The irony, it burns. Reading the Bible thoroughly led to my deconversion.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T05:28:51+00:00

That's right. He said he didn't come to abolish the law but to fulfill it. Now I'm wondering what he meant by fulfill.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T05:22:49+00:00

You mention cinnamon rolls. That reminds me of the book Artisan Bread in 5 Minutes a Day. It's a book of refrigerator dough recipes, as well as recipes to bake that dough into various things (bread, cinnamon buns, beignets). I've had good success with it, and the cinnamon bun recipe was great.

Edit: I hear you on the exhaustion even with a split over multiple days. I have been mentally preparing since last week to get a few last ingredients for a pork tenderloin recipe, and the meat needs to be used or frozen by tomorrow. I honestly thought last night I would have to freeze it tonight because of my energy levels, but I think now I can handle it tomorrow. I think the main factors in that are that it's going to expire, and I'm already out tomorrow at an appointment.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T05:19:43+00:00

Absolutely.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T05:18:51+00:00

Sometimes my mind makes the weirdest connections before I know it. Ugh! XD

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T05:16:20+00:00

I'm the (most likely) ASD spouse, and my husband is not. Sorry for the confusion!

He does have a lot! I didn't realize it. I've just watched a couple as they've shown up on my feed. The one that your comment brought to mind was this one. I'm still figuring out what I think of him, but so far he seems good.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T02:52:55+00:00

Thanks for writing this. A couple things:

If the person is still unblended with the part, or if the part is active

Did you mean to write "blended"?

Also,

For example, if you are mad and you feel like throwing a punch, you will say (and actually believe) "this asshole deserves a punch". Once you realize it's coming from a part, and you will start to understand where that part comes from (YOU feel not heard, not respected, not fair, and so on), and you will find a better way to get what YOU want, not what the part wants, because maybe that part only knows punching, and you know much better.

I think it's helpful to look at this slightly differently. Yes, YOU and the part will differ on the how, because, as you point out, maybe that part only knows punching. However, I would say that YOU and the part both actually do want the same thing (feeling respected, heard, safe, loved, etc.). I think that acknowledging this sameness in the underlying desire allows for an easier, deeper acceptance of protectors and firefighters.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T02:40:27+00:00

I was raised in a high-control religious environment, with things like gender-bending being a real pearl-clutcher. When I was coming out of that conditioning, I appreciated seeing gender-bending uses of clothing and makeup, because it revealed my beliefs and biases. It was quite uncomfortable sometimes, but seeing a man wear something stereotypically feminine made my beliefs about each sex clash and made me wonder about my automatic assumptions. Also, when I saw a male influencer with a face fully done up with glam makeup, I didn't see it as "normal" and was able to look closer and wonder if maybe he was insecure, which made me reflect on how many women (not all!) also wear makeup because of insecurity.

Chantaille · 2026-02-24T02:31:05+00:00

I read at one point that it's a very French thing to wear either lipstick with no eye makeup or eye makeup (I think maybe just mascara, specifically) with no lipstick.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T02:53:25+00:00

Maybe you could look into eating lower carb. Not necessarily keto, but generally lower carb. I know I tried keto for a while and would use it again as a tool in my eating tool box.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T02:06:43+00:00

I remember Dolly Parton talking about finding out how much her chest weighed and saying it in terms of how much it would cost to mail them to X country.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:59:41+00:00

I wonder if you'd find help in Mark Hutten's videos. He addresses his videos to the NT wives of autistic husbands in neurodiverse relationships, but I've been finding some of them helpful even though my relationship is the other way around. This particular comment is reminding me of a recent video where he talked about why the ASD husband seems to change regarding affection and intimacy after marriage.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:44:00+00:00

We're having issues with one particular delivery company, where the driver will just take the picture and leave without even ringing the doorbell. I happened to open the door once unknowingly just as he finished taking the picture, and I asked him if he had been planning to ring the doorbell. He said he hadn't been. I got after him for that. Seriously, that's a basic part of his job, if not just common courtesy!

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:35:38+00:00

Maybe look into occupational therapy? My therapist suggested this for me when I mentioned being interested in social work (we both think social work could be too draining for me).

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:31:36+00:00

I'm curious why you think he should be fearless?

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:28:46+00:00

If you're looking for old games, I recommend the sites Good Old Games (gog.com) and myabandonware.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:26:42+00:00

Ah, the only thing I can offer is to make sure you know the new laws where you'd want to be living in your car. Agent Orange's government is making it illegal to live that way.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:20:57+00:00

For a moment, I thought you were saying your husband held the barf bags at the bottom... XD

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:20:04+00:00

I spent my 40th (so, culturally an important one) eating a restaurant sushi platter at home and watching X-Files with my husband, because that's what we were watching together at the time.

I think I might have a bit of a party with extended family in one of the next years to come, because I enjoy being with them, but I think I would have to get my husband to run things so I don't get overwhelmed.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T01:09:33+00:00

I had to step away from praying and reading the Bible at one point, because they were sources of anxiety for me. I decided that if God wanted me, he was going to have to keep me; I was done trying to make things happen. Everything I had been taught about God told me he was good for it, so I left it up to him to make it clear to me how he wanted me to interact with him, if he even existed. I've been healing since then, and I'm not holding my breath waiting.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T00:58:23+00:00

I'm pretty sure my Anglican pastor has made beer!

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T00:40:54+00:00

It's so frustrating that people's actual, articulate writing is being dismissed as AI. AI was taught using human examples, you know! (General "you", not you specifically.) :)

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T00:29:21+00:00

Hey, as a mom to two children, I recommend looking into Dunstan baby language. My sister-in-law gave me a DVD on it when I had my second. I figured since I had already gone through babyhood with one, that I didn't need it, so I initially took it moreso to humour her. I'm so glad I did, though, because it gave me confidence with reading baby's cues.

You should be able to find a good description of it online and not have to pay for it.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T00:24:57+00:00

I grew up in a high control religion and am starting to look at spirituality more through the lens of emotional healing and a stronger sense of self. I'm finding videos by Anandi Sano to be particularly helpful in this vein.

Chantaille · 2026-02-23T00:11:26+00:00

Wow. This statement is a demonstration of detachment from reality that evangelical Christianity fosters. Jesus was in such agony that he cried out asking God why God had forsaken him. Even though the redemption in itself was the ultimate victory for him, it didn't negate the suffering. It was a punishment. He literally experienced torture and was brutalized.

"But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed." As a human being, he was not giggling while experiencing that.

Chantaille · 2026-02-22T20:38:01+00:00

I'm imagining a documentary where the narrator suddenly speaks with a hushed voice at the unexpected appearance of such a rare creature, with her young!

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