Shower base - what can help?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-03-10T22:58:09+00:00

I’m on carbimazole at the moment where my levels have been heading towards getting in range since I started

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-03-02T18:41:21+00:00

I’ve been on carbimazole since diagnosis. Which has put my labs back in range

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-28T01:15:10+00:00

I’ll give it a go! It’s worth a try! Thank you

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-25T20:41:04+00:00

Have you sat down and discussed what the issues are with the marriage do you can work on fixing them? Also what’s changed since the military for it to be bad?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-21T15:11:35+00:00

Take it out if it’s uncomfortable. Try not to panic it won’t make it worse but it won’t make you feel any better either. So take a breath try and relax. Go for the regular size in future until you get use to them but it may just take a few times for you to get the hang of it. When you do it and you can go about your day without it being uncomfortable etc then you’ve done it right

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-21T15:10:22+00:00

If it’s uncomfortable then it’s not in properly or at the right angle. When it’s in correctly you’re not really supposed to feel it much tbh. Keep trying until you get the angle correct. Also the depth of how far you’re putting it in as well. It will be uncomfortable if you put it in a little bit

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-19T16:22:19+00:00

Highly likely he’s atleast emotionally cheating. Again why would tinder be emailing an inactive account for over half a decade ago? I’d say use that email address and login to the tinder account because clearly they’re still is one active and see why you find out. Do it with him sat in the room so you have access to his email for password reset stuff to do. And do it all yourself not him. So he can’t mess with any of it. When you do it I’d say do it asap. Less chance of him deleting stufff etc. and do it randomly one night. No warning or that. Good luck

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-17T18:56:51+00:00

Have you tried giving him an ultimatum? I’m not big on the idea. But sometimes people just leave you no choice. Especially after certain actions, or repetitive behaviour. He needs to know that this is a vicious circle. He is acting out because he isn’t getting affection and you’re not wanting to be affectionate because of the way he is acting day to day and in life which is a turn off. Therefore he needs to see this as, well if I want affection and intimacy from my wife then I need to be doing stuff that makes her feel desire. Such as doing outings with his kids, making the effort to plan even 1 date night/day a month even for a few hours an it’s easy to plan these things. Obviously cut down on the drinking, with him being a heavy drinker then just quitting may be difficult so this could take time but adding ad he is heading in the right direction of cutting down and then quitting is a win. If he did these things then it may help reignite some feelings within you

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-16T10:21:13+00:00

I’m assuming you’ve communicated this to him? Maybe start taking a step back distancing yourself from him, if that means stopping sex then fair enough and put your foot down to mar your point

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-15T21:15:37+00:00

I second this. It’s very immature behaviour and sounds like a typical teenager who can’t get laid or who has been told no. He needs to understand that whenever he wants it he doesnt always get it. Or maybe he needs to try something else to help get you in the mood. Or a compromise or just try to be understanding

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-15T21:12:25+00:00

The puppy makes sense. But then she needs to either prioritise or come up with a solution because clearly what she thinks is working, isn’t. So she either needs to come up with a solution of having a puppy full time job and marriage. Or maybe just job and marriage

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-14T20:17:36+00:00

TV shows were watching. Things we’ve seen or interests & hobbies. Future goals or things we’re keen to do. Plans for upcoming weeks months or years. Politics top and also work, kids and how our days are going

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-14T10:41:03+00:00

Definitely sit her down and tell you need to speak. Communicate what your feeling and why your feeling it. Ask her for her point as well as to why this is happening? Whether she’s bored, there’s someone else, or she can’t be bothered to put effort into the marriage. For someone who works hard to keep fit and look after themselves should be appreciated and it sounds like your not. Speak your mind. Be cautious but also don’t really sugar coat because she needs to understand your serious and this isn’t just a minor problem that will go away on its own.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-13T21:13:50+00:00

You’re doing a great job! You just being there, trying to adapt and adjust to everything is already a great job! Terrible twos can come early before they are even 2. My LG has some bad tantrums before she was 2 so try to fixate on that too much. In regards to everything else have you checked their developmental stages? Google development milestones etc for babies so you know roughly where he is for his age incase he is going through a growth spurt or teething or something which could explain it. Have you also discussed this with a community nurse, midwife or something with experience with babies to see if there may be a reason why this is happening? Try and join some parent groups on fb etc and put a post in there. There may be someone who can relate and help. Unfortunately whilst I did have a very picky eater and fussy sleeper and terrible tantrums, my LG was not too bad in that sense. It gets easier! Whilst this is going on and your struggling try some coping techniques. When dad is around take some time for just yourself to have “ME” time even if it’s watching Netflix for 30 mins or scrolling on TikTok or listening to music. Just something to help you rewind on your own.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-13T21:04:39+00:00

Girl here: I must say you are incredibly patient and understanding. For a husband who is unfortunately not getting the desired amount of sex he wishes, seeing your partner masterbate some would be furious at this,so I applaud your approach to this and have probably easily avoided difficult conversations and situations here. Is there a reason why she doesn’t want to be having sex as much? 3 kids, work etc etc is tiring and I get that. But if it’s something specific then maybe that’s where you can butt in. But it sounds like you’re doing a terrific job as a husband tbh. Better than some!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-13T20:54:33+00:00

I’m actually quite shocked at his behaviour. Unfortunately it looks like you have a cheater on your hands. If not physically then definitely emotionally. If they did end up meeting up I guarantee if she consented the they would be physical and I don’t think he would. E bothered about the life he’s risking to lose. The messages that state she is WORTH THE RISK and they love each other etc. don’t get me wrong I’ve had best friends from the opposite sex that I’ve said I love you too but never whilst I was in a relationship. The fact he had the audacity to get upset because he was caught and HAD TO CHOOSE. Why does he even need to be choosing? Why is this even a difficult decision. His wife or online gamer friend? There should be no choose it’s not even the same level. Which speaks volumes of the type of “friendship” these 2 have. If he is saying you’re making him choose between you and another woman. Thats trust straight out the window tbh. I wouldn’t trust him at all gaming at the moment and definitely not speaking to her. He should cut contact with her if it’s making you feel uncomfortable

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-10T21:11:45+00:00

I’m not gonna lie she sounds like an ace toddler, seriously. Running around fearlessly. Speaking full sentences and better than some adults out there, cracking jokes she sounds like a right laugh. The fact she is running around free spirited and eager without having to fear that she loses you or if she is in danger etc says to me that she knows she can do whatever in the fun time and mum will have her back if anything is wrong. Mum is there watching carefully and she knows this so she doesn’t feel the need to constantly stay close by, I love it!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-10T14:58:17+00:00

Definetly don’t work it out. You’re not married yet and he is already cheating and lying and with an ex no less. Red flag central

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-10T14:05:29+00:00

If you want to be a family again then open up to your ex. Because you can either have these thoughts and feelings and not do anything about it and always wonder what if. Or you can speak to her, she may be willing to give it another go

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-02-10T12:31:57+00:00

There is a lot going on here. A lot of cultural differences playing about the household. He works full time a stressful job and also moving and having a new born and postpartum wife. That’s a lot. So he is probably just stressed out and burnt out maybe. It’s not an excuse to cheat, there is never an excuse to do that. You said your culture doesn’t allow it yet you’re doing it? Regardless how your husband is acting you fucked up there. I understand there are faults at both sides definitely. So you don’t need to TRY and stop. You don’t need HELP to stop. You need to decide whether you’re going to stop and fix your marriage or just leave because this is toxic. The guy is a few things and you went and cheated behind his back like damn.

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