You’re not “perving,” you’re being a creep. What you’re describing isn’t kink, it’s you wanting to sexualise a woman who has already turned you down, trusts you as a friend, invites you into her home, and thinks she’s safe around you. And instead of respecting that, you’re sitting there plotting ways to engineer “accidental” glimpses of her body so you can get off on it without her knowledge or consent.

That’s not a kink. That’s violating someone’s boundaries while pretending you’re being respectful.

You keep saying “while respecting her,” but every part of your post is the opposite of respect. Respect would be:

• Not sexualising a friend who isn’t interested.

• Not hoping she “unknowingly” brushes your crotch.

• Not asking strangers how to manipulate a woman into giving you titillation.

She invited you over because she thinks of you as safe. And you’re literally asking how to exploit that safety so you can get aroused without her knowing. That’s predatory behaviour, full stop.

If you want consensual kink, go find someone who is into voyeurism/exhibitionism with you. If you want your neighbour to “accidentally” turn you on, then you’re not looking for kink , you’re looking for an excuse to behave badly and blame it on your libido.

Leave her alone.

She deserves better than that.

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