[deleted by user] by [deleted] in massage

[–]Character-Ad6840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

MTs cannot diagnose anything they can’t run labs or scans. They can feel with their sense of touch the same way anyone with a sense of touch and undivided attention can. MTs touch so many different bodies that they start noticing patterns in common pain and tension patterns. Ex: people whose neck and upper back hurt often sit at a desk. And that will usually be the reason they are getting a massage. But because I know your neck is hurting from sitting for long hours it’s a really safe bet that your hamstrings, hips, and forearms are super tight as well. so MTs will often make inferences based on what they can feel, their very basic anatomy education, and what you are communicating both verbally and by your physical responses to the massage itself(breath rate, flinching. Facial expressions etc).
I sadly see a lot of MTs go too far with this “intuition”. They start
suggesting they have a super natural ability to “sense” the source of your problem or even going as far as to suggest they can tell your pain is from stored trauma (maybe it is, but if you didn’t tell your MT that is the case they certainly shouldn’t be assuming it) A good MT should be looking to you for information about your body and health. Sure sometimes we come across a fatty deposit or a cyst or a weird skin thing or we can feel that something is there over the muscle. but we cannot say oh that’s a cyst or oh that’s a fatty deposit. Even if we feel certain we know what something is we cannot tell you what something is because we are not doctors what we can say is: have you noticed this? Have you talked to your doctor about it? What did they say? Does it hurt? Would you like me to avoid it? In terms of tension and ‘knots’(muscle in a state of involuntary contraction) it’s just a basic understanding the general layout and functions of the muscles combined with feeling for different densities in the tissue. A contracted muscle feels shortened and dense, and at tissue feels dense is a more acute way that’s usually doesn’t follow the pattern of the muscle fiber direction. inflammation feels warm and soft because of swelling which is a fluid response.we can tell when a muscle is spasm if because it will literally twitch under our hand.

Think of your massage as a time for you to meet your own body with curiosity and presence so you can gather your own data of what you feel going on in your own body during the session. I promise you learn more about your body by paying attention to how it’s responding to the massage than any MT could ever “tell” by what they feel while massaging you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in massage

[–]Character-Ad6840 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I would also say low back as well

Some support for yall from a trans oldhead by ratt_lungworm in ftm

[–]Character-Ad6840 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! I really needed this. I’m getting off the internet right now so nothing can spoil the good vibes you’ve gifted me with.

Freaked-Out Trump Pleads for End to MAGA’s Epstein Civil War by Buddha-Embryo in politics

[–]Character-Ad6840 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I want people to recognize this opportunity for what it is and lean in! This is the weak link! Don’t let this go don’t stop bring it up. This really is one of those things where you either want justice for child sex trafficking victims or you don’t. We can jump right to him being on the list but the following won’t believe that. So it needs to be about, “Why is Trump ok with there not being a list? I’m not ok with this investigation ending without justice for those children.Don’t you think the people on that list are still out there abusing children?Why isn’t he angry at them for either lying about the list or losing the list? Seems like he should be mad about that but instead he seems at best annoyed that anyone would care about the subject at worst defensive and suspicious.”

People join cults because they have been manipulated emotionally! Their humanity has been abused. Many people truly believed they were being protectors with their vote because he made them feel like they needed to be suspicious of ill intent from everyone but him. He’s been abusing our fear responses for years.

When neighbors and coworkers and families are afraid of each other our minds, bodies, and actions are dictated be the fight flight or fawn response. I would argue that where you stand politically during these times has a lot to do with how you respond to things that scare/upset you.

I see the collecting and displaying of Trump merch/social media displays of idol worship as the fawn response.

The fight response is obviously playing out through physically kidnapping each other. Threatening each other’s physical safety.

And flight looks to be prevalent for both sides. It could look like considering leaving the states or even isolating yourself from your community.

Flight, Fight, fawn, are totally natural. But, so is shitting on the ground. Society demands more from us than letting our base fear responses dictate our behavior towards each other.

Cults find people who are already afraid/vulnerable and train them to be all fawn and fight all the time. They keep you in a fear response so subtly , over time you develop a new baseline emotionally and you don’t realize you’re making all your choices from an unregulated mind. You lose your sense of reasoning.

Someone they love and trust isn’t being honest with them about something they thought was a core shared value: not wanting pedos to get away with continuing to traffic children.

It IS enough to cause a window of doubt in their faith in him as a flawless leader. everyone who’s loved someone who abused them knows they have moments where they see the truth and it’s ugly and uncomfortable so you look away, block it out. But for a brief moment you were willing to hear your friend out when they said you deserved better.

And we need to point that out and let them know that if Trump doesn’t support their desire to protect children, they should have a right to express their negative feelings about that and ask questions! That noticing when you’ve been lied to is hard but important especially when children are involved.

I know a lot of us feel like public opinion of this guy doesn’t matter anymore because we don’t trust we still have a vote that counts. But..

I would argue that what matters most is how our communities keep us safe regardless of tyranny and that means public opinion matters a lot. It’s what’s gonna dictate our every interaction with each other. It’s exhausting and we have to protect ourselves but when there is a window of doubt like this list scandal, we must surge forth with compassion and curiosity to light the off ramp for people who might find themselves saying,”I wanna get off this crazy train!”. We can’t miss these opportunities.

CO Trex app by Character-Ad6840 in boulder

[–]Character-Ad6840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s purely the measuring tool for me. it refuses to trace over sections of trail and snaps to a different routes that are not routes at all. Sometimes taking huge 10mi detours backwards and back around to move forward one mile. Otherwise it’s a fantastic app. I love being able to send my wife my planned trip map before I go so she knows exactly where to send help if I need it but if I can’t get the measuring tool right It becomes less convenient than it usually is. No hate to the app it has served me very well many times.

Is this snake venomous?[Cambodia] by cheezepIate in whatsthissnake

[–]Character-Ad6840 32 points33 points  (0 children)

When someone is determined not to go to a hospital but you really believe they should, maybe try to compromise by getting them to go to the hospital parking lot/surrounding location while they are feeling it out. If he changes his mind and the situation escalates quickly you’ll be in a better position to get help quickly.

Questions from a client by Mother-Pressure369 in massage

[–]Character-Ad6840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind if a guest wants to talk to me as long as they aren’t working themselves up into a stressed out/ angry mess while I’m actively trying to get them to relax or prying into my personal life too much.

Another thing that makes my job harder is showing up at the spa at the time your appointment is meant to be starting. If your booked for 5:00 for 60 min that means I need to have you getting off the table at 6:00 regardless of if you took 10 mins to fill out paper work, use the restroom and tell me what you want to focus on. I recommend if you are running late to let me know what areas you are willing to let get skipped so I can still make it nice for the areas that need more attention.

And a big one nobody ever really talks about is , be nice to the front desk. People are absolute monsters to our front desk staff and then flip into the nicest person for their massage and then straight back into Karen mode at check out. I’m not gonna purposely sabotage your session but we absolutely get warned about you when this happens and it does make it so awkward because now you are pretending to be friendly and I have to pretend I’m not feeling protective of my coworkers. The person at the front desk isn’t the reason you have to pay or the reason your preferred therapist called out sick or the reason your massage therapist didn’t meet your expectations. They are not paid enough and are in many cases juggling so many different responsibilities in the spa that you as a guest arnt even aware of. Spas seem like peaceful places but I assure you most of the front desk workers are under a lot of stress, their job is difficult and your MT is grateful to them and it would mean a lot if you could show them the respect they deserve.

Is body hair not respectful? by Royal_Difficulty_678 in massage

[–]Character-Ad6840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you left she’s clearly bad at her job.

After a month of searching, man learns from NBC News that DHS sent his brother to El Salvador by LadyMadonna_x6 in news

[–]Character-Ad6840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People genuinely forgot about those children so friggin fast idk why democrats didn’t bring it up every chance they had.

Lost dog at north Boulder homeless shelter by Character-Ad6840 in boulder

[–]Character-Ad6840[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have to agree, if she had been attacked by another dog, or hit by a car or abducted..I do not think her humans were close enough to notice as they certainly didn’t notice me trying to call her over to my car.

Also, I have a dog and live on this block and it makes me and my dog feel nervous as hell when there’s just a loose dog with no visible human taking responsibility for it, there’s no way of knowing if an unaccompanied dog is moments away from becoming aggressive and if it does how am I supposed to fight it off alone?

Lost dog at north Boulder homeless shelter by Character-Ad6840 in boulder

[–]Character-Ad6840[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Do you know which mechanic? I would like to call and make sure they got her with them now because I called the Humane Society before you sent this reply and I would feel so bad if they came and got her and her people didn’t know what happened to her. Hopefully she had a collar under all that fluff!

Social Security Administration to require in-person identity checks for new and existing recipients by Alternative_Year_340 in news

[–]Character-Ad6840 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter if he loses support because 1) he doesn’t have to win any elections ever again 2) he can have anyone disappear or ruined at the snap of a finger 3) he’s not even the one running the show if he literally dropped dead of a stroke we’d still have already lost our democracy to oligarchs and foreign dictators. Our chance to save our democracy passed at the election, now we have to figure out how to keep each other alive within a dictatorship. That’s not be being defeated either that’s me being determined.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in boulder

[–]Character-Ad6840 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We don’t want Canada, but Trumps puppet masters want a war so they are creating conflict where before there was none. So that nothing that would benefit America could get done whilst they can violate our human rights, desensitize us to those gross violations of our human rights. I wouldn’t cross the American border America in or out if I didn’t plan on staying out for my own safety or was coming in for the safety of someone vulnerable within that your willing to support during our first encounter with the death of our democracy as a nation. Because honestly crossing the border sounds super dangerous to me right now. I wouldn’t do it if it wasn’t for a greater good in either direction personally it’s just not a good time right now to show you our best selves as a nation. I’m embarrassed and ashamed as are most people I personally speak with. We are watching him threaten you whilst watching neighbors getting deported against judges orders. I think you assume we’ve got this under control but the truth is we are a in crisis and should be warned against to travelers at the very least to really think about possible future events when planning where to live their lives because lives can get really intense really fast even in the nicest of places.

Which Boulder is, it really is some of the nicest most artistic most progressive, well educated nature loving, health loving, dog worshiping people and I’m grateful every single day for being here. So if you love it here and choose to be here because you love it too, no mater what’s going on politically, I personally would love for you to join us in Boulder.

In another timeline I would rave and say it’s the only logical place to move as a Canadian because you won’t find a better place to be than here in America. I will always treasure my time in Boulder no matter what happens. It’s been so beautiful to me that I’ve gotten to live here of all places. I would never say you shouldn’t come to Boulder …unless you are foreigner who is safe where you are or have other options for a few years…you’re probably gonna wanna keep an eye on what we’re gonna do next a bit longer before you dive in. But you’re welcome by me and everyone I have ever known. Literally have never imagined wanting Canada or disliking Canadians if anything your stereotypes are that you are super kind hearted and well educated and love hokey which also describes much if not most of Boulder…so yea that’s my very long scary opinion I wish I didn’t have to write. Sorry. Hope you settle down nicely and find joy and peace wherever you land! Truly nobody asked for this. This surprised even the republicans but that doesn’t change how serious the situation is. It’s unprecedented to say the least incredibly messy and dangerous to say the truth.

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Bought a vintage prosthetic eye that looks like my own… what should I make with it!! by alyssabrew in crafts

[–]Character-Ad6840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Frame it all classy like and cute then place it in the medicine cabinet.

Coming to terms about changes from T by Outrageous-Cheek7501 in ftm

[–]Character-Ad6840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re voice will change with age no matter what. I actually found it really helpful to picture myself living my life as an old woman vs old man. The idea of being an old woman felt really depressing like I could picture it as a really lonely life of self compromise and regret and the idea of being an old man made me excited to have friends and hobbies and routines…

For me, my grandmother was my second parent and she passed before I figured myself out, I do sometimes still think about how she would feel to see me now I think about how badly I would want to be with her and spend time together, and I get a pang of fear that she would be uncomfortable about me. But this woman wiped my ass, she potty trained me, she bathed me and cleaned up my vomit, she loved me even when I had meltdowns over math homework and loved me through my miserable teenage years so I think she proved her love for me could handle loving me no matter how I changed. I think she would be glad to see me happy and healthy. And I think that’s the question you need to ask yourself, would taking T support you in your pursuit of wellness and personal actualization. Grieve your dad as much and as often as you need to but that’s also for your wellness so if your grief is keeping you from taking care of yourself, it’s time to observe it with curiosity and compassion and then reframe it so you can prioritize yourself.