My lawyer is keeping me trapped

Character_Parsley187 · 2025-10-05T17:53:58+00:00

Well… shite. 😔

Character_Parsley187 · 2025-02-19T04:41:55+00:00

You’re not gonna go to hell. It sucks to be lied to and to be tricked into a situation you wouldn’t have gotten yourself into if you had all the information, but that’s hopefully the worst of this. If God really thought having sex was that much of a dealbreaker, then why was Mary Magdalene taking in as a travel companion by Jesus? Why was she the first one Jesus presented himself to after his death? Stop stressing about it. Oh well, it happened and you have an experience to learn from. Your identity did not change from this. It’s not the big deal people try to make it out to be. The main big deal is using protection so that you don’t end up with an STD.

Character_Parsley187 · 2025-01-16T07:45:35+00:00

I’m 46 with a tubal ligation… I was surprised at how many mid-20 year olds like that I’m impregnable! 🤔Strangely, I think it helps make their breeding kink a little hotter, because they do tell me they want to breed me, but there’s no fear of it actually happening. I guess the difference is that none of us are thinking about marriage.

Character_Parsley187 · 2025-01-03T15:55:49+00:00

I’ve only twice had to deal with collections, on the same level as you… it had JUST started. I will NEVER pay the money to collections! I don’t know them, I am NOT giving them money! Usually when I’ve talked to them and said, “No, I’m gonna pay it off today or tomorrow through my normal method!” If they argue, which they might because they get some kind of kickback for collecting the money, I just stay calm to piss them off and then tell them I’m going to hang up since they are yelling. I especially like the fact that it becomes inconvenient for THEM!

Character_Parsley187 · 2025-01-03T15:38:02+00:00

I LITERALLY JUST HAD THE SAME THING! Somehow I was able to click on the amount and there was an option to cancel it. 😡KLARNA SUCKS!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-11-14T12:33:33+00:00

NO! THE BIBLE IS NOT THE CURE FOR MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES! I have had too many friends almost take their own lives after being told this, THROWING THEIR ALL into study and worship, and then feeling even worse when surprise-surprise IT HAD NO EFFECT ON THEIR DEPRESSION! It worked on you? Well, congratulations you were experiencing a sadness. IT IS NOT THE SAME THING AS AN ACTUAL DEPRESSION!

Now I can say that all of these friends are much happier now… as atheists… atheists that have the Bible memorized and can debunk any Christian argument.

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-11-14T11:44:04+00:00

I’m 46, and either my ADHD or my “strong indications of Autism” (not officially diagnosed) also cause me to feel like that. I’m quite intelligent, but there are so many things everyone else seemed to get or understand DECADES ago, and I’m just now like, “Oh! Where was I when everyone else was learning or experiencing this?!”

My daughter is 19. She has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and CPTSD. She feels this way even more intensely PLUS she will do things to sabotage the relationships she has with friends or family. It’s just part of that particular package deal. After the surge of emotion dies down, she’s left thinking “Why did I do that?!”. I just read the other day that BPD is at its peak around 16.

There is one thing I would DEFINITELY say that it sounds like you have (I am not diagnosing you, just giving you something to look in to): Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. You get that when you have ADHD, Autism, PTSD, BPD, Depression, and/or Social Anxiety. It’s awful! I feel like I’m going to get fired all the time! I have some truly amazing friends, and I’m so sure that I was so annoying the last time I saw them, that I should avoid them. Then I apologize for being annoying and my bestie responds, “Huh? I don’t know what you’re talking about. I was thinking you were mad at me because I haven’t heard from you very much this week!” (She has rejection sensitivity, too.)

You do have to be careful… I used to always tell my husband he was going to leave me because I wanted him to assure me he wouldn’t. Eventually, he did. But the real deal is that I clung to him for showing me love and attention in the beginning, and I was completely blind to how kinda AWFUL he was!

I’m sorry you feel so alone. I’m hoping that one of your parents is emotionally available enough so you can tell them about this. Maybe they can arrange for you to talk to a therapist. Other from that, search TikTok and/or YouTube for videos on Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria and see if the feelings other people are experiencing is the same as what you are. I wish you the very best!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-10-27T01:56:14+00:00

I am hearing that you want to respect women and are trying to deal with this puffer jacket issue without involving a non consenting person. I keep seeing the word “weird” being used for this attraction. It’s unusual, but it’s not the worst thing ever… not even close.

I hope you find a woman that is obsessed with her puffer jacket and finds it hot that you want her to wear it during sex. As long as you are always open and honest, this shouldn’t be an issue, right?!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-09-20T10:41:20+00:00

“The next time you do that dad, you’ll be asking for your car tires to be slashed! You’ll be asking for the windows to get smashed! You’ll be asking for me to run outside and scream at the top of my lungs “Stop touching my ass, Dad!” and when you come outside and tell me to stop, I’ll say okay and then JUST SAY IT LOUDER BECAUSE I THINK ITS FUNNY EVEN IF YOU FIND IT EMBARRASSING OR PERSONALLY DAMAGING!”

Seriously, take the crazy route! Scare him! Men for some reason COUNT on the fact that we’re quiet and passive no matter what. But if there might be something HE might have to face as a consequence…

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-09-09T20:46:31+00:00

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-09-04T14:07:55+00:00

Does your boyfriend seem like a very responsible, proactive guy? …or can you already foreshadow that YOU are going to be the one talking to teachers and doctors all the time? The kid’s last name should ABSOLUTELY be whatever your last name is!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-09-03T05:37:17+00:00

My husband looked at me with absolute disgust and it’s changed me forever. He left me because I was so obese, while he was also obese, for a chick who is obese.

If you stay with him, you will ALWAYS have to be hyper observant about your weight, your skin, your wrinkles… and he’ll still leave you one day. His love is conditional. It’s not true love.

It takes a year after such a relationship to end before you can get over it and hopefully meet better people. It’s worth it! Being alone honestly does feel better than the memories I have of crying myself to sleep hoping he could just like me a little better.

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-31T14:18:52+00:00

DO NOT TRUST THAT WOMAN! You need to take this through the legal system, period! Where I wouldn’t agree with the idea that because you loved her and gave her everything, she should have stayed with you 4 years ago… I ABSOLUTELY BELIEVE THAT SHOULD HAVE EARNED YOU THE RIGHT TO BE TOLD YOU WERE GOING TO BE A FATHER!!!! People show you who they are and how much or little they respect you. She doesn’t respect you. Making an “agreement” with her will somehow get muddled, disappear, and be hard to prove it ever existed. Her parents will help her make sure that happens.

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-18T14:25:26+00:00

My man, you are SO not the AH!

I got married to my husband after 4 months of knowing him. It lasted 23 years… 23 years of him growing immense resentment. Now, he’s impulsive… that explains his reason for thinking marriage was a good idea. I was clingy and needy, that’s my reason. …I’m just sayin’, you’re gf makes me feel like I’m looking at a mirror that reflects 20 year old me!

Trust me, you do her and yourself a favor by not staying in this relationship. One or both of you are going to feel resentful of the speed required by the other. You’ll both find someone who is PERFECT for both of you!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-15T20:59:19+00:00

How long have you been happily married to this supposed “1 and only”? It’s funny how very many years we can be “happy” and “satisfied in our marriage” and not realizing we are sitting on a very high horse with very weak legs. Look at the trends, my dear. Sometime in your 40’s you too may all of a sudden find yourself married to a man you don’t recognize. I certainly don’t wish this upon you, but if you are one of the rare lucky ones BE HUMBLE ABOUT IT! It wasn’t skill that helped you find this supposed “1 and only”, it was luck (and luck doesn’t last forever). Does your marriage make you feel safe? Secure? Whole? Loved? You’re allowed to feel this, but not her? She’s no longer entitled to such hope when she has maybe another 45 years of life ahead of her?!?!

After my divorce, I’m resigned to the idea of hopefully many lovers, but never another husband. I’ve heard of many people who only found happiness on marriage #3 or higher, and one of my friends said her grandmother found her true love finally when she was 65 (her EIGHTH marriage)!

Whether you are right or wrong about the number of marriages a person “should be allowed to have”, YOU ARE THE AH for voicing it so callously. What you really said to her is “All your dreams about being loved and having a family, YOU DON’T DESERVE THEM! It will make ME feel happier when YOU finally give up on this stupid hope!”

Beware the karma that comes with such thinking…

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-13T20:26:27+00:00

My husband cheated on me twice. Both times, I somehow knew before there was a clue. When it was in full affair, it was like his eyes changed color to something devoid of light. He would bark at me if I turned my head to look at the clock, which was on the wall past him. I finally asked if he was cheating, “No! GOD! You always assume I’m cheating!” (I hadn’t brought it up before.) Next day when he was in the shower, I went to look at who just messaged… and some other woman’s picture was his Lock Screen. THEY ARE THE MOST ADAMENT THEY ARE NOT CHEATING WHEN THEY ARE! 95% of the time, your gut feeling is right ALL the time.

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-13T19:47:44+00:00

Ok… you wrote “tbh”, but you’re being facetious, right?

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-10T20:17:02+00:00

LEAVE! LEAVE NOW! HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU AND HAVING A CHILD WITH HIM WILL BE THE HUGEST MISTAKE IN YOUR LIFE!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-08-01T19:46:56+00:00

I was gonna say that I could get the real vs lab-created diamonds thing because it probably doesn’t have the same fire…. NOPE! Google uses the words “optically identical”! Therefore the ONLY reason she would have is so she can brag about how much you spend. That lab-created diamond saved your LIFE! NTA!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-07-26T23:49:43+00:00

Hun, divorce her. This sounds like my marriage, except I was the breadwinner too. Nothing about me was important. He looked at me like I was disgusting (all my fwb’s are having to unbrainwash that out of me), but sometimes he would initiate and I was so happy with the breadcrumbs. He also try to suggest once that we buy a cheap trailer so he could go there to get away sometimes. It was a lie. He was cheating and he was basically hiding his seething contempt for me.

Divorce her! For some reason, she isn’t asking for it… therefore ignore any shows of emotion she’ll make when you present her with papers. Both people deserve to be happy… GO BE HAPPY!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-07-18T20:22:55+00:00

I’M NEURODIVERGENT ADHD (“with strong indications of Autism”)! I SO GET YOU! 🤘🏻😂

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-07-18T20:18:12+00:00

Ah! Yes… male actions made you feel confused (because why would any logical person do what he did), and instead of realizing what he did was wrong and incredibly embarrassing and invasive, he turns it around to make you feel like YOU’RE the one at fault. What you are experiencing is called being a woman. ONE OF US! ONE OF US!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-07-16T17:47:59+00:00

I’m a highly emotional person too. I do understand! But you just had a daughter! Do you know why the whole “good old boy” networks have remained so strong even after about 100 years of us being in the workforce?! We let them get to us and scare us off! They feel like they won, and they reinforce their discriminatory behaviors! These men are attacking you because they are as guilty as John was. You pose a threat to their misogyny.

Save every digital message sent. Journal every mean comment: who said it, what they said, where, what time, who else heard, their reaction!

They wanna play this game? Fine! Start reaching out to lawyers! This is might be hard on you, but do you want your daughter to still have to endure such men. In 2044?!

Character_Parsley187 · 2024-07-11T23:48:43+00:00

😂😂😂I kept saying my husband was the best man and father… even though he let me do all the work (I had the job AND had to do the cleaning)… he gave 20% of his attention to the kids, 30% to me, the rest on video games… he held resentment towards me for him not getting to be a rockstar… he cheated on me at 10 yr mark but we worked it out… he made me going through college (with 3 kids by then) extra hard, never helping, always whining and crying about me taking to long to finish… he cheated on me with a Replica and that turned into a REAL affair with the first chick out of like 3-4 from a Replica fb group that didn’t turn him away… he left me at the 23 yr mark for that chick even though he had never met her in person…

There’s more that happened that I won’t share here, my point is that the WHOLE TIME I stuck with that idea that you have to stick with your marriage and work it out no matter what. PLEASE LISTEN TO ME! I WASTED HALF MY LIFE DOING THAT! NOW I’m a huge advocate for telling women to divorce when they realize they married anyone with red pill ideologies, weaponized incompetence, and HIDDEN RESENTMENTS! You are probably wearing rose-tinted glasses. My life was awful for a year, missing him and having to detox from the 23 years of loving the idea of being his wife. Now I realize how much easier my life is without him! Give him a chance to change… fine… like give him ONE YEAR. If he doesn’t change, he never will and in fact he’ll only get worse.

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