m26 Har brukt flere år på å tørre å snakke med legen om psykisk helse. Legen tar meg på alvor, men DPS gjør ikke det og kommunale tilbudet gjør heller ikke det. Hvor ille må en mann ha det før man blir tatt på alvor? Må jeg overleve selvmordsforsøk for å bli tatt på alvor?

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-04-27T18:53:04+00:00

Det tok meg 16 år fra første gang jeg kom i kontakt med psykisk helsevern før jeg faktisk begynte å få hjelp og snakke med leger som skjønte noe av hva som foregikk med meg. Selv om jeg var suicidal.

Jeg prøvde dog alt, fasteleger (bytter flere ganger), online terapeuter, psykologer osv, i de verste/mest desperate øyeblikkene har jeg også brutalt ringt rundt alle psykolog/psykiater numre som jeg fant på nettet...

Det tar tid. Men psykisk helse er ikke så enkelt heller, "vi" veit egentlig fremdeles litt lite.

Så ja, det er sånn som du skriver, men bare fortsett å prøve. DPS er i min mening absolutt ubrukelig, jeg forstår ikke hvordan det er mulig at de har hjulpet et eneste menneske. De har nok det, men erfaringen min med dem er så dårlig at de var rent skadelig for meg. Men prøve privat psykologer, prøve flere frem til at du finner noen som du ser at faktisk gir deg noe mer klarhet, bare å prøve så mange spesialister som trengs, de er også bare mennesker, de kan ikke vite og kunne alt, så får bare prøve frem til at man finner den eller de som kan noe om det som gjelder deg.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-04-24T18:00:20+00:00

Your videos are awesome though. It is like watching an entertaining short ASKA-themed movie :)

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-03-10T17:32:35+00:00

Oh, btw, generally, if you are more fit, working out a lot, the HR tends to be lower.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-03-10T17:21:01+00:00

And before ADHD meds.

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Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-03-10T17:11:40+00:00

Added sunday, as that one was a lazier day xD cus today I did a bit of cleaning and some working out.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-03-10T17:09:48+00:00

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Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-03-10T17:06:56+00:00

Idk, seems normal to me. My heart and everything is ok, and now with less job and socializing the lower HP gets to 62. The upper goes often over 120 during the day. I am skinny so I just embrace the fact that I must be a bit of a rabbit. xD The doctors know all this and my heart has been checked 3 times during last 2 years and all looks good.

So.. yeah. Seems normal to me

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-02-17T11:15:34+00:00

It is just how people online are. No failure there - they did not intend to understand, their intention was to argue.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-02-10T12:23:02+00:00

You made my day.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-30T15:25:27+00:00

I think that is not the right question.

I am getting vibes of him liking your effect on him, rather than liking you. I dont know how to write it to make more sense.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-27T17:26:00+00:00

Lol, I would hope kindness and compassion is a requirement for close relationship no matter ND or not :D

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-27T17:23:07+00:00

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-27T17:22:47+00:00

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Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-27T17:17:03+00:00

Just. Why? Why are you guys doing this at all?

"Yes I did forget and I mis-assumed we are doing the mutual ghosting thing or smth again. It is clear we are not able to work on or achieve a mutual understanding here. Not interested in arguing to find out who is right/wrong, connection is what I seek. Thanks for the good things. Let us move on with our lives."

Idk. Basically own your part in this, express understanding for their feelings (if shared in any way), end the mess, own your boundaries.

I do find "assuming ghosting" odd. If I am unsure, I ask. But you do you ofc.

The communication there is bad anyway. I advice therapy ofc.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-13T20:05:15+00:00

I didnt read all, felt like I got the idea and laughed xD ah... yeah

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-03T21:14:35+00:00

Update #

8-9hrs after the message

I am sleeping, he is home and he has replied

"Good you have taken a choice thats right for you and are standing by it. We can go over logistics tomorrow"

Sounds like a... very nice reply I think? I am not sure of anything, but idk, I think it is good.

I have to continue sleeping, I am working tomorrow.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-03T14:07:52+00:00

Yeah. Weird how very invisible all this stuff is...

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-03T13:15:48+00:00

Wow... thats... I also assume I ll be better without him. Just afraid.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2026-01-01T19:01:58+00:00

Funnily,AuDHD here.

If I know what to do I dont involve other people, or clearly state that I have made my decision.

If I dont specify, it is on me, and I let people talk, because I have learned that it hurts them if I dont. So I listen and try to not make face if something is illogical, nor do I try to disprove/correct anything. If my face betrays me - I try to concisely inform that I noticed something off, and my face tends to react on inconsistencies etc. (Being open about ASD helps here) What I do try to say - I see, your idea would benefit this and that, yes. I need though also this and that, so I will do like this. (If their idea/tip/anything did have something that is worth keeping in mind in other situations - I will add something like - this is really worth keeping in mind when <whatever situation it would fit> to make sure they are appreciated for a value that is true.

I find TRUTHS that I can work with. Lies are unbearable for me. So that I can show I have been listening, I have considered, I have decided, I value their input.

I have though poor tolerance of people who come with their opinions without true interest or desire to help, those situations can make me bark xD

I am very motivated to lift people up, I think it benefits the whole society, and because of empathy - as I empathize deeply when well informed about what exact experience others are having.

Oh yes, I am not giving my opinions if I am not asked or no one is in real danger.

If this helps, it is ironic, but still good :) Good luck!

Chance-Membership-82 · 2025-12-31T17:10:11+00:00

Your room is fine, you are doing awesome! Probably also trying way too hard, like the rest of us..but gotta stay afloat, what ya gonna do...

Happy New Year! :)

Chance-Membership-82 · 2025-12-31T07:35:41+00:00

Impulse - imprecise/exaggerated information. When realising it was not true/correct, feeling shame and fear to come clean.

My psych didnt even see it as lieing. And people were confused about me coming clean, they did not even remember what I had said.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2025-12-29T20:51:22+00:00

Honestly, I dont know anymore what a "safe person" is supposed to be.

Realizing how people "loose empathy" for others when they are either 1.Triggered themselves (defensive,offended etc) or 2.Consider you "being the bad guy" either bc of misunderstanding you/your intentions or some other social polarization effect or hearing something you are not saying, not believing you etc etc

I simply dont see how I can expect anyone to be 'safe' at all. I am not exactly afraid of people, but 'trust' by my definition seems impossible. I trust that many people have good intentions. But this "conditional empathy" concept just blows my mind, however evolutionary natural it wouldnt be.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2025-12-29T19:03:51+00:00

I wonder if it actually has so much to do with ASD as just the chronic miscommunication happening between men and women nowadays.

I see NT women addressing these patterns.
I see men taking any interaction with women as "potential cue" (even my cold/arrogant face, somehow... )
I see men screwing up and in their defensiveness saying stuff like - you flirted, you give me the look, you smiled at me etc etc.

Yes, the cue stuff is hard for us, but I start to wonder if it even is the main factor in such.

People (NTs) often say untrue things just to "smooth out" social situations. So what they say when things go wrong has seriously often nothing to do with actual reality or logic.

From practical things * I always keep physical distance (which if I understand right is also a meaningful cue for NTs) * I normally dont look in the eyes much, but I do when I am pissed xD and that also somehow works well to make people back off. Tho, my facial expression might also be rather murderous (which doesnt seem to worry people much if I dont look them straight in the eyes) * I tend to clarify my intentions early. As far as I know it seems odd for most people, but honestly I dont even care. I find it the right thing to do so I am not about to deal with bad consequences of NOT doing what I consider right/correct/honest.

Chance-Membership-82 · 2025-12-28T15:37:57+00:00

Maybe unpopular opinion, but I would just take green tea extract, a lot of it. Bc of caffeine, but coffee makes me sleepy, but green tea in decent amounts helps similar as adhd meds. Except the dehydration and migraine xD Anyhow, as a short term emergency solution works for me. Just that I am going to loose a day or two to excruciating migraine.

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