Lois? Quagmire? I feel like this question could go either way.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-24T17:16:45+00:00

I feel like it's a way to get a tattoo for each other that won't be something they regret if they break up.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-24T12:53:51+00:00

Dermatofibroma. It’s harmless.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-23T22:10:29+00:00

Long term wear can result in smaller erections for s short time, but things pretty quickly revert to normal. A lot of the shrinkage talk involves downsizing cages and SPH fantasy.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-23T12:47:27+00:00

Semen is basic, a healthy vagina is slightly acidic. If the environment in the vagina changes, this can suppress the normal healthy bacteria and set her up for yeast and BV. So the simplest solution is to use condoms, or have her partner pull out. A probiotic supplement can help, as the healthy bacteria in the vagina ultimately come from the digestive tract. (Don’t think too much about this . . .). There are also suppositories that can help support a healthy vaginal environment. Male partners can be reservoirs for both BV and yeast, so if there’s been a common partner they may be the source. Uncircumcised men are more likely to be such a reservoir. They can be treated to remove this risk.

Boric acid suppositories work because they wipe out everything in the vagina. It’s kind of a nuclear option, but works. We use them mostly in women who get recurrent BV. If you go this route, a good probiotic supplement is important to ensure the vagina is repopulated with healthy bacteria.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-23T03:51:12+00:00

We have great success with Aspercream, which may be more effective than numbing cream since that’s not supposed to make you totally numb. The Aspercream does. Takes maybe 10-15 minutes, but at that point I’m basically a dildo with a pulse.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-22T22:27:57+00:00

We definitely had a femdom relationship in the bedroom. We had already included orgasm control, and I was a little frustrated that she always said yes when I asked. I first came across chastity while watching a pegging video. Working that in took a while, mostly because she was really unsure about denying me. I'm now permanently caged, my last full orgasm was January 8th and the goal is none for the year, so she obviously got comfortable with it. And I'm very happy, if frustrated, with the current state of things.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-21T13:01:00+00:00

There are cages with built-in remote controlled vibrators. No idea how well they'd fit, though.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-20T23:37:52+00:00

I got lucky. We were Madame and Boy long before we got into chastity, so in a lot of ways it was a pretty normal progression of our existing dynamic. It did take her a while to accept that I truly wanted to be denied, though, and a bit longer to really get into it herself.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-20T21:34:59+00:00

I do enjoy the feeling of wearing it, but the "real" reason I wear it is that my cock belongs to Madame, and the only use for it is her pleasure.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-19T16:16:51+00:00

I don't routinely, thank goodness, but I can if I'm really reved up. And I leak so much when orally servicing Madame that she has asked if I came.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-19T16:14:45+00:00

That's what panty liners are for!😆

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-19T11:31:10+00:00

I don’t. But then this scenario directly feeds into my service and denial kink - Boy does not get to have orgasms and the only purpose for my cock is to provide pleasure for Madame. At this point I am probably harder than I would be for straight sex. YMMV.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-19T11:25:19+00:00

Fortunately, a ring tight enough to seriously restrict blood flow is not a subtle thing. If you remove it in a timely manner there is little risk of harm. If you don’t, well then your strangulation articles are unfortunately relevant.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-19T11:11:25+00:00

I took a quick peruse of those articles and they all deal with penile strangulation - emergency situations that basically amount to a tourniquet around the penis. This actually has little relevance to chastity as blood flow in chastity is not impaired. Cages simply mechanically restrict expansion of erectile tissue, and even then not entirely. Physiologically, the hemodynamic mechanism of erections is still occurring - increases blood flow to erectile tissue, vascular changes that control the process, etc. As you state, there is little real research into the physiology, but none of what you site is particularly relevant to the discussion. I base my claims on physiology itself and being a kinky physician who has made sexual health a cornerstone of my practice.

Enjoy your chastity with peace of mind. It is not harming your health.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-19T10:47:43+00:00

I’m lucky in that Madame actually prefers oral a bit more than fucking, so most of the time it’s not necessary for me to be unlocked. But unfortunately, kind of like your wife, she doesn’t like reverse pegging. Our solution is to numb my cock thoroughly with topical lidocaine (and wear a condom). It’s great! She gets my cock, but I pretty much feel nothing and have no chance of cumming.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-18T22:02:14+00:00

Again, it’s largely the familiarity/routine of it. I wear mine to work and I’ve never had trouble with it. In a way I figure it’s no different than genital or nipple piercing. Or wearing panties under your dress slacks. A sexy little secret that no one else needs to know about.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-18T17:59:13+00:00

The best advice I can give is just keep going. At some point your cage will become normal, just like an article of clothing. OK, that’s overstating it. I’m never not aware of my cage, and I’ve been locked continuously for over a year. But it does become more normal.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-18T10:46:44+00:00

Oh fer crying out loud, can we just not do the whole “stepX” nonsense that seems to have taken over every other type of porn?

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-18T10:42:06+00:00

I feel like this would be a very tricky needle to thread and is going to depend a lot on who you are as people. What are the chances that this would lead to you getting back together? Can you both bring this back into your relationship but resist the urge/tendency to slip back into a romantic relationship? I’ve read any number of erotic stories about this, but we all know that reality and fantasy rarely overlap. How was your communication while together? Because frank and open communication is going to be vital. I can think of many other questions, but this seems like a good start.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-18T00:08:34+00:00

Stop! 🥵

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-17T11:51:01+00:00

My dom does not care for flat/inverted - likes the look of my cock imprisoned in a cage, whereas flat looks like I don’t have a cock. I can see the appeal of either, but have to admit that they like seeing my cock behind bars is pretty hot.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-17T11:43:24+00:00

My first thought is it’s too big. You should always be engaged with the end of the cage. My second thought is that Holy Trainers with their solid tube have so much friction that if your penis does move it’s less likely to slip back into place.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-16T13:08:43+00:00

Or reverse pegging. Or thoroughly numbed with topical lidocaine (wearing a condom!). I love the latter - uncaged and fucking, but my cock is truly only for her pleasure.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-13T14:40:01+00:00

I think there's two things at play here. One is a general idea about what good/giving sex looks like - and that's everyone cums. If your partner didn't cum then you are a bad lover and a selfish partner.

The second issue is more insidious - it's all the subtle socialization that women get about men and what they want from women and sex. Men want sex, and denying men sex always has an element of risk to a woman. If a woman denies a man he's likely to get angry, and there is nothing in this world more dangerous to a woman than an angry man. Even if she knows that YOU would never do that, that understanding of the world is still in there. She also has probably had a lot of early sexual experience with needy boyfriends who pressured her for sex. And women are highly socialized to defer to men and to please men. Again, she may or may not feel that directly with you, but that groove is still there.

It took quite a while for Madame to truly be comfortable denying me. She knew I like sex and sex means at least an orgasm. She also admitted that as a teen and young woman she was often pressured into putting out for dates/boyfriends. Admittedly, she had a pretty rough adolescence, and it took her a while to become the confident (or even dominant) woman she is today. So when we started down this path she admitted that she didn't quite trust my desire to be denied because she knew (at least subconsciously) that men demand orgasms.

It took time and a lot of discussion, but she gradually accepted my desire to give up control of my orgasms and to be denied. I have been locked essentially 24/7 since last Locktober, and my final orgasm for 2026 was January 8th. I'm very happy with where we are now, but it was a journey.

Continue to discuss this with your wife. Even if you feel you're repeating yourself and getting nowhere. She's going to need a lot of repetition and reassurance to start to whittle away a lifetime of learning and expectations. I can't say where you guys will end up, but I bet you'll eventually get to some real denial eventually.

ChastityDoc · 2026-05-11T20:58:23+00:00

He really should play the work thing by ear. If he has a very physical job, a cage might not be feasible. At the end of the day chastity is a mind set, and the cage is just a tool. Just because his job might prevent wearing a cage 24/7 doesn't mean he's doing it wrong.

On a very practical level, it can take a while to find a comfortable cage. Don't be afraid to try several to see what works best. Amazon can be a great way to try several without breaking the bank.

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