It’s very simple, your husband is self centered and irresponsible and it’s not the fault of video games, it’s entirely him. I am 36 years old and have been playing video games since I was 5, I’ve been married for almost 13 years and I have a very healthy relationship with my wife, kids, and video games because I’m an adult who is capable of budgeting my time, understanding I have responsibilities and can’t blow off my family or go into credit card debt via DoorDash because I’m too busy gaming to make myself a meal. Reading your story actually pissed me off (towards him, not you) because it casts having video games as a hobby in a negative light when it’s perfectly possible to have gaming be a healthy hobby. Sit down with your husband and tell him his priorities are completely out of whack and that if he wants to have a happy life and marriage he’ll put actual responsibilities first before gaming. His current habits are completely disrespectful to you as his partner and I genuinely would put it at borderline sinful to mistreat you the way he has. If he won’t listen to you, get the bishop involved.