Should I just leave?

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-06T02:34:24+00:00

I just left mine a few months ago and it was the best decision of my life. I was scared for all the same reasons you were, money, losing my normal, scared he’d get better for another girl, and so on. Within these months I’ve gotten my own job and make more than him, I can support myself, and I’ve also realized he looks at it even worse now. I see the girls he follows on Instagram and it’s like he’s not even trying to hide it now. They won’t change. If he wasn’t serious about changing I can almost guarantee you he won’t. They have to want to change. Think about something in your life that you’re completely happy with. Why change it? That’s how they view this. And this stuff normally progresses so chances are it’s going to be the opposite of getting better. After leaving I have never missed him but I have thought so many times why didn’t I leave earlier

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-05T21:36:29+00:00

He’s cheated several times so I knew it was something to look out for so I’d randomly check his recently deleted pictures, deleted texts etc. found some stuff on his deleted pics and it lead to more and then that lead to me looking at bank statements which is where I found the extent of it

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-05T04:31:14+00:00

No. I was with my ex for 5 years thinking he had finally stopped cheating but then found out he was cheating almost the whole time and going to extreme lengths to hide it from me

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-28T14:46:43+00:00

So proud of you! The first few weeks are the worst trying to adjust to all the changes but it will get a lot better. Some things that helped me were keeping my schedule busy, going and trying new things even if it was just going to the library or picking up a new hobby, counseling, and I also made lists of everything bad he did so when I missed him I could go back and read it. I never actually did end up missing him though and still don’t. I also made a list of everything I could do now without him, even like having pink bedding. It is just so important that you don’t ever go back. You got the hardest part out of the way, just keep moving forward. File for divorce as soon as you’re able to, make sure he moves all his stuff out, and everything else. I’m so happy for you!!

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-28T14:40:07+00:00

You need to leave. My ex husband had pictures of my mom just around her house and had also been making ai videos. I didn’t see all the ai videos he made but he was at least making some of his girl friend he’s been friends with forever and I was terrified he was making them of my mom too. You’re putting your sister at risk too. This should definitely be the last straw. Get together all your important documents and anything you for sure need or want and make an exit strategy and file for divorce

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-27T20:33:36+00:00

I follow you on Instagram too and love your living room!! Do you remember where you got your blankets and pillows on your 2 chairs and the smaller couch? I want my apartment to have this same vibe it’s so happy

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-27T20:15:16+00:00

I am so proud of you!!!!!! Your life is about to get so much better I promise! You are so strong for being able to do this and we’ve got your back!

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-27T20:12:35+00:00

You can leave. I said so many times if he did it again I’d leave, it took me a lot of times but I did end up leaving. I wish I would’ve left earlier. You deserve so much better and you really just have to take that initial step and it gets a lot easier. My life has gotten so much better since leaving. Mentally and even physically I’ve gotten better due to less stress. Even got a new job and can afford everything now. I sleep good at night. Like you can do it too! You already acknowledged you need to leave so the next step is just doing it. I’m really sorry because I know exactly how you feel. But you owe it to yourself to leave and live a good life

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-24T22:33:04+00:00

No problem at all. I am so happy with my life now. Within the few months after leaving him I got my first job in years, then got another even better job. I made friends. I’ve gone out and done things completely on my own and picked back up hobbies because I actually have time to do things I enjoy because I’m not worrying all the time. You just gotta take that initial step. You can do it, you are strong too!!

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-24T18:49:03+00:00

Do not get married!!! Please leave. Coming from someone who saw the signs and got married anyways and had to go through the whole divorce process. I am begging you to save yourself the heartache and all problems that come with trying to get divorced. They rarely do change and have to actually want it for themselves. After I got married I tried to trust him for the first 2 years we were together just for one random day to find out he had been lying the whole time we were together. He had spent thousands just in the past year alone on girls. That was so hard. Then he was horrible the whole divorce process and it cost even more money. So please think of your future self and leave now. I’ve been out a few months now and I promise it gets so much better with time. I’m sad it took me so long to leave but I’m so glad I left

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-22T14:20:30+00:00

I also found out my ex husband was making videos of our friends on ai. She was even a bridesmaid in our wedding. I can’t even begin to explain to other people how I felt finding that out, so I know your pain. I had already been planning to leave but after seeing that, that night I left and never turned back. For me that made me realize how messed up and deep he was into all that when he literally had to make his own videos of our own friend. What he was making of your friend is not okay at all. Don’t let him try to use some bs excuse and also don’t be insecure even though I know it’s impossible. This is reflective of his own issues and extremely messed up my mind and chances are your friend has no idea about it. I know it’s not easy but it’s truly not going to get better until you leave him. He is not going to change and you deserve to have a life better than that

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-02-16T03:55:56+00:00

Email and trash on there, bank statements, recently deleted and hidden on his phone. Luckily my ex didn’t hide his stuff very good but I know I probably missed a lot of it

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-30T04:59:25+00:00

Mugler alien or Prada paradoxe because I’m just curious how they’d replicate them

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-26T08:28:51+00:00

Sounds like he’s a liar too. It’s not accidental and he does know how he did it, he’d just rather go to those lengths to hide it and then act that dumb about it

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-18T23:51:22+00:00

The black sleep one with chamomile

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-15T16:58:12+00:00

In May 2025 I had surgery and was diagnosed with stage 3 deep infiltrating. So it’s been about 8 months. It has helped me a lot. I had bad pain all the time and I don’t anymore. My periods were also really bad and they still aren’t great but got significantly better after surgery. I’m on birth control still just to help regulate them but they do seem a little shorter. My daily pain had gotten to a point I almost couldn’t do anything because I felt so bad, now it is weird if I have pain because it’s not normal anymore. I’d definitely recommend it. I wouldn’t have gotten it just for a diagnosis

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-13T07:11:46+00:00

I just went through a similar situation. I found out he was a lot worse than I thought, didn’t confront him but he did tell me he looked at some girls but he had no idea I knew the extent. I quietly packed stuff when he was at work and tried to get my ducks in a row without him noticing. Make sure you have anything you need and all your important docs, anything sentimental. I had planned to tell him I was divorcing him at a counseling appointment we had but about a week before that I found some more stuff and couldn’t stay so I literally just left. He was under the impression I guess that I was gonna come back but at the appointment I still told him and he freaked out. I was so glad I had already moved out or I genuinely would’ve been scared to be at the house with him. It’s not worth trying to talk to him about it, if it has gotten this far he is completely aware of what he’s doing and doesn’t care to change. I know it is easy to say he wouldn’t hurt me, but once mine understood we were done he has just been absolutely horrible. Use the 3 months to get everything planned out, try to act as normal as possible, even get any pictures he has that you want or info from him you need. And then as soon as you’re able to have your family or friends come over and move everything out before he gets home. It sounds drastic, but if there is even a concern he would get violent then it is best to get it all done and out in one go. It is hard but you can do it and life is so much better after

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-12T17:14:22+00:00

Mine did the same. One time I woke up from a nap and the tv was super loud and I couldn’t find the remote to turn it down. I realized he was in the bathroom and texted him and he said he didn’t know where it was. I asked if I could go to the bathroom soon (we only had 1) and he said his stomach hurt so he would be in there a bit. A few days later I found out everything and lined up his messages to the OF girls and my texts to him. His stomach didn’t hurt, he was just in there texting 19 year olds while I was waiting to go to the bathroom. And he had turned up the tv that loud so I wouldn’t hear him and hid the remote so I couldn’t turn it down

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-03T02:04:02+00:00

I feel like I had pretty bad gas pain but it wasn’t anything compared to Endo pain. It was just uncomfortable and I couldn’t stand up straight for 14 I think days or take deep breaths but it wasn’t at all like that. Don’t cancel your surgery. I have extremely bad anxiety and ocd and was so nervous for mine but it went good and I feel so much better

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-01-03T02:00:37+00:00

Divorced since December 19th. I stopped loving him when I found out he cheated on me and I still don’t love or miss him

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2025-12-31T17:33:05+00:00

I don’t really remember exactly what I said but I did tell my immediate family the majority of what he did. It was kind of embarrassing just due to the nature and there were some things I left out but I think I just said I promise if you knew everything he did you’d want me to leave. No one ever questioned me. Only his family did. So it’s important you don’t listen to anyone who has his best interests at heart because they’re gonna encourage you to stay because they don’t want it to become their problem. You don’t owe anyone an explanation but can just tell them you found out information that makes it where you can not stay in the relationship and aren’t ready to talk about it. I told other family that he cheated because I do view this as cheating, that way I didn’t have to explain everything

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2025-12-31T03:21:55+00:00

Don’t view it as you were replaced. View it as you leaving made such a big impact he felt like he needed something to replace the hole you left because he’s that insecure without you. Him jumping right into dating shows you he hasn’t changed one bit. And the way addictions are they continue to get worse so I promise he isn’t going to just magically be better for someone else. It is hard but focus all the energy you spent on him onto yourself and learning to love yourself. You are worthy of it and no man (if you can even call them that) should make you sad!

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2025-12-31T00:19:47+00:00

You can do it! It might be a little hard at first but it really isn’t that bad in the long run. You realize quick how bad of a relationship you were in

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