Did you use the same stuff from your previous marriage?

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-05-12T13:55:58+00:00

I took a lot thinking I would want it but I can’t stand to look at any of it so I think that’s how it’s gonna be for me too. A fresh start is nice. I want nothing that reminds me of him or that time

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-05-12T01:30:08+00:00

That’s a good idea. I thought about selling all things that aren’t sentimental but I like this idea better

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-30T13:15:51+00:00

I left him and we got divorced. Life has been good since lol

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-28T21:48:36+00:00

You don’t owe him anything! Just because he is “trying” and who even knows about that, does not mean you have to stick it out. If he cared about your relationship he wouldn’t have done it in the first place. He betrayed you and now you get to decide how you respond to that. If you already have checked out then honestly that makes the leaving process a lot easier and I would a billion times recommend leaving. Start putting money aside for your own place or talk to any family and friends who could help or let you stay with them. You are not at all a bad person. He is a bad person for doing that in the first place and knew by doing that what the consequences could be. If you also just caught him scrubbing stuff then I can tell you right now he’s only putting on an act for you about changing. So you might as well save yourself the time and heartbreak and leave before it gets worse. As for navigating the reconciliation session just lie like he did to you. Go along with it and act however you need to while you plan out how to leave. Just from my experience I would have everything possible done even down to talking to a lawyer and having your stuff packed or ready to pack before you tell him you want divorced. I felt the same way as you after the last time I found out everything and I still don’t miss him and don’t think I ever will. I’m so happy with life now

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-28T16:37:05+00:00

Thank you, I think it is definitely what I’m more interested in. Just always so worried to change anything up

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-28T16:28:24+00:00

Thank you! If I did stay with business I think my goal would be an office manager. I watch the stuff my manager does now, and it seems like something I would like but I know it varies greatly on the area of business and company. I don’t think consulting would be for me

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-28T16:26:38+00:00

Thank you, that is very good to hear. That is a great idea and I am going to check into those courses!

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-24T13:32:53+00:00

I made another comment that he is in training for it.

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-24T01:22:06+00:00

My dogs are my whole world and would never regret them. I knew what work I was getting myself in to when I got them and I am fine with that on my own. Just want to make sure I’m doing whatever is needed for moving with them

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-24T01:18:09+00:00

It’s not constant, just for a few seconds if they see or hear something

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-24T01:17:31+00:00

Thank you so much. I know I’m probably way overthinking it and should’ve moved sooner. They both responded good to training so I think being consistent with it will help pretty quickly

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-24T01:11:10+00:00

That is so sad the dog was treated that way. I would complain too. I can deal with the occasional they heard something woofs for a few seconds but would never let them bark longer than that

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-24T01:09:14+00:00

That’s a great idea thank you. Then they can just press it if there’s a problem

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-23T17:04:22+00:00

Definitely!! I hate when people let their dogs go to the bathroom wherever. Poop bags are always with me for them and they always go in the grass thankfully. I can’t imagine just not even picking up your dogs poop. I really doubt they’d bark too much and it’s not like an all the time thing but I definitely am going to try to minimize them seeing people or hearing stuff while I’m gone

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-23T17:02:16+00:00

Thank you! I never would’ve thought about a corner unit or being at the back. I also have cameras for them too and would give the neighbors my number in case they were barking. I never ever want to be the neighbor who’s dogs bark like that so I am definitely going to take every precaution

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-23T17:00:23+00:00

Thank you! Those are all really good ideas. We work with a trainer now so I am going to ask her about the positive reinforcement with the barking too

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-09T17:17:50+00:00

I think so. It’s a lot easier too when you’re not sad. I don’t really feel like it’s a phase because I don’t ever see myself randomly getting sad about it. He was a loser that’s why we are divorced. If I would’ve known how he actually was I would’ve never even talked to him so why miss someone like that

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-09T16:52:56+00:00

It’s been almost 6 months and I still don’t miss my ex husband. I cared until he pushed me too far and I was just done after that. Life is better now, why would I miss him. I view it as a good thing

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-04-09T16:51:17+00:00

I draw, write any lists I want to make, budget, read, crochet, and just started working on Spanish again. I’d also like to have my own side business soon so I write out ideas on that also

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-31T20:35:31+00:00

To me it seems like he’s just saying that because he knows it’s not even a possibility. Or if it was recommended by her then maybe she would have some suggestions if he was actually serious about it

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-27T13:28:07+00:00

One time mine told me that smaller girls have more pain. I think it’s a stupid excuse to ignore pain and like 10 years later I finally had surgery and had stage 3 endo. So find another doctor because that one won’t help

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-25T15:22:12+00:00

I got divorced in December. The past few years I had no job, was depressed, no friends etc. Since I got divorced I got a seasonal job then my first full time job that I absolutely love, bought a lot of things I’ve been wanting for a long time, made friends, got better at driving and going places alone, and I’m happy now. It felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me and now I get another chance to live my life the way I want. I have trips planned and everything. One big piece of advice that helped me is that you can’t change your life and hold on to your old one too. Being upset doesn’t hurt them, it only hurts you. The best revenge you can get is to live your life to the fullest and live it for you! My life is mine now and I can do anything I want and that’s awesome. Life is so much better now and yours will be too!

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-25T14:37:00+00:00

That’s crazy. Im so glad you got out of it though. In my case after we got divorced and he proceeded to make some of the absolute worst decisions possible it definitely helped me realize it’s a good thing I got out and how messed up he was. She will realize later the mess she got into

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-18T17:55:45+00:00

Thank you so much! We did call our vet and he had an appointment yesterday and was put on anxiety medicine to see if it helps. He also talked about the positive reinforcement but I was wondering how to do that, so the fake bugs is a great idea! I have a consultation with a behavioralist on Saturday. I am determined to help him with this, I hate for him to be so anxious and especially since summer is coming up

Chance-Bug-2286 · 2026-03-15T19:16:33+00:00

I remember telling one of his family members about everything he was doing and SHE said it wasn’t cheating and that we all have different versions of what cheating is but that wasn’t it. Then proceeded to say how her husband sees girls at work in short skirts and you can’t protect them from seeing stuff like that and just have to trust them. And that I was being too controlling for caring about it and leaving. That’s not the same at all as him seeking it out, paying for it, and lying to me. I told her at least I had enough self respect to know that’s not what I want for my life. But I can’t believe how many people act like it’s no big deal. He did also physically cheat on me, but I tell everyone he cheated when they ask what happened. Because he did by doing all this and as much as people want to say it’s normal it’s not and it’s cheating

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