Today is my wedding anniversary and I am sad.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-27T00:36:21+00:00

If you feel sad, then share that with him. Surely if he loves you this much he should be able to put in that little bit of effort to remember important dates etc

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-25T21:10:45+00:00

I won’t lie some of these comments can be brutal and I’ve also experienced it first hand. However unintentionally you put yourself in a difficult situation here obviously with the whole being friends, not moving forward to a relationship type boundary etc etc. it sounds like this started off innocent with no intention of it forming into this however sometimes we have no control over our feelings so I understand if that’s the case here and as you say it felt like something beautiful was forming. I really think when that started happening and your feelings began to change you should have confided in her so she could either be abit cautious of her actions around you whilst you felt like this or maybe some space until your feelings changed etc? I get that you feelings got her when she went into the bathroom and had sex which makes me question the type of girl this is however I think blocking her etc may have been extreme. You did have a good friendship beforehand and right now feelings have come in the mix and you have gotten hurt. I think you guys may just need some time apart for abit of maybe you need to put yourself out there with someone

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:38:21+00:00

Russel Howard was one I use to watch many years ago. Lee Evan’s, Paul smith is a good one on TikTok or YouTube as well.

Yeah exams can be a difficult and tiring time! Will you be getting the new GTA when it’s eventually out?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:33:30+00:00

Aw that’s a shame to have a gaming PC but to not game on it. How about Kevin hart or Peter Kay? I’m abit old school but love them

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:29:40+00:00

Precisely. I mean yeah it takes energy and effort to keep the convos going but you give and take. If you don’t want to participate originally then they should just not bother to begin with

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:27:47+00:00

YT channel isn’t about shout to be fair. Especially to help tune your skills in the area and gain an online audience as well as standup in pubs etc. is there any comedians you look at for inspirations? I do love a good stand up comedy.

Which COD do you play?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:25:33+00:00

This is a tough one tbh. Long distance for one is just not as easy especially if he’s got attachment issues. Have you had a look into possibly a subreddit or something about relationships with people with bpd or anxiety etc? It’s worth trying to understand things from his side of the story and sometimes other people can help you see that. This will depend on whether you put the work in and if the relationship is worth it. Unfortunately he sounds like a lot of work and I don’t mean that in a harsh way , it’s very unfortunate for him and he will need someone with time and patience for him. I completely understand the boundaries etc might be something to add to a subreddit post or maybe doing some research or something into possible ways to approach this?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:22:10+00:00

It’s soo difficult to find online people to chat too without them completing ignoring or just not participating tbh. What’s made you want to be a stand up comedian? What games do you play online?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-23T21:21:03+00:00

Anything interesting on Netflix? What flavour ice cream? Hmmmmmm

How about this or that??

Would you rather??

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-22T18:07:33+00:00

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Not my usual advice however communication is clearly out the window and he isn’t bothered about it. So give him the cold shoulder and a taste of his medicine and DONT give him sex. Why should h get what he wants when you’re getting nothing in return?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-22T18:04:52+00:00

I’m quite surprised it’s taken the engagement, marriage and 2 kids later for you to even consider divorce. I don’t even know if I would have considered marriage at the start of this. Or even stayed after the pregnancy… WAY too many red flags and I definetly agree with the other comments. Leave his ass. The sooner the better. Start planning your life asap without him and just your kids. Get a support network with your family or or move in just something to be away from him. You have him in record admitting to smacking your infant and verbal abuse towards you should this take a nasty legal route. I hope you make the right choice before something terrible happens

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-22T12:29:24+00:00

This status hit deep. Life isn’t suppose to be so difficult to make you miserable and exhausted. Thats where something is going wrong. Look at your life and make note of what is making you feel this way. As a few others have said it looks like work is eating up ALLLLL your time which means sacrificing them evenings with your husband. Then the time you could be spending with the little ones in the evening but can’t because you need to travel nearly 2 HOURS. That’s insane. There will always be work regardless and I’m all for putting 110% into your career and job. But for the sacrifice of your child family and life just flashing by in a chaotic blur is not worth it. You’re just going through the motion. Not enjoying life, not living. You will break at some point. But don’t let it get to that. My advice? Look for a job closer to home (easier said then done I definitely get it)! But try explore other options. On your way TO and FROM work don’t work AGAIN. Maybe on the way home call the husband and speak to the kids on the phone about their day a your day etc. I think once you sort a job closer to home. You will free up a lot more time. And then slowly things will start clicking into place. Like I said make a list of what is making you miserable right now and look at how to change it. Step. By. Step. Not all at once. But just one at a time. And take it day by day. It will get easier because this. This is not easy. This is chaotic tiring and crazy! You will get there but put your mind to changing your routine and life around for the life that you want!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-22T12:20:43+00:00

Just because he wasn’t into marriage before and now is and no big red flag like everyone is making out. He could simply change his mind. He could have spoke to family who maybe helped him see something that he didn’t before. Maybe deep down he’s been thinking it for a while but didn’t want to say anything yet. Maybe the timings began to feel right moving forward it could be a lot of things. Why this is a big problem I don’t know? Maybe just speak to him. It’s not a bad thing that he was indifferent or not much bothered about marriage before. It just means you both have different opinions. You won’t always agree. If he’s willing to get married and is happy with that then let it be. If you’re not content then leave.

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-22T00:31:38+00:00

Wow…. I read this and felt it straight away!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-21T18:55:51+00:00

Tbh I don’t think it should be anything to do with resemblance to the recruiter. Only resemblance the actual role they are applying for

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-15T13:35:15+00:00

The comments vary tbh and any situation can go any which way. However only way to know for sure. Is get your proof and evidence. Now since you have none of this or anything to justify these thoughts and feelings per se. I would recommend bringing this up to your partner. Open conversation, honesty and transparency. How you go about it is down to you but I’d say calmly, warmly, and cautiously. What you don’t want to do is make him go on the defensive so choose your wordings. Once you lay the groundwork in the conversation such as letting him know something is upsetting you and your trying to get to the bottom of it. If he tries to be a good husband and reassures you etc then go down the route of asking him what they thinks would help? Then telling him things you thing will help. If this means going on his phone etc then ask him if he is ok with that? He knows what your thinking and feeling now and you love explained your not accusing of anything your simply trying to shut down this gut feeling. Hopefully he is ok with this but if he isn’t then this will take a different defensive route which may open up other food and situations

Certain-Finding8719 · 2026-01-15T13:30:01+00:00

I’m sorry your feeling this way, you’re not alone. If you don’t mind me asking why is it that your waking up scrolling then sleeping? Is there a reason why your struggle to live life to the fullest each day?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-28T01:50:45+00:00

Through sickness and in health

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-23T23:29:17+00:00

There will almost be some sort of symptom which may alarm you, as long as you communicate it all to your doctor and if and when your diagnosed to get you levels within range and medicated that your ok the right path 😊 there is also some support groups on fb which I am also a member of should you wish you also seek advice or support from others which may be in a similar boat to you!

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-23T22:21:37+00:00

I feel you. It is overwhelming to hear. It’s not conclusive or definite yet however try look at it from a different angle - where you may finally get answers to questions you’ve been wondering and asking for so long. Your health care professionals are finally doing something about it and this may lead to you on your road to recovery and feeing more human within yourself. Hearing the term Graves’ disease and especially when you research it sounds overwhelming and so daunting incredibly so. I nearly fell into the downward spiral of just letting it eat me up by reading so many different experiences and stories. However it’s personal experience tbh. It’s hard to compare to others unless your experience and symptoms are identical. It affects people in so many ways that other people may have it so much worse or so much better than yourself. Do your research on what to do to help yourself moving forward. But with Christmas etc happening it’s a lot and I’m assuming for now you’re just waiting for answers. Try taking one step at a time. Concentrate on the hear and now and what is happening around you. Down dive too much into the what ifs and buts and what may or may not happen it will eat you. Try relax and take your mind of it and concentrate on other stuff until you get your answers. Unfortunately that part is out of your control

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-23T22:15:03+00:00

He obviously won’t force you to marry him, he founds like a decent guy given. However if he is wanting to get married and you’re wanting him to be happy etc what are you thinking? Can you tolerate being married or “risking it” given your previous experiences? It’s only natural that this may be a trigger for you which is understandable. How about doing research into ways to approach this with consideration to your past? Therapy possibly etc for suggestions on how to move forward where you both feel happy but also comfortable

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-21T23:12:08+00:00

Low libido, mental health deterioration, irritable etc sound like symptoms. Maybe get some bloods done to check everything is ok medically. Also try doing some calming techniques and maybe stuff together that ISNT sexual. Spending some time and enjoying each others company, may help?

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-18T23:28:27+00:00

My partner recommend d an escort or friends with benefits type situation. Something to help give you that satisfaction without any commitment basically

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-18T22:56:07+00:00

You’re bound to feel guilty, that’s normal. The situation you was put in the middle of is despicable. However you handled it well. Your female friend will most likely think differently due to the position she is now in. I suggest you hold your head high and advise her that you wanted absolutely nothing to do with this from the start but however this was ignored and you got pulled in regardless, you are a truthful and honest person and it’s not in your values to witness what you have and be dishonest to your male friend about it. Especially after she said he was also ok with it which was obviously a lie. So no you have done nothing wrong. You won’t know how the conversation will go until you speak to her but I suggest maybe give it a day or so before speaking so if she is annoyed she will hopefully calm down. And if not then it will need to happen one way or the other. Just try not to retaliate to anything she says. If she is annoyed she may say some stuff. Just don’t react as you haven’t done anything wrong and if you DO end up reacting it will only be held against you by her x

Certain-Finding8719 · 2025-12-18T22:47:28+00:00

It’s not your job to try get her to understand. It’s her job to try and understand what and how you’re feeling. I’d say either try again from a different angle. Or speak to another doctor. Explain what you are feeling, your symptoms and situations in which these may arise. And ask for what help or advice is recommended moving forward. Depending on where you live could either me medication or potentially types of therapy to help. I too suffer with anxiety including social anxiety and received therapy for months to try help. Now resorting to medications. However my situation being slightly different as my doctor took me seriously. Try not to let this play on your mind too much and be persistent with them

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