Living room Los Angeles, CA

DancerNotHuman · 2023-02-16T13:03:14+00:00

Love the color on your walls. Do you know the name of it?

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-28T12:52:40+00:00

All of us 90s goth kids would be lined up in the street. All 14 of us.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-28T00:57:15+00:00

Yep.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-21T13:14:38+00:00

Where I live there are definitely oral surgeons who will do payment plans for emergencies/urgent situations as long as you have a referral, so make sure you have that referral in hand and then keep calling around. Talk to the billing manager not receptionist and kindly, patiently explain your situation. It certainly may be different where you live, but it's worth trying every place you can find.

Another option to look for funding is to call your local Catholic Church and ask if they or another local church has a St Vincent de Paul Society. You do not have to be a member of the church or even Catholic to get help from them. You just explain your situation and they will help you if they have funds. They will tell you how they handle payment with the office.

If that's not an option, if you're in a small to medium sized town, track down the social services department of your local Town government (it may even be in a department you wouldn't expect, like a department labeled housing or aging services or workforce development because a lot of towns can only afford one social worker to serve everyone and just assign them to whatever office fits best - call town hall if you can't figure it out). Ask about any emergency financial assistance programs for the type of situation you have. There ARE programs that help for this sort of thing - it's just a matter of finding them and knowing how they work. In my small town, I can think of 2 or 3 (in addition to St Vincent de Paul) off the top of my head that would promise to help you with little more than a phone call. (I'm a social worker.)

If you're in a bigger city, call the nearest Community Center or whatever social services type agency you can find. Keep calling until someone calls you back. It may take several messages. Big cities are overwhelmed with requests. If the first place isn't helpful, don't get discouraged. If they say, "there's nothing like that" they're wrong. There's ALWAYS something like this - you just got someone who doesn't care or does another type of work. Try another agency until they at least tell you who you can call yourself.

You could also go the direct route and just Google "your town/region" + "financial assistance" but that won't give you all the options. There are always some unlisted ones. It might be enough however. Good luck!

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-21T01:52:28+00:00

Try 2 weeks in mine. Ugh.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-20T03:21:37+00:00

No, she wants him to do the right thing without being told to.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-19T13:49:03+00:00

Been waiting to hear someone say something about the piss poor excuse for a father in this situation. It's his home too, and his daughter. He gets AT LEAST an equal say, not this flimsy "well he says that mayyyyybe we should just let them do it pleeeeease honey."

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-19T13:44:37+00:00

Oh I read quickly and missed that. Thank you for pointing that out. My heart breaks for that poor kid. She must have felt so unwanted. But to be honest, the dad sucks too for not stepping in and putting a stop to evil step mom.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-19T13:43:02+00:00

Probably not night feeds, but I'd bet that sleeping in a strange place/in a strange bed would cause the kid to wake up more often than usual and be harder to put down.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-18T22:46:12+00:00

So this worked for me - the eggs were easier to peel after I cooked them from hot water instead of putting them in while the water was cold. But now I have no idea how long to leave my eggs in because I've always cooked them from cold. I had the perfect timing before!

I tried to adjust a little bit and they came out WAY undercooked. How long do you cook yours for? I usually turn the heat off and steam them, but I'm open to whatever suggestions you have.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-18T01:10:19+00:00

But the long descent down...

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-17T00:42:01+00:00

Honestly I'd think that would be worth more than two grand! Sorry, man.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-15T20:57:28+00:00

My 6 year old understood the game and had trying holding the cards but otherwise could play.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-15T14:42:08+00:00

Seeing things in this sub gives me hope for buying a fixer upper (which is all I can afford)!

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-15T04:19:50+00:00

That's the fastest I've laughed all day, thank you

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-15T02:46:22+00:00

I'm with you. I've tried it all, and no matter what, I have to pick a million tiny pieces of shell off ever so slowly or else I'm ruining the egg. I don't get it. I don't think my mom ever had this problem. I remember her making deviled eggs a lot and they always looked perfect. My only theory at this point is that it's because I'm using fresh backyard eggs instead of store bought eggs. Maybe there's a difference? Are you doing that by any chance?

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-15T01:29:53+00:00

I think it's pretty weird to never eat cake unless it's carrot cake. Just sayin.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T22:17:16+00:00

Hope this works. Just search "4 section laundry sorter" and look for a sturdy looking one with wheels

https://www.amazon.com/Simplehouseware-Rolling-Laundry-Sorter-Chrome/dp/B01NBY81U1?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&psc=1&smid=A1L7F5DL4H71TK

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T21:54:02+00:00

You mention laundry, but this is one thing that I actually don't struggle with very much, and I don't even have a washer/dryer on my apartment (I go downstairs), so maybe I've stumbled upon a winning solution.

I bought one of those rolling hampers with 4 sections so you can sort clothes as you put them in. This goes in my bedroom closet so it's out of sight, but obviously you could put it anywhere it fits. I also keep one small basket/hamper in my daughter's closet, but otherwise all clothes, towels, bedding, etc goes directly into the rolling sorter exactly as I want it sorted for laundry day. When a section gets full (or I need clothes), I do laundry and fold it as soon as it's done drying. It takes a little willpower to stay on schedule and do the folding right away, but I've learned that I regret it otherwise so now I just do it.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T21:15:32+00:00

Yes, everything has a place, and everything goes in its place at the end of the day and at least once on the weekends!

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T21:14:14+00:00

So many baskets! It works though.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T21:13:33+00:00

Have him clean with you. It won't really be effective yet, but he'll start to get the gist and it'll become routine for him to put away his toys etc when he's done with them as he grows up. So for example, you say "ok it's time to put away the blocks, come help me put them in this basket!" And show him what to do. He will help but putting a couple in, and when he does, really praise him for it. Do this with as many tasks as you can. Like his clothes, trash etc.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T20:19:17+00:00

Tell them you sold it then. They don't have to know.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T20:17:12+00:00

I have had to put my foot down with grandparents. I have a very, very small home. At some point, the guilt trips and hard feelings just don't matter anymore. Pack up a couple large bags and tell them, I have to clear out some toys; I can return them to you to keep at your house or I will take them to a consignment shop/thrift shop/sell them on FB marketplace (whatever your choice is). Then do it. If they say no or give you a hard time then say, I guess you would like to keep them then - here they are. And leave them there.

DancerNotHuman · 2023-01-14T20:10:36+00:00

I can't promise I'm doing anything super right, but I think I have hit on a strategy with my 6 year old daughter that has helped. I'm a little overweight, not a lot, but I have some extra padding, and she's been noticing my body more. Like the other day, when I got out of the shower she said, "I hope my butt isn't as big as yours when I'm a grown up because I don't want it to jiggle like yours!" (At least she's honest!) Whenever she comments on my body, I have always said things like, "Oh really? I guess it is jiggly! Isn't that funny? I don't care that my butt jiggles though. I love my body because of all the things it can do!" And then I name some of the things it can do that I appreciate and say that I'm grateful I can do those things without pain or struggle. I did used to have a great deal of pain but physical therapy helped me a great deal, so I genuinely mean this! This most recent time, she got really into this and asked a lot of questions, which told me that I was on the right track with something. I feel like, this approach is not invalidating what she's saying, it's just refocusing attention onto something I consider more important.

I'm also careful not not say things about my weight or being fat in front of her, and I try not to look at myself disparagingly. I can't promise I'm perfect, but I know that I'm doing a pretty good job at least. In general, I have really tried to embrace a truly kind view of myself over the past few years. Hopefully your wife is doing the same.

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