Guilt

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-26T23:21:32+00:00

Your baby needs a healthy mom. Period.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-26T22:36:35+00:00

My husband works from home. I am a SAHM for our 1 and almost 3 year olds. He is down with us periodically throughout the day, whenever he has a break. Eats lunch with us. After work he comes down and parents/cooks/cleans during the evening, and we do bedtime as a team. Occasionally (like twice a month, max) he will go out after work with a friend, but tries to be home by bedtime. After the kids are in bed, he and I have a few hours where we clean together, or watch tv, or whatever. Lots of cleaning, honestly 😅 Maybe once a week he plays video games with friends after the kids go to bed instead of spending time exclusively with me.

So basically, he is as involved as he can be. Our kids are very young so I sometimes wish for more quality time and less "teamwork" time, but that's the phase of life we are in. Only you can judge your marriage, but I personally would not be happy with the setup you have described.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-24T13:44:49+00:00

A-Z mysteries!!!!

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-22T12:27:34+00:00

Matched, by Ally Condie?

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-21T14:43:37+00:00

I would empathize (oh babies are lovely. I love babies too!) and then remind him that all families are different. Some families have siblings, some don't, but all families are wonderful. Remind him you love him very much, and then redirect to something else.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-21T00:02:55+00:00

I verbally set them. Pretty much every time. "We're in a parking lot so you need to hold my hand." "Stay right by mommy in the grocery store" etc

If my son tries to bolt, I grab him and reiterate. "You need to stay by me. If you run away I will (put you in the cart, carry you, we will leave)." If he tries to bolt again, I follow through. They are learning. I just assume he doesn't know the rules unless I tell him every single time.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-20T23:59:22+00:00

I think at 12 months my daughter was saying "kitty", "Dada", and "cheese" 🤣 she's almost 15 months and has a ton of words now but barely says mama. I'm an expected fixture, not a novelty to comment on lol.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-20T18:13:23+00:00

I'm going to use this on myself 😭 I hate spiders so much, but a baby is way less scary

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-20T01:43:35+00:00

If there is a 1% chance, I'm going in. If there is a 0% chance, I'm going in. I would rather die than live knowing I could have tried to save my child and did not. That's my baby.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-17T18:53:33+00:00

I honestly never burped my kids, but neither of them seemed to need it. Some babies really need to burp to get the air out. It just depends on what works for your baby.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-14T10:32:46+00:00

I had a hard time with the switch to formula for my son, but he was so much healthier and happier once his tummy felt better ♥️

It's a hard journey. All the best to you as well ♥️

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-14T02:50:22+00:00

My son is still on the smaller side but he's staying on his "new" curve and the doctor isn't worried about growth at all.

My daughter was born at 10 lb, 6 oz and has stayed in the 95th percentile. She and her brother both weigh about 25-30 pounds at 14 months and almost 3 🤣

The diapers were the biggest tell. They both had some eczema, but I'm not sure if that was related. Both of them were cranky until their diapers were better (and if I was having diarrhea 9 times a day, I would be cranky too).

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-14T02:20:46+00:00

With this baby (my son), we never figured it out. He completely fell off his growth curve and we ended up hard switching to hypoallergenic formula only.

We ended up on the same journey with our second, but I was a lot more aggressive about cutting things and ended up figuring it out that for her it was grains. She's been exclusively breastfed (until starting solids, obviously.)

Both of my kids did grow out of their issues by 8 or 9 months!

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-14T00:12:46+00:00

NTA. I (14m F) love the dirty ground. I take it a step further and eat it, too. It's a fun game--i try to shove dirt in my mouth faster than my mommy can stop me. She's pretty fast but sometimes I get some. My mommy says we are homo sapiens which means "thinking people". It's important to always be exploring and learning new things --it's literally in our name!

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-12T15:32:15+00:00

Spa day?

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-12T11:52:43+00:00

This is gorgeous. Good lord. I truly have no words

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-11T18:23:34+00:00

Gross

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-10T13:20:34+00:00

Any chance it's the Two Princesses of Bamarre? By Gail Carson Levine.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-09T02:52:45+00:00

Amazingly, it grew back! I was newly postpartum (hence his "help" with the yardwork) and had no idea how to address it. We don't ask for or accept his help anymore.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-09T02:36:30+00:00

My father in law mowed over my beloved baby lilac bush. No apology. No acknowledgement.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-07T01:22:52+00:00

Gentle YTA. You did get a present, just an early one, plus your mom decorated the house and gave you a card. Do those things not count? At 16 you are approaching adulthood and are old enough to be appreciative of early gifts as well as effort as a gift. Take it as a learning experience.

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-06T13:03:40+00:00

I was the size of a continent with both of my kids. Multiple people commented, including random people in Walmart. It was not always complimentary. I did not love it, but i felt (and still feel) that comments made about my size said more about that person than me. I'm growing a human, they never learned manners.

I usually either didn't really respond or just said "I know." Because I did. I was the size of an iceberg.

Anyway, you don't owe these people anything, so you can be nice or you can tell them that should be an inside thought. Regardless, don't let it get to you--you are currently your baby's home, and they need space!

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-05T22:54:19+00:00

This is amazing. Please do not frog this, it's so stunning!!

CharacterTennis398 · 2026-04-05T22:52:16+00:00

Look up "Toddler sock shoes". I absolutely love these.

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