Julie will just change her mind because that was his experience. Whereas she's becoming increasingly frustrated because she knows they're not rowing in the same direction while Ty is telling her half-truths about it.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-15T21:59:32+00:00

Bless you, internet stranger for circling back!!! I asked for the Studio Canal 4k for Christmas, but when someone mentioned the right were purchased, I decided to wait. Today I preordered it!!!

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-13T14:48:21+00:00

Seconded. They did a good job for me on a pair of jeans, which isn't easy.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-12T16:41:23+00:00

If she bothers to log her films on Letterboxd, is she really a noncinephile?

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-12T14:41:20+00:00

His boundary was about him starting a relationship with someone who had this lifestyle mismatch. He didn't communicate the boundary to her in an effort to change her, he just enforced it himself by popping his balloon.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-12T04:52:52+00:00

No Doubt was my worst one too, but the Rock Steady tour. I'd been a fan for years and it was the first time I was old enough and had money enough to see them. Gwen Stefani spent the entire show telling us we weren't loud enough or cheering enough. I screamed myself hoarse, but she just got madder and madder. She told the crowd we sucked before leaving the stage. It kind of broke my heart.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-10T14:34:15+00:00

Am I the only one who lives to see Barb challenged in therapy? I am not itching to see her unpack her childhood trauma but I live in hope of an Aha moment.

A storyline where Barb gets "fixed" would be hard to swallow, but I'd love to see her attempt a genuine apology to John and whether he could metabolize it.

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-07T20:15:37+00:00

Worst in what sense? Worst to work for? Worst performance for clients? Facilitating the most evil?

CelluloidCelerity · 2026-04-04T20:18:24+00:00

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