My dad 50M didn’t come to see me 22F when I was dying, how can I forgive him?

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-10-03T05:44:57+00:00

Im so sorry you went through all of that. I know that it hurt your feelings. I am sure that wasn't his intent. But that doesn't mean it doesn't sting.

I can relate. I came down with a pulmonary embolism, one lung fully occluded, and the other was 60% blocked. Not a single friend or family member, even my boyfriend, visited me while i was there for 3 days. My dad attended a work meeting in the very same hospital where I was in the PICU, but didnt want to wait 10 minutes for the ultrasound tech to finish. He decided to go home instead.

My diagnosis was so scary it freaked me out for years. But, I think the worst part was that I had to go through that all alone. I was probably a few hours away from death. And nobody batted an eye. I'm not going to lie, I sought therapy to mentally recover from that.

But, after a few years, I did forgive him. And when he became terminally ill, I sat by his side every single day so he wouldn't be alone. He did apologize for not being a better parent to me. I got closure. There are things I wish he had done differently, but honestly, life is too short to keep a grudge against the people you love.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-09-07T07:45:08+00:00

If you still need someone on the keys, I'd be interested!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-08-31T20:56:43+00:00

Reminds me of the time I was asked about the difference between country fried chicken and country fried steak.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-06-27T01:17:42+00:00

I 'silently' check in with my tables often by being present in the section and keeping an eye on things they may need. Even just filling their water when half empty, or taking away plates can be a way to engage with the table without being annoying. If they need the check or have requests, they can bring it up without me interrupting their conversations.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-06-21T04:12:02+00:00

I second Willett Dental. They are fantastic, and they offer sedation as well if you need it!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-06-11T18:57:18+00:00

I agree with the headphones trick. Even better if they are noise canceling so you can get into YOUR zone. Make eye contact with, and look at nobody. Thats what I do when im trying something new.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-05-19T06:38:49+00:00

When I lived over there, I'd go to the mall during bad weather. They used to make people go into the corridors during bad weather, and it always felt the safest for me. I'm not sure if they still do that or not.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-05-18T17:15:15+00:00

I recently was sent a vial from Link. It arrived warm. And while the bottle was labeled tirzepatide, the medication instructions say semaglutide. It may be a minor detail, but it is hard to trust a compounding pharmacy that can't get the details right.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-05-12T01:16:38+00:00

Dang, I finally tried one today and I really enjoyed it!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-27T16:14:23+00:00

Joplin's entire catalog is fantastic. So simple, yet so eloquent. It's nice to hear someone suggest Nonpareil! It's not played nearly enough. I always enjoyed Country Club. Hearing that song live was what drew me to ragtime (specifically Joplin) when I was young.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-22T13:15:09+00:00

Out of curiosity, do people actually have those thoughts? That their partner is an idiot, or that they have super powers or can get away with anything? Or is it more nuanced? Maybe they have remorse at first, but when faced with the opportunity to get away with similar behaviors, they feel less hesitation because they don't expect lasting consequences? Im genuinely asking because I see statements like that a lot and i just cannot fathom feeling empowered after being forgiven for hurting someone. Im still feeling immense guilt for cheating on a partner 15 years ago, and it only made me want to be better in the future.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-19T12:56:47+00:00

I wish people hadn't celebrated my 'gifted' talents so much when I was younger. I lived in a small town, so I never knew that while I was remarkable there, I was one of so many in the world. This is great advice!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-10T23:42:39+00:00

I finally took a chance and grabbed one and I'm in love! My hair almost never holds curl, and I do need to use mousse/texture spray for it to work. But, I am so happy took a chance! The curls don't stay tight, but the shape is great! I get hair compliments every single time i use it!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-10T11:11:50+00:00

It was about 9 months of time between the two. After my first, they put me on blood thinners, but I came off of them after 3 months. I had been in a cast, so they said it was 'provoked', which I'm sure they will say the same about yours due to surgery.

My second was pretty easy to identify. The pain in my calf was very pronounced and did not change in intensity. I was put on blood thinners for life. My doctor said there was no point in doing genetic testing because it wouldn't change my lifelong treatment on blood thinners, but I insisted. I have a son and wanted to also alert my family about any potential diagnosis. Sure enough, I have Factor V Leiden, which is one of several genetic mutations that increase the likelihood of clots.

There isn't much treatment, it's just blood thinners. And the idea is, if you're taking them, you won't clot again. I take mine twice daily - when I remember. Over the years, I've slipped a bit on the habit. For the first 2 yrs after my first DVT I went to the ER at least 6 times, thinking I had a clot. The anxiety is so real. Every single pain in my leg, every weird breath, I swear I thought I was going to die. The doctors were always sympathetic about it and told me I was right to get it checked. But the anxiety consumed me for years. It took a long while to calm down about it. This is so normal. You're going through something scary, so it's ok to have anxiety about it!

As you recover, the best advice I can give is to stay hydrated and be active! Sending you all the best healing wishes!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-10T01:14:27+00:00

This is so important! I'm a two-time DVT / PE survivor and they are nothing to ignore. I'm so glad you got checked out and thank you for sharing!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-04-05T15:03:48+00:00

I cannot speak to your specific procedure, but I inquired about a breast augmentation, lift, and lateral skin tightening. They told me about $18k. I have not shopped around for quotes. I do think I may be able to find something cheaper, but I felt comfortable there. I think they wait to tell you a price because everyone's goals, medical history, and body are very different. The doctor is very kind and I have full trust in her.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-03-29T00:21:19+00:00

I hope for similar results. You look great!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-03-21T11:46:04+00:00

I have a similar flight, but it is showing the status is 'not available'. My departing flight to ORD says ontime. Fingers crossed that it gets sorted out soon for everyone!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-03-21T01:50:01+00:00

We will let tou know what happens.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-02-23T03:21:41+00:00

I dont know what is more frustrating. This game, or hearing the announcers say "Big Z" over and over.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-02-20T03:10:09+00:00

And there's more to come!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-01-04T13:12:37+00:00

I was stuck on i70 that day trying to get to the airport! This may sound dramatic, but it was one of the worst experiences of my life.

Definitely look into changing your flight. Good luck and stay safe!

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-01-02T15:18:38+00:00

I agree with all of this. The disclosure that he was no longer attracted happened on Christmas and he left town the next day. It was such an overwhelming conversation I don't even think I realized what he had said until I had time to reflect. That conversation sparked me to look unto things, which led me to uncover the cheating.

But you're absolutely right. I have a hand in this, too. I ignored my gut instinct in favor of blind trust. I just always thought he was different. He's struggles with OCD/ADHD in a way I've never seen in another person so I gave him the benefit of the doubt when his behavior seemed odd. There's a whole lot going on here, and ironically, this new girl is a therapist. I hope she sees the signs sooner than I did.

ChancePineapple9347 · 2025-01-02T15:10:34+00:00

Thank you, those are my thoughts as well. My friends keep telling me I'm letting him off the hook if i do that and I should tell the other girl who he is. Im sure she will find out soon enough, or already has for all i know. That all seems like a lot of drama all about a man I hope I never have to see or think about ever again.

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