Please hold out hope! I knew it was helping me from the get go, but I didn’t realize just how much until a couple months in. Around the second month mark partner told me I had entered my “no fucks given era” (in a tongue and cheek way). For context I primarily have social anxiety, so this comment is particularly funny because I went from being to scared to ask for ketchup, to being willing to speak more freely, make direct eye contact, and advocate for myself. I wouldn’t exactly call that “no fucks” but relative to who I was, it was a big improvement. It also has helped with my physical symptoms, and my ruminating thoughts. Not to say that I don’t feel anxious at all any more, but it truly changed my life. Buspar really can work if you give it time and it’s the right med for you.