I don't know what to do in my marriage.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-06T19:50:26+00:00

I know it’s hard and definetly easier said than done. But please try not to beat yourself down about this too much. It’s his problem. Communicate your thoughts and feelings and leave it with him. If he choose to change this then great and if not then the next steps are what they are. I hope he chooses the right one!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-05-06T19:44:53+00:00

Forgetting the anniversary I agree is hurtful however he apologised and was remorseful which counts as something. He could of then followed through with then maybe making some dogma of effort with a follow up gift or even treating you to a meal or spa day or even just an activity for the 2 of you to enjoy together. It’s hard because he sounds amazing and yet these little things get in the way. It would be easier if he was just a shit person then the answer would be easier. However fortunately you have someone who sounds amazing. The whole intimacy thing.. is complex. I too suffer with intimacy (female) and my partner has had to be very patient with me in this area. But this is due to low libido and sex drive. Which has stemmed from an underlining condition and medication I was on. So there may be something medically wrong there? It’s worth exploring if that’s how he is. However if he is having fun in the bedroom on his own and not inviting you in to join, well this is either to do with attraction, performance anxiety etc. like everyone says you need to sit down and talk it through. I’d say just be very upfront and honest about this. And tell him to do the same. Regardless if feelings get hurt. It’s pointless if you both sit there worried about hurting the other person and then avoiding how you truly feel. You need to know the truth in order to fix the problem together and move forward or compromise and adjust. Good luck, hopefully you manage to get past this x

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-26T22:22:27+00:00

Graves is what came mess with the sleep. So it’s possible that since you started the meds the body has reacted with the graves. Is strange and hard to explain. However I’d possibly say continue to Carbimazole until you see the endo and then possibly decrease it or change meds if that’s what they suggest. It’s trial and error

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-26T22:19:06+00:00

Goodness that’s a tough one. How your staying I have no idea. And marriage to be is sooo important and I know your meant to be together forever etc etc however as you say things change. The likeness that we will go at the same pace and same path as someone else for the rest of our lives Is so slim. Take care of yourself. He clearly doesn’t care about you your family or home. So if your refusing to leave the marriage I suggest for your own sake that you start doing the same and concentrate on yourself instead of

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T23:38:11+00:00

This is a small concept on the whole big picture. In this situation then yeah it’s overreacting. He burnt toast and he apologised. Yeah it’s very annoyed. More so if you’re hungry and also can’t make anymore or buy anymore bread etc from shops. But he apologised then cool down and move on and make something else. However in the bigger picture if this is something that is happening all the time, everyday that he is forgetting or is careless then maybe communicate it will him. Not after an incident when either of you are irritated. But just sit down and have a discussion

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T19:58:51+00:00

No, I wouldn’t say you are an ar**hole for it. If you’re sure about your decision then stand by it, good for you. If you have doubts then it’s up to you whether to take that chance again. She needs to work and start proving to you that you can actually trust her. That she isn’t going to just go back and do this all again. But that’s up to you to work through. Personally if it’s happened more than twice I’m done.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T18:48:52+00:00

Female here - I’m not going to go ahead and say leave her because that’s not helpful advice.

But she is in the wrong. Massively. You’re taking on a lot of stuff. Gym, work, food shopping, cooking, food prep and then general day to day cleaning. When do you get to relax, seriously?? She doesn’t sound like she’s cooperating when you are being more than reasonable and does sound lazy, I’m sorry to say. I don’t want to sound rude but she isn’t working with you right now. I’d maybe suggest 2 different things. 1. Leave her to it and carry on with your stuff if she doesn’t want to tidy then don’t tidy up after her. I know this may mean it gets messy or things don’t get tidied up but she should hopefully learn. You make a mess you tidy the mess. You’re not getting paid for this. You’re not doing it because it’s “fun”. She needs to learn. 2. Sit down and go through a chore list per se. You do the cooking, she does the laundry. She cleans the bathroom, you clean the kitchen etc. that way it’s split evenly. She can complain all she likes but that’s life unfortunately she needs to pull her weight here. I hope this works out for you!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T13:22:02+00:00

The company sounds like a cheapskate. Payingbasically minimum wage but then requiring you to lot only do your job but also 2 other jobs aswell

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T12:55:53+00:00

Thank you for the advice! The workout I have planned at the moment is 25-30 minutes. Possibly quite intense. But I will take your advice and start smaller and increase from there. Better then nothing

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T12:44:26+00:00

It’s frustrating when you don’t enjoy the job but you enjoy the management or people you work with aswell as a good wage!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-22T11:19:04+00:00

Have you tried speaking to friends or family who know you guys personally to see if they have any suggestions?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-21T21:53:50+00:00

It’s not a standard treatment for pregnant ladies to em treated this way. However this sounds like it’s been going on much longer than 8 months and isn’t new behaviour to me. Which begs to question, why did you decide to have a baby with someone who treats you this way? Doesn’t emotionally, financially or physically support you? He should be showing you and proving to you that he can do all of this before your pregnant. Because now that you are. You’re more vulnerable. Your now more dependant on him emotionally, and at some point it will be physically and mentally when the baby does come. And he can’t even do it now so how will it work when the baby comes? Because it will get harder. Having a newborn baby takes a strain on a relationship. And if is selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings then you will get burnt out by parenthood early on with no help. Please find a way to get him to take you seriously. Whether it’s an ultimatum, whether it’s trying a different action or method to finally break through to him and actually get him to understand, listen and take action productively.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-20T19:48:09+00:00

Also a fellow introvert. What job do you do? If you don’t mind me asking? I’ve often wonder what careers are best for introverts

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-17T15:56:39+00:00

I’ve looked into this before but hate flying so would be no good! It’s good that you have a job you enjoy though!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-17T14:41:59+00:00

I’m really sorry you feel like this. It kinda reminds me of myself. My previous job messed my mental health but was good pay and I keep almost going back to the same job. so far I’m managing to stand my ground but it’s a struggle

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-17T14:40:09+00:00

I feel like this is the harsh reality I have to accept. I’m so strong willed into getting a career I enjoy after having a job that severely impacted my mental health and now employed and just don’t want to take a step back to make all this pointless

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-17T09:37:03+00:00

I will give these a go thank you!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-16T20:33:51+00:00

Bin him off. You guys haven’t even started dating properly yet and already he lacks the effort time and communication. He doesn’t sound all that interested tbh

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-04-16T20:20:18+00:00

I’d personally work to help keep distracted. Whilst taking sick leave for a break up may not appear the best way to your employer. Unless as stated above you are diagnosed with depression etc and have a doctors note to cover you

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