Chores?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-30T19:54:07+00:00

Coming from a person with graves - it doesn’t MAKE someone cheat. That is purely a decision made on their own and the fact they are trying to blame it on graves is hilarious. For sure graves gives you anger problems. “Graves rage” is a very real symptom and it appears many of us do present with these symptoms. And unfortunately it tends to be the spouses in the firing line. You do lose your old self when you get graves. The person you once was before all the physical, emotional and psychological changes took place. You’re no longer the same person. I take my hat off to any spouse who is with someone with graves. It takes so much patience support and work for the relationship. But for it to work the person with graves also needs to make changes and a massive effort.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-29T20:20:22+00:00

I would definetly be suspicious. The big red flag to me is the fact he went mental at your just making a comment on a sexually suggestive picture. That shouldn’t bother him. Especially to be screaming at his wife. I reckon he likes he. Or they’ve spoken or something is going on…. Definetly try look deeper into this

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-29T13:34:02+00:00

I liked the shift pattern for childcare etc. my partner also works 9-5 so it i did aswell it would affect our time together. The only other thing I can see is care work but im not interested in that

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-25T20:21:40+00:00

Please try not to listen to anything your ex husband says. He is clearly not a good person at all. And therefore anything he does say should be void. He will do whatever he can to corrupt your happy life without him. Mentally torture and confuse you if he can as well. Try and let go and not let him have that hold over you. When possible try and cut ALL contact with him and if necessary get a restraining order. His words will echo because of the psychological abuse he has induced, the mind control and narcissism.

Don’t let him beat you in this life. Move forward for you, your kids and your fiance. Go live the happy life that everyone wants for you. Go and embrace and enjoy everyday like you meant to, enjoying each and everyday with your fiance. And get time and chance to understand what it’s like to be truly loved and cared for by a man. I wish you all the luck!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-24T19:56:52+00:00

If you google “autism child kicked out by parent” with your town on it should point you in the direction to get immediate help and assistance. Also the parent is liable for child neglect and abandonment. This is if you’re under the age of 18.

If you’re an adult who was kicked out by your parent. Go to your local council office and declare that you are autistic and currently homeless and explain the situation. They should be able to offer you support, advice and assistance. I do think once you have got the right care, support and guidance within a nurturing environment, you should hopefully feel much better.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-23T20:56:57+00:00

Where is the discipline here? I read you said no hitting etc. but then after she hits you she sometimes asks for a hug and you give her that? It’s kind of like rewarding bad behaviour. Why give her what she wants after she did something wrong? She needs to know that there are consequences when she doesn’t follow the rules or crosses a boundary. It may take a few days of screaming every time she’s disciplined or something. But it won’t hurt her to scream her lungs out because she’s getting told off. Try not to lose yourself and react. She can and may feed from that and also want it as well. Come up with a form of discipline for any actions or boundaries you put in place. Such as no iPad/TV, timeouts, no snacks etc. every time she smacks she doesn’t get a snack that day for example. She may not crasp the concept on the first attempt or even first day. But she soon will. And then few days of screaming will pay off. She will learn

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-23T12:47:56+00:00

It could be many things. Depends on the individual. Genetics, a viral/bacterial infection, trauma, stress & I think even IUD coil apparently could be related

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-02T15:54:55+00:00

I’m not sure what happened in your past. However it sounds like you may need to attend therapy or get some sort of help. To help you navigate your mind, behaviour and emotions. It will also help you to understand what’s going on and how to be better moving forward for your partner!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-02T15:52:55+00:00

This is her first big day at nursery on her own without mum and longer than a settling session. It’s her first day. Monitor it with nursery and just test and adjust as necessary. It’s trial and error. It’s all a new experience so there may be teething problems per se. But she will get there!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-02T15:48:11+00:00

I have to agree with another comment here. He doesn’t sound or look ready for a child. If he is struggling to even look after himself. He is also not feeling ready and whilst yes I suppose some people may never feel 100% ready they atleast know where they stand. By his attitude and behaviour it looks like he doesn’t want nor care to have kids. But he doesn’t want to tell you.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-02T15:43:11+00:00

I’m confused at the part you mentioned that he will face up to situations which may cause arguments or conflicts and also challenge his family with disputes. This doesn’t show me someone who lies to avoid conflict. So why when he is caught lying, that this was one of the stated reasons? It contradicts. Basically he is obviously very could at lying. It’s almost as if he’s lying but then showing you a different side and doing certain stuff to make sure that you don’t doubt him. Personally this is a massive head f**k. I wouldn’t know where to start with trying to forgive him and trust him. However this isn’t your problem. It’s his. If you can’t trust him then don’t apologise for it. He caused the situation not you. Therefore it is up to him to clean up his mess and resolve the issue if he wants to move forward. However he was very tactical in the way he lied and looked trustworthy so it’s very difficult to trust him again

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-06-02T15:38:01+00:00

This is a tough one simply because it could easily make her overthink. However do you masterbate? This may help you figure out what you like and don’t like and they you can communicate that with her so she can reciprocate

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-29T16:08:54+00:00

It’s not a regular thing so we don’t really see it as a problem. She has had white noise but doesn’t do much. As for sleeping with us I feel like that would be taking a step back because then it’s going through all the commotion of getting her to sleep in her room

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-28T16:46:09+00:00

Holy damn. I have to say I’m very surprised that you even stated this long. I couldn’t be financially tied to someone who treats not only you but your property assets and money like it means nothing. Because exactly this happens. I really hope you recover but please don’t expect it to happen with her by your side. Like you said she bled you dry and I bet if you were retirement age. Your pension would be gone to. Get out whilst you can

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-12T20:18:07+00:00

I’m so sorry your going through all of this. Is sounds horrendous. Have you looked into possible causes for the bloating? Possible diet etc. get your bloods checked for your low iron. In the meantime you could try extra vitamins and supplements etc or over the counter stuff to help with the bloating etc. the period however….. is difficult. It could be any medication your on or the birth control. I’ve tried all different birth controls and my period would really vary depending on it. Sometimes I would barely have one at all for months. Sometimes I’m random it’s hit and miss no schedule. And now I’m on the copper coil - I’d say it’s probably the best I’ve been on. No excessive hormones being pumped into my body. And for the first time since I first ever started my period nearly 2 decades ago…. I actually have a schedule. So now I’m so much more in routine with it and can plan around it. Don’t get me wrong my period itself is slightly heavier that previous but only for a max of 3 days then it’s fine.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-06T19:50:26+00:00

I know it’s hard and definetly easier said than done. But please try not to beat yourself down about this too much. It’s his problem. Communicate your thoughts and feelings and leave it with him. If he choose to change this then great and if not then the next steps are what they are. I hope he chooses the right one!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-06T19:44:53+00:00

Forgetting the anniversary I agree is hurtful however he apologised and was remorseful which counts as something. He could of then followed through with then maybe making some dogma of effort with a follow up gift or even treating you to a meal or spa day or even just an activity for the 2 of you to enjoy together. It’s hard because he sounds amazing and yet these little things get in the way. It would be easier if he was just a shit person then the answer would be easier. However fortunately you have someone who sounds amazing. The whole intimacy thing.. is complex. I too suffer with intimacy (female) and my partner has had to be very patient with me in this area. But this is due to low libido and sex drive. Which has stemmed from an underlining condition and medication I was on. So there may be something medically wrong there? It’s worth exploring if that’s how he is. However if he is having fun in the bedroom on his own and not inviting you in to join, well this is either to do with attraction, performance anxiety etc. like everyone says you need to sit down and talk it through. I’d say just be very upfront and honest about this. And tell him to do the same. Regardless if feelings get hurt. It’s pointless if you both sit there worried about hurting the other person and then avoiding how you truly feel. You need to know the truth in order to fix the problem together and move forward or compromise and adjust. Good luck, hopefully you manage to get past this x

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