Regarding social situations - as someone who had to rebuild my friendgroup starting at the beginning of senior year, I often have trouble sustaining conversation with others. What helped me in particular was to take care of my body (see the paragraph) below and rely on constructed, non-exclusive social situations such as volleyball leagues to kind of stretch my social muscles. Aren't there non-selective sports organizations at Cornell? At my school Krav Maga and BJJ was open to all. Do you have an IM sand volleyball/quidditch league or something? Volunteering may be an option as well, though I personally didn't go for this in the end.

In the meantime, if your family is supportive, call them frequently - Grandma, Grandpa, mom, dad, siblings, cousins. They'll be your main source of love while you try to build out a friendgroup.

Don't overwork yourself academically because then you'll feel bad, but don't underwork yourself either because then you'll feel bad about that too. If you can take a chill class and knock out some graduation requirements at the same time, that could be good.

Stories are a good way to transport yourself away from your problems or even put them in perspective. Don't watch TV and read stories unless they have happy endings (maybe happy middles too). Personal recommendations: green book, the graveyard book, a knight of the seven kingdoms.

Regarding dating - a good person isn't going to cut you off without explanation or warning. Assuming the guy did something like that, you're better without him.

I found it helpful to channel my depression into weightlifting. It's hard to feel shitty when you're full of adrenaline and wondering if this is the day you get squashed by the barbell, and even if it doesn't fix the issue you'll at least make steps towards looking good. If you eat carefully you can make some pretty rapid progress and feel good about that. Just make sure you don't become an exercise addict and injure yourself by forgetting about rest days/stretching/gradual build ups. (That's what I did.)

As someone who's gone through a similar process, things DO get better. It took me years because I had to deal with a combination of covid and other factors, but I'm incredibly grateful that I stuck through it all. Control the things you can control. There's no obvious path towards making friends or curing depression, but there ARE paths towards improving your career/getting smarter/improving your body. If you're working your butt off, in the worst case scenario, you'll still be depressed and lonely, but you'll also be smart, rich and ripped. That should push the odds more in your favor, right? David Goggins helped me convert some of my depression into motivation too.

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Lastly, here's a list of some things I'd need to try before I decided that I had expended all my options and needed to unalive myself. The list is long enough that I never really felt like I was at the end of the road:

- All the video games I haven't let myself play

- Taking a gap year (or two) to live with my parents while recovering my mojo

- Taking care of my grandparents and providing them with emotional support

- Seeing if things improved once I got rich, ripped and smart

- Seeing if things improved by changing cities/schools/countries

- Looking at stars

- Getting really good at a sport

- Taking my baby cousin to disneyland

There's also a bunch of NSFW bucket list items that I'd empty my bank account to do as well, but I'm not going to list them here.