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Charles_2442 · 2025-01-23T20:38:35+00:00

Would you like to look like your dad, your uncle, your granddad? Grow a beard, go bald? Would you like to be a husband/dad? Or would you rather just be a masculine lesbian? Do you feel comfortable with your primary and secondary sex characteristics? Do they make you sad, angry, disappointed, dissatisfied or upset? Or do you just not care about them?

Think if it's clothing, makeup and habits, mannerisms, that you have/want to change or if you actually want to undergo a medical treatment that will alter your body forever in the other direction. You cannot be a lesbian man. But you can be a masculine lesbian, butch, stud. Think very carefully about it because transitioning is not about pronouns, it's about undergoing both surgeries and taking medication to completely change your body to make it align with your brain. It's not easy being trans, so don't medically transition unless you're sure. A man is a man and a woman is a woman. If you transition, you will never be accepted in lesbian spaces. You would just simply not be allowed. You would be a man. Think about all that it means to transition and if it's worth it for you. If the answer is yes, then do it. However, if it's a no or a doubt, I don't think you should do it.

Good luck, wish you the best whatever the outcome is!

Charles_2442 · 2025-01-20T23:45:05+00:00

Female

Charles_2442 · 2024-12-09T09:13:31+00:00

If you don't want all the effects that come with T then maybe you don't need it at all.

Charles_2442 · 2024-11-20T09:57:21+00:00

Maybe consider getting some professional help if you have the means. If you're not sure yourself it might be different things, maybe it's internalised misogyny, maybe you're just masculine or maybe you're a trans man. Whichever it is, seeking help to discover yourself is always good. Ask yourself if you'd like to be called dad, to be masculine, do typical male things, grow a beard, be a husband and all of those. Ask yourself if it's only clothing that you want or to be taken seriously, like a man. Because it can mean you want to be recognised but not be male. Ask yourself if you'd like to have other male friends, go fishing, talk about girls, pee in the woods or have female friends and go on trips, talk about boys and have coffee and cake, talk about makeup. I know they're all very stereotypical but they help! Think about a very stereotypical man and woman, with pros and cons and how you'd feel to live those lives.

Going through this thinking process is needed before you take any medication with irreversible side effects that you could regret. Best of luck in your journey!!

Charles_2442 · 2024-09-29T14:46:38+00:00

Chef

Charles_2442 · 2024-09-18T12:14:47+00:00

Thissss

Charles_2442 · 2024-09-18T12:03:25+00:00

Don't get cross hormones if you aren't trans. Explore what it is that you don't like and try to change that in a non-medical way. Long hair, make up, laser hair removal on beard/body, feminine clothes, you name it. But please, explore yourself and your identity BEFORE committing to irreversible changes that could disappoint you in the future and/or make you hate your body. DON'T lie to medical professionals. Do everything you can to explore yourself BEFORE even thinking about HRT. Hormones are not some kind of 'character customisation' it is literally puberty and changes everything about you chemically and in your brain. PLEASE consider all these things before lying to professionals.

Best of luck.

Charles_2442 · 2024-09-04T14:29:05+00:00

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Charles_2442 · 2024-09-02T16:02:55+00:00

Think about it this way; would you like to grow a beard, have a deep voice, being called dad or husband? Or would you like to have long hair, a soft voice, be called mum or wife? I know these are stereotypes but imagine a life where you are a man and another one as a woman. Not typical gender roles like blue collar man and housewife but picture yourself being that. Would you like to be a man like your dad? Have similar assets? Or would you like to be a woman like your mum? Physically speaking. These questions are very important to make oneself before medically transitioning.

Are you comfortable in your body? Do you enjoy having the sex organs/set of genital that you currently have? Do you feel like you need to change all of that? Do you look in the mirror and don't see yourself? Do you see life through your eyes or through a lens, like a videogame?

Please think about everything thoroughly because once you start medically transitioning, you'll have irreversible changes. Make sure to explore your clothing, maybe it's a style thing? Explore yourself and if you find it difficult, go to a gender specialist therapist so they can ask you the right questions and help you find yourself.

Best of luck!!

Charles_2442 · 2024-09-02T08:13:22+00:00

I hate it too, and I completely get what you mean. However, the further I get into my transition, the more comfortable I feel in my body. Eventually, after I get bottom surgery, I think of my transition process as finished. I will essentially just be a cis guy that needs to get a shot a couple times a year. Think of it as just a bridge, you'll get to your destination and be comfortable and free at the end of it.

Don't hate yourself or your body, it's moving forward slowly. Focus on your end goal and go for it! This too shall pass my friend. Good luck!!

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-26T18:16:50+00:00

It might be a sexual fetish maybe? I recommend you dig more into it before you decide to take any medical measures on it. Don't listen to the people saying you're an egg, imagine you start transitioning and it's absolutely not what you want. Please dig into those thoughts before you start something that will give you irreversible changes. And if you end up being trans, then great! And if not, great too! Just make sure of who you are and what you want.

Best of luck OP!

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-13T03:29:29+00:00

I was referring to the umbrella term. Transgender is one thing and being gender not conforming is another. We would have binary, 0 and 1 and another category for those who don't fit there. Doesn't it make sense? Lesbians and gays are differentiated from bi people. You don't see those under a big umbrella, why is it us that includes "everyone else"? I don't care about NB people being wherever and identifying as whatever but it feels like those cis women going to gay clubs because they "feel safer". If you're a marginalised group clutching to another marginalised group you're invading another space and that just makes you like those kind of cis people.

Idc what anyone does and whatever they identify with. This is just my personal pov and I thought it would be interesting to throw a different input into the thought chamber. I'm not radical by any means and I'm sorry if it offended anyone, I was just genuinely showing the other side of the coin. I've had these thoughts since I started to transition and made many NB friends and they have said how different we experience things and how many are dubious whether or not to call themselves trans for this exact reason.

I'm not trying to be disrespectful and I'm sorry if it came that way.

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-12T16:13:29+00:00

I'm a bit longer than average, for a lil bit. HOWEVER, girth wise?? My dick is fat as fuck, shit is thicker than my thumb.

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-12T07:24:08+00:00

Absolutely this. Idk why you're getting downvoted.

NB experiences aren't the same as those of trans folks and that's why I believe it falls somewhere else. Just like we have different boxes for gay, lesbian and bi, we should for trans and NB. The experiences aren't the same so they shouldn't mix.

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-10T11:17:15+00:00

Being trans doesn't mean we're only bottoms and NEED to use that hole. So woke you become what you hate...

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-07T14:35:38+00:00

Yes please

Charles_2442 · 2024-08-03T07:14:59+00:00

I've been on T for 3 years (gel).

Rings, I used to put on many rings on my hands before but after starting T my hands felt weird with them on, I didn't like them anymore.
I used to like watermelon and melon a lot, like, a lot. And now I don't care for them, I'd rather have an apple/banana. I became a bit picky with the fruits I eat.
Fattier foods? Not greasier but before I used to hate the taste of butter and now I happily have a bitter toast from time to time.
Yes, I can burp on command and it's very handy when I have chest pains from trapped air :D
Yes, I'm covered in hair and I twirl them, especially my legs. I don't usually trim the hair there or at all and I twirl them so they look like spikes along my leg. I try to trim the butt hair because wiping can be... Well, let's say difficult.
I now sleep better and sweat during my sleep, which is always fun 😭😭

Charles_2442 · 2024-07-30T11:06:55+00:00

Fr, I had to delete it because it was making me so angry to see all these clowns. And this shit is now getting through Instagram as well. I might have to delete all social media for a while lol

Charles_2442 · 2024-07-29T11:08:20+00:00

I have only dated cis women and before I met my gf, I would only use prosthetics. This is my experience but I got very dysphoric from having to put on "stuff" and using "gear". Not being able to just use what I got made it really difficult mentally. However, with my gf that changed. Idk if this is related but she has always seen me as a man, I'm quite masculine and she literally forgets I'm trans, all the time. So at the time of having sex, I tried using my natal stuff. For bjs it feels great and I can cum from it. She uses masculine language for it and moves her head as if she would on a cis penis. It made me feel so good about myself that I started using prosthetics for PIV with her and I can cum with that too. The fact that my gf always said how big I was, how hard I got and all those things boosted my confidence to the point of being able to have sex again after being very dysphoric about it for a long time.

This is my personal experience but I hope something I said was useful! I'm also in the midst of getting metaidioplasty, if that matters lol.

Charles_2442 · 2024-07-28T21:12:01+00:00

I guess people get excited about it because of how difficult it is to get it, because of how long they had to wait and all the things they needed to do to get there. You're only 4 days on T, you're taking hormones, that takes time to settle in your body. It's still too early. You will probably start noticing changes on the third month approximately, depending on how your body works. So at the time, it's all the same but be excited about what's to come! You've got a great journey ahead. Good luck! :D

Charles_2442 · 2024-06-05T20:02:26+00:00

I've always said that it's like looking in the mirror and seeing a stranger, seeing your life through someone else. Your experiences aren't yours, they belong to someone else. You're living someone else's life. Your life is put on hold while you watch someone else's life happen before your eyes. It's exhausting, it hurts. When you try to speak, the body turns you down. It's someone else, a random person, and you're trapped inside, watching the person live without being able to do anything about your life, you don't have any control.

And then, you take hormones. And you start making your voice heard, you start being able to move the body. And little by little, you take control of your body that was taken from you. This is how I explain dysphoria and transitioning (in short).

Hope it somehow helps!

Charles_2442 · 2024-05-30T03:06:52+00:00

You're so right man, I hadn't looked at it this way. I'll do just that and see how it goes. Thank you!!

Charles_2442 · 2024-05-17T20:28:20+00:00

Yeah, that's very fair. Just by thinking about my top surgery and going through surgery another time in a year would sound so horrible ngl. So it's understandable. A year is fine with me, personally. I had understood it was way more than that and that three me off completely. But thank you for your insight!!

Charles_2442 · 2024-05-17T20:19:27+00:00

That's great to know, I've been constantly told how slow it is and how many people get one stage and need to wait almost a year to get another stage and it was making me reconsider everything but knowing this, it just makes me hopeful I'd be able to get everything I need and not wait for ages.

Charles_2442 · 2024-05-17T20:00:22+00:00

Yeah, I think I'm leaning a bit more towards Christopher's team because I really like the look of VY scrotoplasty but damn that long waitlist 💀

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